Curfew

Romana - posted on 08/08/2011

Agreeing with Rachel on this one.You are the one (with dad) who mades the choice.You stated that your daughter is mature for her age and very responsible.I think that you(the parents are the best one's to decide.I'm a single mom who has two teenage sons.They love to play basketball so on trainingdays the last time to be in is 20.00.Most of the time they are home .Just recently they begun to visit teendisco and it's not like every week or every month.More like once in three or 4 months ,so we made good appointments.As long as schoolwork is good, they are behaving good we can talk about visiting teendisco.Most of the time it starts at 20.00 till 02.00. They are always together and I trust them so I'll drop them off and pick them up again.If the disco ends at 02.00 I'll pick them up at 01.00.
They also starts going out on national holidays with friends but I know where they are going, who they're with and also had a curfew of 20.00 pm
Most of the time they are leaving at 14.00 pm.
My sons are mature for their age and we are very close,so it's easy for me to take such decisions.Uptill now they have shown me that they are responsible and they are staying truthfull,even with pressure from friends.So think we're coping good right now

Rachel - posted on 10/18/2009

Youv'e stated that your close w/daughter and that she is responsible, I think the choice YOU make will be the appropiate one. I have 5 children aged 4-21 and they all have seperate rules, it depends on the child and circumstance. Let's face it everyone is different at showing responsibility.

Carol - posted on 10/17/2009

We have a no dating until you are 16 rule, a no going out on school nights except to an organized activity that they regularly participate in (like a sport or band performance) rule, and a 10:00 curfew on weekends unless it is a school event rule. School dances are a school event, so they are an exception to the curfew rule. In every case our kids have to come home right after the event or activity. In addition, if it is not prearranged and put on the family calendar (on the front of the refrigerator), it doesn't happen. Our kids (who are 17, 15, 14, and 12) think we are the strictest parents in the world, but so far so good. Good luck with your decision.

Lisa - posted on 10/16/2009

when the street lights come on. Okay so that's a bit early, but honestly there is no need for kids to be out after 10 pm. Do you remember back when you were a kid? When we were kids, just before the late news started, there was a brief announcement it's 10pm do you know where your children are. Where I live there is a city wide curfew in effect for kids, under 15 it's 10pm, 15-17 it's 11pm, 17-18 midnight and if a kid is caught out after curfew their parents will be visited. The only exceptions are if the kid has a job and is on their way directly home (and the police dept will check what time they left work) or with a parent.

Judy - posted on 10/16/2009

My kids have to be home by 10:00 p.m. unless they are with a parent I know very well. My daughter turned 16 a few months ago and went on her first car date with a 17 year old several weeks ago. Because this was her first date, we layed down some strict rules to see how responsible they both were. They had to be home by 9:30 and she had to text me when they left the movies. (They went to dinner and then a movie.) But we had to when the movie would start and how long it would be. The boy and my daughter proved they were responsible. She was home by 9:27. But whether it is the weekday or weekend, the latest my kids are allowed to be out is usually 10 unless they are with us and/or, as mentioned earlier, I parent I trust.

Phe - posted on 10/16/2009

I think 15 is still to young to be dating I think dating should start round 16 and thats with a group of friends going all together then 17 for something a little serious. Curfew that is way to late to be out at that age I would say 11 depending on where they are going other than
that I would have to go with 10. To much going on now days for kids to be out to late.

Maria - posted on 10/15/2009

I'm not a prude, but at my son's school dance, my husband and I got to the parking lot at 10:30pm, and we noticed that a lot of students are literally leaving with their friends who drive. So, from then on, 10:30pm it is!

Tammy - posted on 10/15/2009

My Daughter Just Made 15 & Her Curfew Is 9PM Everyday Unless She Is With An Older Sibling.

