Angie - posted on 11/15/2011 ( 99 moms have responded )
In April, I called the cops on my 14yo for throwing things & leaving the house at 8pm without permission. In June, I had to call them again. We began counseling through the school's counselor. July they were called again, August my mail was suspended because of the "kids" at my house terrorizing & threatening the mailman & I filed an out of control with juvenile in which he tested positive for pot & was ordered to substance abuse outpatient. Within 1-2 weeks, I found a bag a pot in his room & money missing from my room, he had an elevated drug test & his days were increased. When he went to his DJO (deputy juvenile officer Aug 23rd, he got a "stern" talk. Aug 29th he had another fit & I called the cops; while waiting for the cops to arrive, he wrapped a rope around his neck & locked himself in the bathroom. He came out before they arrived & was taken to the ER, then to acute inpatient. He came home Sept 5th diagnosed with ODD and on 3 meds. By Sept 8th, he hacked my wifi password (unknowing to me) so when he "earned" his ipod back Sept 14th, he had access to contact his friends, was back sneaking out & smoking pot. When I found out he had internet access, Sept 18th, I confiscated his ipod. I found out he had a facebook account that he had me blocked from & hacked it. I found out about the sneaking out, stealing money, drug use/selling, breaking into cars, etc that had been going on all summer. He had another elevated drug test that week & his outpatient days were increased again. I notified his DJO who had another "stern" talk with him Sept 23rd & the next day, once again, he went the suicide route/threats & he were back at acute inpatient. This time, we got him accepted into an inpatient behavior/drug abuse facility. It was supposed to be for 60 days, but insurance would only approve 3 weeks. He was discharged on Oct 20th on 9 meds, but we only made it 30 minutes up the highway before he began punching himself in the face, threatening to jump out of the car, and then finally wrapping a seatbelt around his neck, choking himself. A cop helped me get him to the hospital and he was sent back to acute inpatient. He came home October 26th on 6 meds, but dropped the bombshell before he was discharged that he was sexually abused by my ex husband 3-4 years ago (we've been separated for 5 1/2 years with no contact). They have to pursue it as if it's true. Nov 3rd, he had another fit about not making up missing assignments or doing the tutoring program after school (he's not allowed to come home alone after school). This escalated into holes kicked in the wall, cussing me out, jamming my bedroom lock & at one point telling me he was going outside for a smoke break, cigarette in hand. The cops took him to juvenile, where he currently is. We had court last Monday; juvenile is recommending a 60 day inpatient program (not funded by insurance, so no early out), he disagrees & has requested an attorney & has that right. I have to pay for it, but am not privy to their conversations. The judge has found it not safe for him to return home, but is not going to force him to treatment because if he's being made to, he won't get better, so has held him in juvenile for 2 weeks so we can get another psychiatric evaluation. Now his father has been notified by juvenile & he thinks him on parole for felony DWI's, no drivers license for 10 years, $15,000 behind in child support, & not even his own place to live will get custody of him because now he has documentation I can't control him. I'm not letting that worry me at all; it's more of an aggravation than anything. I just don't know what is going on with him. I found out the 7 days he was home with NO privileges, NO unsupervised time (except when I'm sleeping), that he ordered 2 adult PPV movies (I now have that blocked; thought it was). It's like he's doing anything, everything to break rules. They've switched his meds up so much & honestly I don't see any difference except they make him tired. He's had diagnosis from ODD, impulsive control disorder, possible bi-polar, depression, anxiety so like I said I am at my wit's end. His psychiatrist appt is Friday & we return to court on Monday. I just wish someone had some answers....