Trisha - posted on 02/29/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
Hello everyone. This is my first time ever posting on here. I have a beautiful 17 yr old daughter who is turning 18 in a couple of months. I have been pretty lucky as far as having any big issues with her. She really is a good girl and has never been in trouble. My husband and I have sheltered her a bit because she has had some health issues. She has fibromyalgia and has struggled alot with it? She is our only girl. She is working part time at a pre-school and has been saving up to buy her first car. Shes almost there and will be buying one in the next month. She will be starting college this fall and wants to be a nurse. She has this huge idea that she is moving out this summer as soon as she turns 18. I am fine with the idea of her moving out but not until she is ready. She will be going to community college and not going away to live in a dorm like some of her friends. She only makes 600.00 a month and when she starts college shes going to have to cut back her work hours. Her Dr has even told her this because of her Fibromyalgia. If she over works herself she will be in a mess as far as her health goes. We would like her to focus on college and not have the worries of having to work a ton to support herself. When we try to talk to her she takes it as we are saying she just cant do it and will fail. My worry is that she will get so focused on working and making money that she will not finish college. I get that she wants to grow up and have her independance and be a grown up but I dont feel that she is emotionaly ready or financially ready to just move out. How can I get this through to her without her feeling like I am just trying to keep her home because I dont want her to leave.? I am very close with her and we talk about everything together. No topic has ever been off limits. This is the first time she has just not wanted to talk it out with me.