2 Teenage daughters
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Amy - posted on 01/01/2010
Both of my daughters, whom are now 13 and 14, were the sweetest girls and got along great...until they turned 12 and 13 then all of a sudden...bam! No longer got along and had MAJOR attitudes with EVERYONE! It's like the hormone fairy came over night and possessed both of them. It's a definite challenge in dealing with both of their tudes, but I take it one incident at a time (and it's all the time). I do make sure to keep my voice down, no matter how loud and obnoxious they get, because I know I am very confrontational myself, and in the past, I've said some very hurtful things to them in anger, but I am trying to remember that I went this thing, too, and just try to keep calm, talk them through it, and ask if they know how they're sounding and making others feel...some times it does work, some times it doesn't and I just let them have their attitudes, but if they get really disrespectful, they either lose their cellphone, or are just ground from everything for a period of time. Lord knows I have a lot to learn about dealing with them but I do try my best, and I feel they're really good girls, it's just the evil hormones that are making them into someone I don't like sometimes. It'll pass..just take it a minute at a time, maintain your composure at all times, and try to talk them through it.
Susan - posted on 11/26/2009
Yes I think attitude is just part of the teenage years. Some more so than others. But express and vent with each other but stick to your beliefs and after some hard lessons they usually learn. I think we were all that way to some degree. The more you are like each other in personality the harder it is sometimes.
Teenagers/attitude...I think the two go hand in hand! I've had a bit of experience...My eldest daughter who is almost 20 had major attitude at 15/16. She left home (at nearly 17) after an arguement with my partner about doing the washing up! She didn't like him & so decided to move in with her Dad which didn't work out either. To cut a long story short it all turned out for the best. She had to learn a few hard lessons but somewhere along her jouney she's turned into the loveliest young woman I know. We are now the best of friends!
My youngest daughter (now nearly 16) is another story but I've always known she would be more troublesome than her sister. Teenagers are hard work...try to maintain a consistent approach and let them know you love them...they'll eventually grow out of it! I don't think I was a bad teenager but I have more respect for my elders and it's not that we haven't taught our children respect it's just that society doesn't command the same respect it did back then. I wouldn't have dared speak to my mother the way my youngest daughter speaks to me!
It helps to talk to friends in similar situations. I have a very dear friend who has helped me through the tough times and I have helped her as well. As parents we instinctively know what to do we just lose our way with them sometimes and feel a bit lost. Good luck, Toni (firstname.lastname@example.org)
Lydia - posted on 11/26/2009
sometimes it's a stage when my daughters act out with me I just say it mean it and walk away and go on with my business!! when i come back home they are changed telling me i am sorry or i would write them a letter just express your self what and how you are feeling about their attitudes if not then counciling would be the next step trust me it helps me!!!!
Fiona - posted on 11/15/2008
Hi I have a 17 yr old daughter, who was a sweet innocent girl until about 1 yr ago. That's when her attitude changed and she also got a boyfriend who I disapprove of. I believe he is the one that changed her along with the friends she started to hang out with at school. Not very respectful kids and I was always arguing with my daughter about not being able to do the things her friends were. I can't be certain that her choice of friends and boyfriend is the reason why she changed but it is still a battle between us. The only advice I could give would be to try not to let go of the bond that you have with them and stick with what you believe in to be in the best interest for your girls. One day they will realise that you were only looking out for them. Fiona
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