Are all teen girls Bipolar?

Shannon - posted on 02/16/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )

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I swear my 13 year old daughter is Bipolar. One second she is happy and jumping around and dancing. But if you give it just a little while all of that will change very fast. We will be crying and fussing and with every look we have to roll our eye like everyone in this house is so stupid. I have no idea what to do with her but she is the oldest of three girls and takes up all my time.

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Jacquelyn - posted on 02/22/2010

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OK I have a now 14 going to be 15 in June and I swear I thought we were going to end up going toe to toe many a times over the last couple of years, and then there is the added pressure of a step dad that doesnt know anything on taking care of a teen girl that is going thru life changing changes in every way... OH MY the Drama the fights in home in school with friends with us. All and all I will tell you only one small thing that will help extremely. YOU MUST BE A DUCK!!! ok ok this sounds funny I know.. if she is safe, healthy, "generally" not hurting anyone or anything.. then be a duck, you will have to learn that things may seem directed at you and the bad attitudes, and eye rolling and door slamming, are not always under their control, and when you ask them and they say I DONT KNOW.. they very well may not know. So BE A DUCK... pick your things to stand hard and fast on... but let the rest roll off your backs. Mine has ADHD and alot of father issues due to abandonment, and a step DAD. We made it thru this far and so shall you. Even when you wonder when her head is going to twist around exorcist style...lol OH yeah!! Lots of Prayer for her and also for you!

Just chant BE A DUCK!! QUACK!

Shaunaly - posted on 02/19/2010

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I have three children and my middle child, my daughter, has been suffering with bipolar disorder all her life. If she was/is truly bipolar you would know it and have her evaluated and treated to help her life a more balanced life. You most likely just have a "normal" hormonal girl with the mood swings that go with the territory. It's NORMAL teenage rebellion behavior. Hang in there and when she gets older, you'll get your relationship with her back, once she comes into her own and matures. It's just nature's way of preparing her to be able to deal with her own emotions and gaining her independence in order to survive out there in the "real world". If you need to seriously "talk" about bipolar disorder... email me! I'd be more than happy to answer any question(s) you may have. Best to you!

Leanne - posted on 02/16/2010

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I understand where and what u r say,my eldest of 3 girls has been diagnosed with bipolar some time ago now,worse when period due,at first we fussed,and all attention was around her,thats not fair on others in household and can cause great conflict all round.
have u ruled out drug intake as this is often also sign's to drug takeing,also the eldest often feels they have to act older and need to push boundries,this also comes as teenagers hormones kick in,or listning to others ,.
with bipolar there can be alot of changes in the person like hot and cold,hungry to not eating,odd sleeping paterns,friends with simula issues,,,,its tuff to know when its just teenage things,hormones,drugs,.one way is to ask close friends if they have notticed any thing,or teacher,has school performance changed,look at all things if still concerned gp can do some blood tests for some things,but dont give more attension than other daughters its not healthy for anyone in house hold,rutine is very important no matter of age.good luck and let us know more

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Ayu - posted on 02/22/2010

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It's probably hormonal...
My girl is 15 and she is up and down like a roller coaster. Looking back, I was probably the same...

Michele - posted on 02/20/2010

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My daughter was the same way. Just hang in there,encourage her to get involved with something. My daug. is in band and helps out with the small children at church. She is 16 now and the meltdowns are not so often.Good luck.

Teresa - posted on 02/20/2010

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I raised six girls, I say age 25 is when they really grow up. I even got a couple sorries for what they put me through. Girl's are an emotional roller coaster!

Catherine - posted on 02/20/2010

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she is a teenager and a female, although this is when some disorder may show up. But if she had no issue before she turned 13 than I would not worry about it. Teenager years are we difficult, they are in between a child and adulthood. My daughter was a very good little girl and than when she hit 13 years old I swear she had been processed. She started hanging her barbie dolls from the ceiling. She is 24 now and studying to be a nurse. So if she is thinking about hurting herself than I would worry. Good luck, remember it is not easy being a teenager.

Christine - posted on 02/20/2010

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It is called being hormonal, mom! Try not to pay too much attention to it. I have a now 31 year old daughter and 17 year old daughter. We went through it with both of them. Has she started her monthly cycle yet? It seems like the few months before they do are the worst. It does get better though! Good luck!

Sharon - posted on 02/19/2010

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yes all teens thing they don't have to tell there parents when they leave the house you are not along all we could do is pray for them THIS TO SHELL PAST.

Janenne - posted on 02/19/2010

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have you talked with either the pedetrecian or your family Dr. or even check with the guidance counselor at school he or she may be able to help or recommend someone. When she goes into her crying spells or temper fits make everyone leave the room and just sit in a chair close to her but not against her, softly ask her to tell you what the problem is. She may not be able to so just reassure her it will get better in time. She feels like she is losing her mind that she has no control and that scares her. Let her know that no matter what you are there to help her get through it then find some info on bi polar for teens so she can learn and not be scared. let her know a lot of people famous ones have it



ask her to search it on the web. Whoopie, Katie Curick, the girl who play louis in Superman robin williams, billy crystal, there are more all i can remember off hand i hope this helps



janenne clark

Daphina - posted on 02/19/2010

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Girl, all I can say is pray, talk, and try to keep the relationship open. But please do not concede to being her "friend" right now. This is the time when she needs her mother to guide her not her BFF.

