Sally - posted on 09/01/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )
My beautiful step-daughter is very shy and adorable, but her idea of cute clothing for school (she is in middle college, where she attends high school and college at the same time on a college campus) is very, very short shorts and a tank top with a cute sleeveless vest. I was mortified when she left yesterday for her first day, even after I told her that shorts that short were not appropriate for school.
When I picked her up at the end of the day, we had to go to several places on the college campus to pick up things...I could see the college guys checking her out. We had a talk on the way home about how wearing clothing like that attracked the wrong type of attention, and I told her how the guys were looking at her. We seemed to make some progress and we went shopping looking for more appropriate shorts. She is tiny and it is fall so we found nothing. At the end of the day, she asked if she could just wear those shorts to the high school and then wear jeans on college days...ugh! I told her the high school boys would look at her the same way! She just doesn't seem to get it! I have told her that I will not fight with her about her clothes, but if she chooses to dress that way then she must be responsible for it and be aware of her surroundings at all times. I told her that each morning she should ask herself what her outfit says about her. She and her cousins are all gymnists and work out wearing very little and I don't think she truely gets how visual men are. She is so shy she won't even talk to boys most of the time.
Her dad also isn't any help. He says he think she looks cute and why am I so stuck on this. All of his cousins growing up dressed that way and never got themselves in trouble.
Anyone else have this problem? How do you handle it?