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Margaret - posted on 06/05/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have a 19 year old who is "ready for college" in the fall. He will be going to Santa Fe, NM in August from Wisconsin. He doesn't have much money "saved" to live on as he's spending it on concerts and eating out. How do i get him to see that he needs to save and stop spending so much and get him to learn to keep a job? He quit his good paying job after 6 weeks of being there. He claims that he couldn't take the complaints about his work. Please help!! Thanks:)

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Angie - posted on 06/08/2009

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Congratulations on having a college bound son. I am from NM and went to college in Albuquerque. Santa Fe is so expensive. Have him look at rent prices. He needs to understand how much he will be paying just to have a roof over his head. Even though he is of age, he may not really be ready for college. He may need to work for a bit to save the money to go.

Jana - posted on 06/08/2009

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Have you looked at the costs of attending college with your son. Better yet have him research what the costs of tuition, housing, books, food, and entertainment costs?? Tell him how excited you are about this wonderful opportunity but you feel both of you need to know what this will cost as well as how he plans to pay for his part.



You have to have a plan. Set boundaries of what the expectations are of him and almost as important what happens if he fails to follow through with his end of the agreement. You can do this without "preaching" to him. In order for him to succeed he needs to know the rules. He needs to see the whole picture without you coming across as "mom". You say he is "ready" for college - have you asked him what that means to him versus what that means to you? Good luck to you!!!! Jana

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