Andrea - posted on 03/08/2017 ( 6 moms have responded )
My daughter is 15 yrs old. Her boyfriend is 16. She is pregnant and is keeping the baby. We have been supportive of her decisions in regards to her pregnancy and her future ambitions. She has made many good choices since finding out she was pregnant. She came to us as soon as she found out. She made a plan with em to get medical care and how to handle school. I have supported every decision along the way, while giving advice to help her male her decisions. However her most recent choice is that she wants the father of the baby to move in with us. He is a good kid, but comes from a very unsupportive home. His mother has not had any interest it asking about the pregnancy or any thoughts about how things should be handled. He has not been living with her for sometime, crashing on friends couches instead. It bothers me that his mom does not care enough about him not coming home. I have stepped in and helped him with schooling because he was in danger of becoming a drop out. He is here all the time, when school is out or he is not at work, but I send him packing every night. It is unfortunate that when I send him away he isn't going to a loving supportive home. My husband is very adamant that he will not live with us, but I can also see my daughters point of view. She wants her baby to bond with the dad and she wants the dad to bear the burden of taking care of the baby as well. Does anyone have experience with this? How did you handle it? What would you have done differently?