Mvcamom - posted on 02/07/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )
I am at my wits end dealing with my 12 yr old daughter. She is the oldest & I have 2 sons, a 4 yr old & 3 week old (Preemie born 5 weeks early). Her biological dad & I split when I was pregnant with her & he has never been a part of her life. My fiance has been an amazing father to her & doesn't tell anyone she is not really his daughter. I am a stay at home mom and he is currently in the fire academy. Cause of his schedule he stays at his parents sun-thurs to be closer to school. So I am home with the kids on my own most of the week.
My daughter is a straight a student and I never have a problem getting her to do homework. Her problems mostly have to do with her lying and stealing. Most of her lies are pathetic and so not worth the effort. She lies about whether she did her chores,brushing her teeth, washing her hair,and conversations that she has with friends. Like yesterday I picked her up from school & she tells me her friend "K" asked if she could borrow my daughter's p.e. clothes cause someone put a lock on her locker & K couldn't get her p.e. clothes out. Last I knew K & my daughter shared a locker & I questioned when K got her own locker. It made no sense to me. Later that night K's mom calls me asking why my daughter said I texted K's mom & why we don't like them...the Congo went on for half an hour about she said/she said middle school drama. My daughter had told me K had said she wasn't allowed to be friends with her cause my daughter made her grades drop. That was a lie. The whole p.e. locker story ended up being a complete lie. Like none of it ever happened kind of lie.
The week before I noticed my daughter kept coming home eating candy. I asked where she was getting the candy from & she tells me her friend "S" sells it. But gives it to my daughter for free. I said I would call S's mom to verify the story cause it sounded suspicious to me. Turns out my daughter had been stealing money from a family coin jar & buying the candy. To my surprise that coin jar had practically been wiped out. She has her own money from her bday & Xmas but she stole money instead.
I am at the point where I don't believe a single word she says and I don't even want to talk to her because she is constantly lying or trying to get away with something. I have to hover over her to make sure she does her chores. Fix her bed. Take care of her cat. Do the dishes. If I confront her about something she always says 'i dunno'. That's if she responds at all. Mostly she says nothing and just stares at us. If I say that 'i dunno' is not a valid excuse/response she will say its cause she is lazy or cause she forgot.
I'm tired of dealing with her BS and am seriously considering sending her to live with her dad & stepmom. I truly believe my daughter has no empathy or conscience. I think she is a sociopath. I'm not trying to be mean but she shows no emotion whatsoever. She is blank. She does not even care about her brothers. Her youngest brother was born 5 weeks early and spent 10 days in nicu. She never asked about him. And when he came home she never asked to hold him or act like he was there at all. Its disturbing to me cause I didn't raise her to be this way. Her 4 yr old brother is sweet and kind and respectful. The complete opposite of her. Oh and she also thinks it cute to act ditzy and stupid and most of the time I don't think she is acting at all. I don't know what to do anymore!