13 year old daughter missed two periods

Rebekah - posted on 02/28/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )

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ok ok i know what your thinking and NO she is not pregnant. she is a good girl and i no thats not the case. the reason why iam posting is to find out if other moms are going thru the same thing i am. so every month she gets her period with in the first week, but prior to the she get the worst cramps ever, i had to take her to the hospital one night because it was so bad and at the time we werent sure what was causeing the pain. what the doctor at the hospital said was she was ouvulating and her eggs got stuck while they were droping. iam going to be taking her to her regular dr. but i just wanted to know if anyone knows of this issue or has delt with it in some way???

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Nell - posted on 12/11/2013

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My daughter is 14 and she had her period for a year and a month, however for the last two months she hasn't had her period. She is not overweight or underweight and doesn't over exercise, what could it be?

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Your weight has alot to do with it. If athletic and small under 105 she will miss alot of periods

Candi - posted on 02/28/2011

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Sometimes it takes a year or two for a period to straighted out. She may have endometriosis or PCOS. The dr will prob tell you its perfectly normal and send you home, unless you have a really good DR. My period just straightened out this year, no kidding. I started when I was 16 and it has never been normal(except when I was on the pill)My Dr actually put me on the pill to help with mine. Hopefully her body will figure out when it wants to have a period and she will be ok. Good luck

Gladys - posted on 03/01/2011

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my daughter experience a similar case minus the cramps. the dr is also considering stress from school as one of the reason causing this. she sometimes would miss her period for a month.

Julie - posted on 03/06/2011

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Is she an athlete? My daughter is very active in sports. And in the off season, she's pretty regular but once the weight training and practices pick back up for softball, there have been times where she misses her period for 2 months back to back.....so for her, this is her normal.

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Taking her to the doctor is great they can diagnose what is going on and hopefully give you a resolution. I am thirty something ;) and I still have irregular periods. Late last year I missed 3 months again. I have spoken to my doctors both as a teen and a married woman and the doctors concur this is natural. They have offered birth control even back then but I have always shyed away from it because of personal reasons. As far a as cramps in my years I have had prescriptions twice and was told they are painful because the time lapse between periods.

Christina - posted on 03/20/2011

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My niece is going through problems too. They still are trying to figure hers out. REALLY bad cramps (on prescription pain killers) missed periods, periods that last 3-4 weeks. Take her to a GYN, they should not do an internal exam that young in less they are really concerned. With my niece they have tried several things. The GYN talked to her alone too (which my niece & sister were comfortable with) sometimes they are just too embarrassed or don't want to tell you even if it's not bad. My niece is have exploratory surgery (she's 16 1/2 yrs), they think she might have endometriosis (sp?), it runs in our family big time. Good luck and let us know how things go. Don't give up and remember if you don't like what the Dr says go to a different one!

Christy - posted on 03/14/2011

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My dd went through the mental, physical, and emotional rollercoaster of everything except the actual flow for 18 months before she started her actual menses. Then it was erratic and painful and heavy ...

We documented for three months, and then I took her to a Certified Nurse Midwife and we discussed what had been happening and showed her the notes that had been taken. The Midwife put my dd on a LOW DOSE birth control pill and it helped regulate everything. BUT, there were months that DD did not have the actual flow - but we were told up front that that might occur and not to worry about it.

My DD can now go to school and dance club and dance class and not worry about missing anything or leaking.

DD will be 15 in May. We did NOT really want to put her on the pill that early, but after long FAMILY discussion, yes DH was in on the decision, we as a family decided that it was the right thing to try. We are all glad we did.

The pill doesn't have the negative connotation it did when we were in school. "Oh, you are on the pill, then that means you are loose and I (stereotypical teenage boy) can have sex with you." Now it is just a medical thing ..."Oh, your cycle is bad. Ick. Don't want to know why it is bad."

Vickie - posted on 03/12/2011

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Take her to a good gyn, preferably female as they have a better understanding of womens bodies. She may have endometriosis & that could be cause of all the pain.

Melissa - posted on 03/09/2011

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Same here. My daughter is now 16 and still isn't regular depending on stress and how active she is sports. I was the same way and my periods didn't get regular until I had my first child.

Kate - posted on 03/09/2011

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I had the same thing happen at that age. Has she recently lost a lot of weight, or joined a new sports team, like trach or cross country? The reason I stopped getting mine was because I had joined track/cross country and lost too much weight.

