16 year old says she doesn't believe in god

Donna - posted on 10/07/2009 ( 49 moms have responded )

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Hi, my 16 yr old daughter says she doesn't believe in God. Any advice on how to handle this situation.

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Stephanie - posted on 04/02/2011

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I teach in a Christian school (K-8th) and have for many years. This is a common statement made by children, often during times when they are struggling with life's ups and downs. It is actually a sign of maturity, independence and intelligence. I’m certain that you wouldn't want your grown(ing) child to accept everything that people tell them as truth, especially in regards to the advice received from peers.

They should question and search independently to learn about everything, especially their spiritual path of choice. It takes life experience to feel God and know that He is working in your life. Children simply don't have enough life experience yet, to know that God exists for sure. Although, often times, they are only rebelling a bit and trying to get a reaction from you. I often reply with a simple, "Well He believes in you" and leave it at that.

On the other hand, religious choices are personal and most children with Christian backgrounds often come back to the Christian values. And if not, as Christians, we must accept and love all people (even our children) as they are and "judge not" the choices that they make.

Kaitlyn - posted on 06/08/2013

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I myself do not believe in God and I find that a lot of people are against this, so you should just support your daughter in what she wants to believe.

Heather - posted on 10/15/2009

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As I was reading these posts I came to a point where I just had to stop because they hurt my heart so badly. Although there are many things I am tempted to say... I'll just say this... the Bible reads that even Satan himself believes in God.

Pray for your daughter Donna - pray without ceasing. When she is sleeping, go in and pray over her. Leave a Bible on her bed with scriptures marked that you believe might help her. She might be resistant at first, but don't let her fool you - she WILL eventually open that Bible and read what you've marked (I know this from experience with my own). You do not have to FORCE God on her - God does not force himself on us... he gives us a choice but wants us to chose to know and to love him. Pray for your daughter and for God's guidance on how to handle this situation.

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Ask her "Why", but don't get upset at her answer. Then ease your way into a slight low key conversation about some of your life experiences and your faith. I just went through this very statement with my 18 year old 2 weeks ago. He said to me "I don't believe because I can't see him and I don't know anyone who has". Ver common answer with teens. Short story for ya....I just read this yesterday,



A man goes to his Barber sits in the chair, they procede to converse about anything and everything. Then they fell on the subject of religion, the Barber says "I don't believe God exists" to his customer, who is a man with great faith. The customer asks "Why would you say that?" without wanting to start an arguement. The Barber replies, "If there was a God, then we would not have sickness, poverty, war, and hate. We wouldn't have homelessness, murder, and rape." The customer sat in disbelief without responding. He stood up and paid his fee and left the shop. Out on the street he sees a homeless man in dirty tattered clothing, just unkempt. The customer walks back into the barbers shop and states, "I don't believe Barbers exist" The Barber, shocked says "What, you were just here, I just cut your hair" The customer says, "I don't believe barbers exist because there are so many people that are unshaven and with unkempt hair" he Barber chuckles and says "Well, they just have to find their way to me, into my shop" The customer says "Well, why don't you go tell it to the homeless man on the street outside your shop"

Kim - posted on 10/15/2009

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When young teens test the parent with a different point of view, they are just flexing there wings,she may be trying to challange, or just see if you are going to react, Hug her and tell her God loves her even if she dosent know him yet, there will be a time in everyones life when we desire to know him. And the longer we put it off the stronger that hole is that cannot be filled whith anything but HIM. Pray and continue to Love!

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Alyssa - posted on 06/16/2014

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Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, if your daughter doesn't believe in God that is her choice. You cannot find someones faith for them, you can guide them in what you think is right but you cannot make them practice something they don't believe. Let her alone, she will probably not recant her position on the subject.

The Real - posted on 03/18/2014

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God is not real all of you are blind by what a group of men wrote to get and wealth you stupid followers this is what has cripple society and we can change it back cause of stupid diversion by religion and people.


slave owners beloved in god but they had slaves you stupid white people always thinking your better than everyone

Mary - posted on 10/17/2013

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I am also struggling with this...we raised our children to go to church, they were baptized and confirmed. Last weekend my 32 year old son said he doesn't believe. I am crushed. I've cried and cried. All I can think of is he will not be with all of us in eternity. I am praying and praying that the Holy Spirit will work in his heart and help him to believe.