Commilla - posted on 10/15/2009

15 years old. Too young to be dating. But if you trust her judgement and have taught her well about the dangers of drugs, drinking, sex and all and feel confident that she will make the right decisions then I say make the decision that best suites your family. If you make it 11 which I think is the limit and she messes up or is late then you knock it back to 10 or even 9 to make your point that she has to be on time!

Mary - posted on 10/14/2009

You stated it is for a school dance..... So if the dance is over at 11:00 then they should come directly home after the dance. You know how far away the school is from your home and is the boy driving or are parents? With that in mind I would say as soon as the dance let out you are to come directly home. So if it's 15 mins from your home no problem. If you live in a rural area and it's going to take longer then maybe rethink the time. Also most schools do not hold dances unless it is on a Friday night so the next day getting up of school should not come into play. Good luck.

Justa - posted on 10/14/2009

Let me clairfy, she is in by 9pm on school nights, and the dating is within a group (double dating) I know who she is with and their families and where they are. I also have an EXTREMELY close relationship with my daughter. She is always honest and forthcoming wtih me. She may be just tuning 15, but she is very responsible and mature for her age. Keep the input coming, I love it!!

Shelly - posted on 10/14/2009

Justa,

My son is 16 and I have a 23, 18, and a 32 yr old and I have never allowed them to stay out that late unless it was a special occation like a school dance. As far as dating not until they were 16 and then it was with a group until they turned 17 and gee I have never had any of them come home and tell me they were pregnant or that they had gotten a girl pregnant. There is no good reason they need to be out that late, the movies have showings that get out soon than that. Oh and all of my children were involved in extra cricular activities after school ( thier choose not mine) so if they had some thing going on later than thier 10 O'Clock curfew they would have to let us know in advance ot they didn't go. I'm not sure why you think that 11 O'Clock is OK and why you all think that 15 is ok to date??? I guess I'm just old fashion!!!

Diana - posted on 10/14/2009

My son is 16, 10:30 p.m. during the week and 12:30 on weekends, so I agree with everyone, at 14/15 years old 10:00 p.m. during week and I agree with Dad, 11:00 p.m. on the weekend as long as you know exactly where she'll be. I know it's a double standard, but I think girls should be in earlier than boys.

I tell my son every time he grumbles about curfew that he has the rest of his adult life to enjoy the night life and it's my job to ensure he's safe through his teen years.

Paula - posted on 10/14/2009

When my son was 14 I did not let him stay out past 9:00 on a school night unless it was for a dance, football, basketball game, etc. I just started letting my son, now 16 stay out past 10:00 on weekends. They don't need to be out that late.

Emily - posted on 10/14/2009

I have to agree with 10pm. 11 or 11:30 seems awfully late especially for a school night.

Tammy - posted on 10/14/2009

wow u r generous!!! my sons are 16 and 17 and they have 10pm curfews!!! i would go with earlier exept on special nites like dances an such i would agree with dad and say 11 on those "special" nites good luck mama

Linda - posted on 10/14/2009

I'd say 10 pm. One of the main reasons is that I'm not going to stay up till 11:30 and wait to make sure they're home. I'm too selfish with my sleep if I have to work the next day. If its a special occassion (like a school dance) I would extend it.

ShawnDell - posted on 10/13/2009

My teen's curfews are 10:30 school night and 11:30 weekends (son is 15) If he is at a friends and they are watching a movie he can call and get an extension as long as he calls before 11:30.

Angie - posted on 10/13/2009

She's really too young to be dating. But it you feel it's appropriate for her to do that, I'd say 10 is plenty late enough for a 15 year old to be out on weekends.

Carrie - posted on 10/13/2009

Honestly I think 11 or 1130 is to late for that age. I wasn't allowed to be out that late until I was 16yrs old.I certainly wouldn't let my 13 yr old stay out that late unless she's with me. I feel like curfew for that age should be 10pm, unless there is a school event, a birthday party, something like that. If she does well and continues to do what she's supposed to then maybe up it a half hour more. It's just an opinion. By the time she's 16 then maybe it could be midnight if she's responsible.