Carolyn - posted on 03/31/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )
My husband and I are so totally lost. What a wonderful family we had, or so we thought. Our 18 year old son is having terrible, terrible issues. This has been going on for a few years now but has definitely hit an all time low. He's been smoking pot, was caught with Pot, is on probation for a year, so now he's been smoking that synthetic marijuana, which we know is WAY worse than pot. He's seeing a psychiatrist that does nothing but prescribe him pills. He's on Vyvance for ADD, Paxil for anxiety and panic and Klonopin also for anxiety. The Paxil I believe could really help him but it's not 'fast' enough so he just decided to stop taking it. The Klonopin I HATE as I feel it's very addictive. He's been having HORRIBLE episodes, screaming, cussing us out, trying to 'prove' to us that he has to have his Klonopin. Before Klonopin, he never did that. He has always had anxiety, I do know that. Had night terrors for YEARS and never outgrew them, hence the Paxil which was prescribed back in December. He's 18 so there's little we can do. We've threatened to kick him out or at least to stay with his grandparents for a while, they actually want him there, but he won't do it. So he cuts himself for attention or is he really suicidal? Who knows, he won't say. Does all this up front so we can see everything though. He was out all night again last night. I told him he had to call if he was staying with his friend. He did not. He has no cell phone because I had that cut off. Felt he was making some 'deals' with his phone so that was a goner. He's lost driving privilege and is failing every single class in school. He's a senior but there's no way he'll graduate and no way he'd graduate even if he went to summer school all summer long, he's gotten that behind. We are/were, the closest family I knew of and he was the sweetest most adorable little boy. Things started slowly going downhill when he was 15. Dropped all his old friends (first red flag) and now I can't stand ANY of the kids he hangs with. All druggies IMO. I've even mailed a letter to one of the kids parents about their synthetic pot use. I've so had it I can't stand it. When he had a terrible episode yesterday my husband wanted to call 911 and we probably should do that to get him into a mental facility but if he's 18 and refuses treatment, I don't know if we could do this short of having him arrested. He's actually on probation because he was caught with Pot so he knows he'll be tested but supposedly this synthetic $#!+ doesn't come up in a drug test. It's now banned and off the shelves and I PRAY they come up with something that will detect that in a test. I want my precious boy back. I want help for him so badly, what do I do?