April - posted on 10/13/2013

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I just found out tonight my child has been telling people she is atheist. All I could do was cry and tell her that God loves her and how when my sister was sick at 4yrs old and the Dr told my parents she wasn't going to make it through the night my father hit his knees and prayed. Tears still streaming down my face my sister is now 32 with two beautiful girls all because my dad prayed to our loving God.

Beth - posted on 05/03/2011

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My daughter did this at about the same age. It lasted about 6 months, until she got the crap scared out of her and found that prayer seemed to really help!

We've always raised her to be Christian, but to respect all faiths. I simply told her to find her own religion, whatever worked for her and we would respect it. She's right back in our church, Bible study and all, and attends regularly at her university. Don't take it too seriously, it seems like a phase most of them go through.

Danielle - posted on 05/03/2011

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Be respectful that she has her own beliefs and i wouldn't recommend "thumping about it" either. Just because someone is not Christian does not mean they do not have have a strong sense of morality, goals or ambition.
I am an atheist myself as is my hubby. We did not have own son baptised either. We do not have the right to instill spiritual restrictions on our child however should he feel he want to be a part of some type of reigious group - that is his decision. We only hope he knows exactly what he is getting into with it.

Annette - posted on 04/10/2011

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unfortunatly we cant make anybody believe in anything they dont want to. but what you can do is let her know what your beliefs are. and let her know that what ever she chooses will be ok with you. my brother didnt believe in god until my father was stricken with brain cancer. then he believed. sometimes you just have to come to terms with yourself. i believe that god made me the way that i am and when i die he will look at me and all of my flaws and accept me anyway.

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Quoting Diana:

I just recently had this conversation with my son. He also said he does not believe in God. I believe in God, and Jesus Christ, so I took this kind of hard. Some of the moms seem to have a strong opinion on this...and I respect everyone's beliefs. I am entitled to my own beliefs, also. As far as my son is concerned, I just asked him why he felt that way, and the answer was that "It doesn't make any sense, it is something I don't see, or haven't seen, so I don't believe in it". I told him my reasons for believing, and going to church, and that it was my opinion. I decided, ultimately that battling him will get me absolutely nowhere. I feel that he needs to find his way. I hope that he will find his way to God. He is a very good kid, he does not get straight A's, and struggles greatly in school. He has a learning disability, and low-self esteem. I guess my only advice is to just be there for her, and communicate regularly with her. Tell her that she is entitled to her opinion, but also educate her on what you know about your own religion and beliefs, so she can make an informed decision.


My sentiments exactly! My son doesn't believe in God because to him God is intangible and invisible, therefore, He doesn't exist! But, he respects my faith and my belief. I hope that someday, he'll find his own, not because it's a religion, but because it's what you live it to be.

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Quoting Diana:

I just recently had this conversation with my son. He also said he does not believe in God. I believe in God, and Jesus Christ, so I took this kind of hard. Some of the moms seem to have a strong opinion on this...and I respect everyone's beliefs. I am entitled to my own beliefs, also. As far as my son is concerned, I just asked him why he felt that way, and the answer was that "It doesn't make any sense, it is something I don't see, or haven't seen, so I don't believe in it". I told him my reasons for believing, and going to church, and that it was my opinion. I decided, ultimately that battling him will get me absolutely nowhere. I feel that he needs to find his way. I hope that he will find his way to God. He is a very good kid, he does not get straight A's, and struggles greatly in school. He has a learning disability, and low-self esteem. I guess my only advice is to just be there for her, and communicate regularly with her. Tell her that she is entitled to her opinion, but also educate her on what you know about your own religion and beliefs, so she can make an informed decision.


Great advice.. I couldnt have said that any better !!!!! I think communication is the absolute most important thing with teenagers....

Diana - posted on 10/14/2009

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I just recently had this conversation with my son. He also said he does not believe in God. I believe in God, and Jesus Christ, so I took this kind of hard. Some of the moms seem to have a strong opinion on this...and I respect everyone's beliefs. I am entitled to my own beliefs, also. As far as my son is concerned, I just asked him why he felt that way, and the answer was that "It doesn't make any sense, it is something I don't see, or haven't seen, so I don't believe in it". I told him my reasons for believing, and going to church, and that it was my opinion. I decided, ultimately that battling him will get me absolutely nowhere. I feel that he needs to find his way. I hope that he will find his way to God. He is a very good kid, he does not get straight A's, and struggles greatly in school. He has a learning disability, and low-self esteem. I guess my only advice is to just be there for her, and communicate regularly with her. Tell her that she is entitled to her opinion, but also educate her on what you know about your own religion and beliefs, so she can make an informed decision.

