Evie - posted on 03/03/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )
My 17 yr old son is failing in 3 subjects at school. He was also struggling with some subjects last year. We provided him with tuition last year which I thought was a waste of money. He managed to pass the subject though but the tuition did not make him get an A. This year, we are not able to pay for tuition. His teachers are not that helpful and his school counselor is hopeless. Supposedly, if you get an F in a subject, it is mandatory to go to study time during the school day. I find that the teachers or counselors do not really reinforce that and do not really monitor your child attending these study times. Even when he does, the teacher does not really sit one on one to try to help him. I feel very helpless as to what to do to help him improve his grades. And I do not really want to email the teachers or his counselor as it does not produce any results. At the beginning of this year, he has been diagnosed as having a mild to severe depression (chemical) and he is seeing a professional counselor and a psychiatrist. He is on Abilify but he doesn't think he has improved although I do notice that he is more caring and does things that he wouldn't normally do. It's been almost 4 weeks since he's been taking the medication and the dosage has been increased slightly since last week. Last year my husband and I were very upset about his grades and we have talked to him many times. We are at a point where we do not want to push him too much especially with him being depressed. I think he knows his responsibility for his education and feels the pressure. Whether he is doing his best, I am not sure. Right now, we think that whatever happens, happens. If he is not meant to have good grades and get into a good college, so be it. I would greatly appreciate some advice on this.