June - posted on 10/04/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
Son been hanging out with new kid. He mentioned new kid in a drug education type class. My son has history and has also been in this class a few months back. New kid is driving and has been giving my son rides. My husband and I were talking not knowing son is listening in. We said son no longer allowed to hang out with new kid. My son listening in said mom, F you, you are a fn bitch. So I then shut phone down without anger (I have learned something from you all). We had long talk, actually me talking and him listening. I told him he crossed line with saying F word. He is very hurt and was tearing up about being cut off from this kid. I said I understand and that I also would not want other parents to not let their kid hang out with my son because of what he did in past and doing a drug education class. I said in fact I am proud that my son and this new kid making effort to complete class. My son's class was pretty intensive like the TV show Scared Straight. H e said he was sorry and that he has been doing good with grades and doing things right. At this point I'm just happy it's not escalating to complete yelling like in the old days. He probably just wants his phone back. I said I'd like to get to know the new kid better and to bring him around the house. Any advice out there? Being called names is clearly wrong, but perhaps we shouldn't so quickly judge other kids without meeting them. Please help.