Shelly - posted on 10/14/2009

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Donna,

Don't freak out about it. Let her know that it breaks your heart to hear her say that and then ask her what she does believe in and don't be critical about her belief just be prepare to go on the internet with her and check out her beliefs together. And then ask her if she would be willing to explore the possibility that thier is a God. I will keep you and your daughter in my prayers

Shelby - posted on 10/14/2009

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Quoting tammy:

why doesnt she believe in god? do u believe in god as a faimly? i would sit down with her and find out why she doesn believe, did something she prayed for not happen so she is against god now? plant those good thoughts in her head and hope she changes her mind, there has to be a reason for this thou, gl ma


I was raised with going to church at least 2-3 times a week and prayer in the home and all that. When I was in high school- I took a mythology class and started to question the whole "religion" thing because so many of the stories have similarities and whatnot.  I also started to see how the church seemed to be more about having people give money to them than actually DOING helpful things for people...and I saw how my mother seemed to use God as...a crutch-or reason for everything. She got a job...it's because God did it for her through prayer...it seemed she couldnt take credit for anything she always gave it to God and that made me kind of sad that she couldnt take the credit herself...If something bad happened it was said that he was "testing her faith" .  I think it's good to question things and not just believe them because someone else tells you that you should. like I said before-this is why I encourage my kids to learn of other religious beliefs and whatnot and decide what workd best for them. I will NOT push a belief on them like my parents did to me. *They thought it was the most HORRIBLE thing I could do when I took that mythology class

Tammy - posted on 10/14/2009

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why doesnt she believe in god? do u believe in god as a faimly? i would sit down with her and find out why she doesn believe, did something she prayed for not happen so she is against god now? plant those good thoughts in her head and hope she changes her mind, there has to be a reason for this thou, gl mama

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Quoting Patty:
Our children ARE NOT DOOMED if they choose not to believe in god.. omg ...thats a horrible comparison ......


Quoting Nichole :

Hello , well if she doesnt that is her choice to make , my son doesnt and well he is his own person , im not gonna force god into his life . that is his choice to make in life . I wouldnt force religon on a child let them make that choice for themselves .






Ok Nicole so if your 16 yr old came to you and says "I want to use your car Mom, I want to go to the store." Knowing full well he has no instruction or experience. I take it you would give him the keys? He has only seen you drive. No drivers ed. That is insane, it is our job to give these children information to help them make the choices in life to help them be productive responsible adults. Look around you at what is going on in this world today with the your way of FREE THINKING for children we are destined for failure no doubt.






 






Donna show your daughter what is there for her in the ways of a God, which ever religion. It will only help her to be the adult she is meant to be.





 

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My son is 19 and a few months ago told me he was an athiest... I was shocked and at first tried to explain that every tree he looks at .. and the ocean he swims in and the birds that sit out side his window is all god..and nothing more... I have always talked about god ..said our bedtime prayers ... gone to church..... although i do not attend church i do read my bible.. and i do share things with my son... but for whatever reason he just wont budge... i guess there isnt anything i can do about it...I would love advice too. but know that your not alone....... and im hoping my son is just going thru a phase.. whatever chance i get i talk to him about it... i dont push it... but i talk...Revelation is an interesting subject that seems to get his attention...good luck!!!

Angela - posted on 10/13/2009

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For some reason people have given God a bad reputation. The truth of the matter is he loves us and wants us to be happy sucssesfull and forfilled. All the confusion comes into play when religion comes in.If you focus on the good and the love instead of the negative with your daughter she will want to learn more. Better no that you that you no that you no intead of listening to the world because the world will always lead you astray. Focus on the love that Jesus has for us ALL no some but us ALL.

Shelby - posted on 10/13/2009

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Ultimately does it matter if someone believes in "God"? I mean quite honestly many "christian" people I know are selfish and only want to make others into believers. I try to help others because I WANT to -not because a "God" tells me I should. We have not taken our kids to church. If they ever want to go- it's fine. I encourage them to research diferent beliefs and religions and decide for themselves what to believe. So far my daughter is a wonderful, caring girl who gets great grades and treats people with respect and in the end I think THAT'S the most important thing.

* my mother prays for us every day by the way...for some reason her and her new husband feel that if you don't walk into a church and have someone tell you that you will "go to hell" for not being moral or whatever then you can't possibly know how to be moral on your own. How very sad...because it has driven me away even more...