Kristin - posted on 03/08/2011

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Wow, it sounds like she really needs you to be there for her through this. I think the gyn is necessary. I have heard of indometriosis, but don't know enough to help. I have heard stories of it making young life very difficult. Sounds like your on the right track. I will pray for you and your sweet daughter. Good luck.

Linda - posted on 03/08/2011

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My daughter got her period at 12 yrs old and a very light flow, she is now 15 and bleeds heavy for 7-8 days. Some periods she hardly gets any cramps and some days she is double over in pain. Her cycle is also very irregular. Ranges from 17 days to 33 days. !! After trying several prescriptions the Doctor now has her on Neproxin for the pain. Seems to work well, but all the same I have been told by other Mom's that Endometriosis may be a cause of the pain. I think seeing a Gynocologist is a good idea and will be making an appt. for my daughter to see one soon.

Kristin - posted on 03/08/2011

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Our doctor told us that the first year at least could be irregular. This is normal, but I don't know about the extreme pain thing, I would check in about that. Make sure your daughter's doctor is someone you trust to let her level out as naturally as possible.

Trisha - posted on 03/08/2011

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THe same thing happened to my daughter. She had cramps for about 6 months, then got her period for 2 months, and then it was gone for another 6 months or so. I am friends with gynecologists and it is completely normal! I dont know about your daughter but mine is tall and thin and that has alot to do with it. Dont stress! It will come on full force and the moods as well :)

Krystel - posted on 03/08/2011

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im 33 years old & my period has never been right. sometimes ill go 3 months with out having one. my daughter is 15 & hers is missed up too. now my step daughter is 14 & her dr put her on the pill because she has so much pain sometimes. Since shes been on the pills she dont have as much pain.

Kristi - posted on 03/08/2011

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The dr. told ups until she is 16 or 17 not to worry. My dd is 13 and she had one period and hasn't had another..... they said this can be normal...

Letitia - posted on 03/08/2011

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When I was a teen, I missed periods early on in my cycles, and later on when I was very skinny and active (early 20s) I went for about 2 years with no periods! I would definitely talk to her doctor and make sure there is nothing wrong, though. (probably not, but just so that you and she feel better).

Idella - posted on 03/07/2011

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I suggest you take her to an ob/gyn. Even good girls make mistakes. But as a mother i understand how you feel. My daughter was taking chemo and the made her take several pregnancy tests before I found out and put an end to that nonsense. She was a virgin and the gyn confirmed it as is my 18 year old. In my family we have female reproductive problems. My oldest started her period at nine. my 18 yr old at 13. I started at 12. We have never had regular cycles. I myself have gone 7 months without one before they put me on hormone therapy to bring it back on. 3 months later and 35lbs heavier i gave up. so at 39 in 6 months i will be in menapause. Now I had periods like your daughter. My bad cramps and haevy bleeding come from the birth control pills my mother put me on at age 12. I had a lot a scar tissue so much i was told i would never have kids. I gave birth to 4 and had one miscarriage. each pregnancy was worse than the one before. finally being told another would kill me I got my tubes tied at 28. try macafem. it worked great for me as far as my periods. theycame back , less flow, mild cramping ,shorted periods and every month i got one. I had to stop due to another condition i have called IC...simply holes in the bladder wall in which things i take into my body can cuase pain so bad it can pit me in bed for weeks. well good luck.

Ithica - posted on 03/07/2011

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Besides taking her 2 the Dr I would also document what she's been eating, any activities & duration of last cycle. This info will be helpful to you when the Dr is asking so many questions. I have pcos & having that is an issue in itself...I don't it on your daughter or any woman for that matter. It's great that you're being proactive. I wouldn't do the herbs until you after you see the Dr...even though it's natural...not a Rx still has an effect on your body and like others have mentioned she's still young w/ a developing body.

Jonette - posted on 03/06/2011

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GO talk to a good vitamin/herb store. NOT GNC... There are simple natural things that work, like red raspberry for difficult periods in teens....My daughter is 19 and ended up with an ovarian cyst just recently.... although she had her first one at 3.. go figure... so watch for that.. they are PAINFUL. I would get her into a ob/gyn if she is this miserable at 13 to see if they can do something to prevent her being miserable for the next 30 years. Best of luck.

Shawnn - posted on 03/02/2011

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At 13, she isn't even regular yet. There will be months that she has no flow at all, months where she gets the killer cramps and nothing else, and months that she may think she's going to flow forever. Main thing is to get her into the regular doc for something for the cramps, so that she can function.

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