Cindy - posted on 02/19/2010

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do not let them put her on meds! She is too young to know if she needs them. that is the way teen girls act. and Good job to Jane McNally!

Cheraki - posted on 02/19/2010

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I have 2 teens right now my third born will be 13 in June... That being said my oldest will be 16 in December and my second born will be 14 in April...



I have seen that teenage girls have mood swings like crazy.;.. and once they start with the whole boyfriend thing.. It gets even crazier...

Around my house my husband calls it the estrogen ocean... I need my own life boat sometimes lol...From what I can tell so far... the swings will fade to maybe once a week instead of everyday...



Teen girls go through so many changes... I tell all four of my children everyday I so do not miss those days of any of their ages my younges will be 7 in March..

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My daughter is also 13, and completely understand what you are saying. One minute we can all be having a goof time, joking a laughing. The next she goes to her room crying. Sounds like normal teenage girl issues. They have so much against them at this age. The hormones kick in, peer pressure gets worse, they worry more about how they look, etc...
I would keep an eye on her for a little while, and just and have a mom/daughter talk. She may get whatever is bothering her off her chest, and you two will bond. If things don't get better, uyou can still have her checked over.

Marie - posted on 02/18/2010

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get used to it.... it will be like that till she is an adult .....i think about 20/21 then maybe you will be able to talk to her again......i survived a teenage girl you can too

Jannette - posted on 02/18/2010

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Sounds more like normal hormonal teenage girl reactions to me than bipolar. It is exhausting but it eventually evens out as their bodies adjust. But like others have suggested if you are really worried get her checked out by your doctor. Be prepared though for sulks and arguments if you do suggest this because sometimes as a Mum nothing you do is right and you will probably be accused of over reacting even though you have had all of your buttons pushed and have put up with changing behaviour for quite sometime. Good luck

Silka - posted on 02/18/2010

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My daughter too was diagnosed as Bipolar at age 13. She acted like yours, only to a much higher degree. Her "up's" were extreme hyper-activity, believing she was a professional guitar player, martial arts expert, etc. after only taking lessons for a few months. She would sometimes play with and tickle her younger brother to the point of making him cry. When she was "down" she was so depressed she talked of suicide every day, wanting to move away to another state to meet a friend she had met on line, cutting herself, ditching school, never waking up in the morning for school no matter what I did. Pretty much you know your kid has true Bipolar when you try everything in every parenting book, every bit of advice like "take everything away", or "ground them until they shape up", etc. and all of those things just make them worse, not better. Traditional parenting and punishment/discipline do not work on a Bipolar kid, if you take away their phone, computer, time with friends, then they don't start acting right, they attempt suicide. So that is why it is not a laughing matter and one of the hardest roads a parent can be on with their teen. It is so exhausting trying to figure out how to help these kids grow up, and really not know for sure if they will ever lead a normal adult life. One thing I can tell you about the hormones, my daughter's symptoms were so much worse before her period. After looking into it more I found out she was having her period for two weeks out of every month which was really draining her. Her doctor put her on the Ortho Evera Birth Control patch, and her attitude has improved dramatically, and her periods are regular now. We chose the patch, because she is way too forgetful to remember to take a pill at the same time every day. Sorry to nag! Hope that helps a little! Hang in there! My daughter just turned 16 and it is starting to feel like we are rounding the corner on this attitude thing, but the absolute wost was from age 13 to 15.

User - posted on 02/17/2010

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Shannon ,i was just wondering if you know my Daughter? lolI have the same at my house

Mindy - posted on 02/17/2010

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Mine is really not a fun thing to go through! She goes from really hating my guts to not in just a few minutes!

Marcie - posted on 02/17/2010

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That is why I did not want girls. I was a real hand full when I was a teenage. My teenage son is not bipolar, but it is like talking to a wall. Good luck and hang in there.

Stephanie - posted on 02/17/2010

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Mine's not bipolar, but ADHD and that really messes with emotions. Don't forget she is extremely hormonal right now.
But if you are truly worried. Take her to the doctor and have her checked out.

Jane - posted on 02/16/2010

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I think you're joking with regards to your using the bipolar terminology, hopefully but realize, if she is truly bipolar, this would not be something to joke about. Bipolar disorder needs medical attention and in most, if not all cases, medication to help the patient live a normal and fullfilling life.



With that said, what you appear to be going through is typical teenage behavior. Not only is 13 a tough age because of peer pressure but hormonal changes are still occurring even if she has already started her period. What i find fascinating is that most mothers seem to forget when they were 13 or any of the teenage years. I was horrible at that age....lots of drama, stubborn, indignant, snotty unless I wanted something, etc.



Your daughter is coming into her own and will do so for many years to come. She is going to assert herself in a way to determine what she can and cannot get away with and only you can determine what you will or will not let her get away with. In the end, consistency is the ONLY option. Decide what you will allow and not allow. If the rolling of the eyes is unacceptable to you (it is in our house, although at 50, I still sometimes slip and do it), make sure it's known and what the consequences for that behavior are. Figure it all out...literally write it down, make a contract, you both sign it and STICK TO IT! I guarantee you, if you stick to your guns, she'll quit OR be very bored because she can't do anything because you've taken it away...and then, she'll quit!

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