Maria - posted on 10/13/2009

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Believe me, I know exactly how you feel, Donna. My 17 yo, has decided that he doesn't believe in God, and it doesn't help any that one of his closest friends is an affirmed atheist. I still try though. I haven't given up on him. I always believe that God works in mysterious ways. I just can't hand over my son, realizing that he may just be going through a phase. Similar to what I've gone through. He may just be questioning his faith right now. He may not realize it, but one day, someday, he'll need God's help one way or another. I'll just have to keep reminding him that.

Zita - posted on 10/13/2009

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WE are ultimately responsible before GOD for the upbringing of a gift(your child,children) that he blessed us to have. So to leave them to their devices and resources which are limited would be insane.Our children listen to us more than we give them credit for,and 16yrs of age is a crucial point in young girls live. Dont just let it go in the hopes she will grow out of it ! Thats like throwing your hands up.Get involved be creative to get HER attention,if you believe in GOD he will definitely give u some ideas, He gave them to me and they worked.Its it very easy for young people to be miss guided when GOD is not in their life.Stay focused on her you dont want to be the parent that says "I could,or should have done something different." do all you can with GOD'S help of course! like i said before GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Zita - posted on 10/13/2009

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Hello, Donna first let me say our children are introduced to so many things out of our control.That influence their thoughts,and reasoning.I cant say my 18yr old felt the same way,but she was unsure of who God was,and if if he really existed.So just in casual conversation i started asking little things to make her think.Basic Adam and Eve,did she know of any man who,she ever heard of that could make a,sky on pretty days even rainy ones,anyone who could make the ocean ,mountains etc... this went on for days,then we went to Barnes and Nobles had Starbucks,i was there prior picking out the books wanted her to read.(1)It was 100 answers to 100 questions every graduate should know(Lila Empson) her and her friends did the entire book i reviewed.I was pretty awesome to see them all at home safe doing something constructive.(2)A Woman and Her God, but this time i let her think this was a"gurls day out"anyway i couldnt get her to read for anything on her on,So we started reading a little of the each night she would read 3,or 4 pagers and i did the same even when i was (a new kind of tired from working 16hr shifts) we'd fall asleep in her bed.(3) A friends son was going through similar issues so she give me A Separate Peace (John Knowles)It worked ! we go to barnes and nobles once every 2 wks,or so.Just to read new spiritual books some time not so spiritual.Teenager get so caught up with friends and things they miss alot and become afraid of what they dont know.We just have to take them back to square one somtimes.Sorry its so long ! Hope this helps you,MOM of teenager GOOD LUCK

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you know..when I was 16 I declared myself an atheist..why? Not because I didn't believe in God, I did it just to tick my mom off..and it worked!

My advice is to do nothing..

LeKisa - posted on 10/12/2009

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Donna, just continue to talk with her. Maybe ask her questions like how does she think the earth, animals, sun, moon, and trees where formed (even the first man/woman). Don't try to force anything on her but maybe point out some of the MANY blessings she receive daily. Keep showing her love and communicating with her.

Jen - posted on 10/12/2009

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I have a 16 year old daughter and i dont think she believes in anything other than her cell phone and that money grows on trees. She will find god when it is time. Believer in her.

Michelle - posted on 10/12/2009

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I have a son who is 19, he says that he don't believe in God either. I guess I have choose to let him have his right in what he believes in.
My grandmother, who is 90 yrs. old lives with our family. Last December she suffered a stroke. I was right there while she was having it as well as my Husband and Son. I called 911 and after I hung up and we waited for the ambulance, I looked at them both and said "all we can do is PRAY TO GOD" that she will pull out of this. God answered our PRAYERS, she pulled out of it fine. When I got home from the hospital I went in his room and gave him the update and asked if he had talked to God. To my surprise he said that he did. I think we all have doubts of different things and I think that when we talk about God, he is the easiest to say they don't believe, but will one day sooner or later realize he is very much real.

Beth - posted on 10/11/2009

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let it be...they find thier way....they don't believe in parents sometimes either....but we're here!

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Kids are stripped of so many things. From birth we as parents lie to our children about Santa,the tooth fairy,Easter bunny and so on. I would talk to her about having Faith in a higher power than man kind. No one can ever tell you your faith is not real.

