Molly - posted on 07/08/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )
My 15 yo son has been friends with two other boys in our culdesac since preschool. All three of the boys have been smoking cigarettes and pot and drinking beer. The other parents talk a good game, but when it comes down to it, they are usually oblivious to what is going on or they don't follow through on any of their consequences. I'm done trying to enlist their help in keeping the boys out of trouble. My husband insists that our son not communicate with the other boys at all, but I think that 1) this is impossible--we live within 5 houses of each other and they have been friends for so long and 2) it will just make him sneak around more. Neither of the other boys is allowed at our house anymore because we have long been fed up with their bad behavior. My solution is to home drug test our son and give him his freedom (within reason) as long as he stays clean and stays out of trouble. I don't think it's healthy to keep him cooped up inside all of the time and we have taken away pretty much everything of value to him. His friendship with these boys is obviously worth more to him than any of our consequences, so I think we should focus more on keeping him away from destructive behavior rather than keeping him away from his friends. Am I wrong?