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Quoting Nichole :

umm patty i dont think ill let my child drive w/o instructions thats just insane ... and for the way i think about FREE THINKIING like i said im not gonna force religion on my child ! it is his choice wether he wants to believe in god or not . he has been to church several occactions , and to sunday school , my child right now is in high school , and in the Airforce rotc he is in honors classes and is setting at an a/b average in grades . i dont think not having god in his life is effecting him in anyways , thats the choice he made and im not gonna JUDGE him for that !!!!!!!!


No one said to force religion, Obviously, you can't force something when their parents are living by example. You can have God in your life without going to church. I personally don't believe in organized religion. Our personal achievements are a result of something greater than us, If you think your child has accomplished what he has on his own then maybe this conversation should be geared more to you than the Free choice you think you are giving your son. Do you think when your son is preparing to take a test he doesn't have a word with God before he starts? Does he plan on taking the JROTC anywhere? My son did after 4 yearsof JROTC, he just came home from Iraq in June, he has been in for 3 years. Regardless of his beliefs, the soldiers pray. Pilots pray before they fly, Grunts pray before a mission, Squids pray everytime they sail. This is what they were taught in childhood. Whether you start it as an "I wish" "I hope" or it is just a "Cross your finger" God hears all prayers.



All these accomplishments your son has achieved are wonderful, but have you taught him to do for others? If you don't give your child something to believe in he will just wander. It is not forcing, it's educating. These kids are given to us to teach and assist to become honorable, productive, caring adults.  

Adella - posted on 10/11/2009

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I'm 39 years old and still struggling with this question. I believe in God, but the rest of it I question. Especially Christians. I've had nothing but bad experiences with them. In fact I view christians as very evil people. I have my reasons. They have never showed me the side that they should have, instead, they have shown me, greed, guilt, anger, hate & sexual desire.
My kids have attended church. I will leave it up to them to figure out what they want, but I am not only exposing them to Christianity, I wll open the door and let them explore all faiths & religions.
I believe God is out there and how you reach him is your own personal choice. We have to guide our children. Help them along the way. But I will not force any one belief on them, as I myself do not have the answers.
My kids are giving, loving, patient kind kids. You don't have to be a christian to have those qualities. Trust me, any christian I've ever met doesn't.

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Quoting Milagros:

Donna seemed concerned that her son ddin't believe in God. We all have free will and many opinions. no one is pushing anything i simply responded with an answer from personal experience just like all of you did.The rest is up to Donna Good Luck donna.






i totally agree with you milagros , im concerned also about my child not belleiving also but i cant make him do something he isnt interested in . and what patty said i think was a bit judgemental , thinking because im a FREE THINKER that my children wouldnt make it in the world . Well  i  beg to differ on that one . i dont think beleiving or not beleiving will make a better or bad person at all ! that is who you are and ppl shouldnt judge period no matter what !!!!





" i dont think beleiving or not beleiving will make a better or bad person at all ! that is who you are and ppl shouldnt judge period no matter what !!!!"



Here-Here!  I couldn't have said it better.

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As horrible as I may sound there are worse things going on with today's youth than not believing in God. It sounds to me like she is rebeling. I would suggest that you allow her the freedom to experience other faiths and religions, maybe she has questions about her own faith and just needs to talk to a church elder, be that a Priest, Preacher, whoever just someone who will not judge her. Be supportive of her decision and know that she will probably come back to the Christian faith on her own accord as she gets older. If you attempt to force her to believe the same as you, you could end up pushing her further away. My husband is an Aethist and would give you the shirt off his back if you needed it. My oldest son is a Christian, my daughter follows me in the Pagan path and my youngest son is Agnostic. Both of my non-Christian children are kind, thoughtful and respectful of others (maybe not mom but outside of the imediate family anyway) Hang in there and support her.

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Quoting Milagros:

Donna seemed concerned that her son ddin't believe in God. We all have free will and many opinions. no one is pushing anything i simply responded with an answer from personal experience just like all of you did.The rest is up to Donna Good Luck donna.



i totally agree with you milagros , im concerned also about my child not belleiving also but i cant make him do something he isnt interested in . and what patty said i think was a bit judgemental , thinking because im a FREE THINKER that my children wouldnt make it in the world . Well  i  beg to differ on that one . i dont think beleiving or not beleiving will make a better or bad person at all ! that is who you are and ppl shouldnt judge period no matter what !!!!

Milagros - posted on 10/09/2009

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Donna seemed concerned that her son ddin't believe in God. We all have free will and many opinions. no one is pushing anything i simply responded with an answer from personal experience just like all of you did.The rest is up to Donna Good Luck donna.

Nichole - posted on 10/09/2009

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umm patty i dont think ill let my child drive w/o instructions thats just insane ... and for the way i think about FREE THINKIING like i said im not gonna force religion on my child ! it is his choice wether he wants to believe in god or not . he has been to church several occactions , and to sunday school , my child right now is in high school , and in the Airforce rotc he is in honors classes and is setting at an a/b average in grades . i dont think not having god in his life is effecting him in anyways , thats the choice he made and im not gonna JUDGE him for that !!!!!!!!

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Quoting Nichole :

Hello , well if she doesnt that is her choice to make , my son doesnt and well he is his own person , im not gonna force god into his life . that is his choice to make in life . I wouldnt force religon on a child let them make that choice for themselves .



Ok Nicole so if your 16 yr old came to you and says "I want to use your car Mom, I want to go to the store." Knowing full well he has no instruction or experience. I take it you would give him the keys? He has only seen you drive. No drivers ed. That is insane, it is our job to give these children information to help them make the choices in life to help them be productive responsible adults. Look around you at what is going on in this world today with the your way of FREE THINKING for children we are destined for failure no doubt.



 



Donna show your daughter what is there for her in the ways of a God, which ever religion. It will only help her to be the adult she is meant to be.

Nichole - posted on 10/09/2009

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Hello , well if she doesnt that is her choice to make , my son doesnt and well he is his own person , im not gonna force god into his life . that is his choice to make in life . I wouldnt force religon on a child let them make that choice for themselves .

Selina - posted on 10/08/2009

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I would have to agree with the post on here. I, myself, am not an atheist, but don't believe in "God". My children however go to church and believe in Him. I was brought up in church, but later formed my own opinion. Believing in one god is ultimately a personal decision that everyone has to make on their own. Just be there for her and support her decision whatever that may be.

Milagros - posted on 10/08/2009

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Hi Donna I'm Millie I have a 15 year old and about 6 months ago he came and told me that he didn't believe in God. He gave me arguements about different religions and different religious beliefs..I told him that he shouldn't get himself confused with religious rules and that he should read the bible and stick to the 10 commandments..Then, being a believer i prayed for him that God would show up in his life in an undeniable way and long story short i still can't get him to church but he prays every morning and every night before bed. He had some testimony and I told him that the Lord was showing up in his life because i had asked..Now he believes in God and is more open to the concept of Blessings. Good Luck..i hope things work out with your son.

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my daughter told me the same thing when she was 14 or 15 and it was a total shock since i brought her up in church but she said she didn't believe in heaven or hell and she started refusing to go to church anymore, i just left it alone and told her she can believe what she wants to for now and later in life her mind will be changed and now that she is expecting her first child at 19 her attitude has changed so i wouldn't worry so much about it at this time cause they are gonna talk and experiment to find their own self and we have to give them space and time to find out who they really are. good luck

Angie - posted on 10/07/2009

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Has your family always spoken openly about God in your home? If you haven't, all you can do is create a Godly environment in your home now. You will plant the seed and she may not believe in God today, but she will later.....

Kerry - posted on 10/07/2009

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Let her know that, while you don't agree with her, that you will support her in this. Teenagers and young adults tend to be very idealistic and want to also express their own opinions and thoughts about things that, when they were younger, were chosen by their parents. She might be going through a phase and looking for your reaction as well.



I would sit her down and talk to her about why she came to that conclusion. Is there a friend who is an Atheist that is talking to her or has she become more interested in science and that is contributing to her leaning this way? You might want to look up and print out for her the difference between believing in no God (Atheism) versus believing that there is a force or spirit out there but not exactly sure she wants to call it God (agnostic) and then support her while she figures this out.



In the end she might decide that Atheism is for her and, while this might be disheartening for you, you should tell her you love and support her views but they are not your own. If church is a huge part of your life, then perhaps you can say that while you understand her views she is to still attend church with you. If you are ok with her scaling back on church or its not a big part of your life then I would recommend letting her find her way, regardless of where that might lead.



My son at 16, he's now 20, was an anarchist and he grew out of that phase. He understands now why there is a need for social laws and government and I just let him have his phase, even if i didn't agree with it.



Listen to her as well and keep the lines of communication open without trying to brow beat her into believing in God because that will only backfire in the long run. Shes at an age where personal freedom is very important and this is probably just one of those things where she is trying to spread her wings and also testing to see how you will take it.

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