Daughter asked if her boyfriend could sleep over in her bed?

Patricia - posted on 05/05/2013

I'd have let her do it. They're already having sex, one more night isn't gonna change anything.

Mother Of Teenage - posted on 04/15/2013

But knowing you are allowing them to do it in ur house... do you know how bad of a parent tht makes you. shame...

Sheryll - posted on 04/15/2013

I can't believe you already don't know the answer for yourself. Common sense should dictate what the answer is...I hope you find the right answer for yourself.

Shannon - posted on 01/11/2013

This is really YOUR and her Dad's decision - and you will get a lot of slack from parents if you do - and your daughter if you don't. (And your daughters friends parents! "Suzie's mom lets her boyfriend sleepover" - guess what, Suzie's friends won't be allowed to sleep over at your place anymore!) )YOU have to make the rules for your house. Are you willing to KNOW what they are doing in her room at night? Cause i can guarantee you - it will be just THAT .... and personally i couldn't handle knowing that.

Julia - posted on 01/06/2013

I have a 16 yr old daughter and I know she is having sex.Took her to the doctor to get the depo shot so I know she won't forget to take the pill.But they won't have sex under my roof once you let them start playing house and shacking up in your home they lose all respect for you.

Evelyn - posted on 11/27/2012

I can not agree with this idea.

Evelyn - posted on 11/27/2012

I have not had this happen. I have had though the boyfriend come stay at my house but my daughter stayed with her grandparents. I had my son at home so the boys got to spend time together playing games and stuff...my son got along well with his sister's boyfriend at the time. That solved the problem of them sleeping over in the same house...place them where they can't. And if this BF lives close enough by why have him overnight at all? What is wrong with doing things during the day and through the early evening and then going home. This is the kind of thing that advocates the type of things they want to do. Be the parent and lay the law down and tell them no. They are never going to learn responsible behavior if you condone the wrong behavior in the first place. You even said your own mother would not let it happen when you were growing up so why should you be any different? I know kids will find a way but do you have to enable them?

Clara - posted on 10/25/2012

Well, You shouldn't lat a 15 year old girl do that. Sex is a beutiful, yet awful thing, but do you want to be a grandmother at 20? NO. and your daughter doesent have time to be a 16 year old mother. Telll your kids alll of this ok

L R - posted on 10/19/2012

This is the most idiotic question! I am so sorry to have said that but you asked for it! First of all, where are your morals? Are you setting an example for your daughter? You need to emphasize that she has her whole life ahead of her and that at her age, it's just totally unacceptable. You need to take her to a group where there are teenage girls with children to see if that is what she wants as well as STD! Do Not under no circumstance allow this to happen! She will blame you later on for her misfortune and rightfully so!

VALEENE - posted on 10/15/2012

I say stick to the way you where raised coz by u doing that you are simply telling its ok if she comes home preggies

Victoria - posted on 10/12/2012

It is a huge sign of trust that your daughter even asked. First of all it shows that your daughter knows how to ask for what she wants and in turn be able to say no to something she doesn't want. It also shows that she respects you by simply asking rather than expecting him to be allowed to stay over.



Since you know they are having sex, and have been for six months, you telling them he can't sleep over in her bed is not going to stop them having sex. It will do nothing on that front. If your daughter is asking for him to stay the night then the relationship has moved from being all about sex (which it was 6 months ago) to "I really love and trust this boy. I want to share falling asleep and waking up in the same bed as him". That shows a great level of intimacy on the side of your daughter.



My questions would be 1. How well do you know the boy and his parents? Have you spoken to him one on one? Have you spoken to his parents about this? 2. Do you trust your daughter? If yes, then let him stay the night. If no then where were you 6 months ago? 3. What does your mother have to with it? Just because she raised you a certain way doesn't mean that way was right. It was just her way. Now you can choose what way you want your daughter to perceive you.



You don't have to be the cool parent but by respecting your daughter's need for intimacy (yes, I said intimacy and not sex) then you are showing respect to her feelings. If the boy has stuck around after a year (half of that where he was getting sex) then I think it shows that he respects and loves her. He didn't leave her once he started getting sex. He stayed around.



Its a tough decision but I can tell you that intimacy is on their minds, not sex and they can achieve that intimacy together on the couch in the family space with you in the same room on a mattress or with the door to her room open all night.



Its up to you to make the final decision. I can only but offer my point of view.

Jennifer - posted on 10/10/2012

Well Theresa you already have a ton of replies and i can see now that this happened awhile ago, so i guess my answer is more for the purpose of carrying on a debate and to respond to the others who have responded recently.

So as to the question- i think its a big no no. I have 2 girls (15/16) and i think my eldest may be sexually active, and thats...ok with me. However, if she asked if a boy could sleep in her bed with her, i'd tell her she's crazy. there is no way i would allow that. Your girl is sexually active, and part of you thinks "why not" and i hear you, but giving her a place to have sex freely just doesnt sit well with me. My niece is almost 18 and has a daughter a year old. And she got pregnant in her bedroom with the boy that was allowed to sleep in there with her. And i think, maybe if she wasnt given free reign, and had to sneak around to have sex (like we did) then maybe she wouldnt have gotten pregnant.

Rose - if your daughter made a video of her giving a boy a BJ at 14, and she's 16 now, do you really think she hasnt taken it a step further yet? You know her much better than I, and not throwing judgement here, but cmon, she has a 'sexual' history, and she sleeps in the same bed with boys, i'd bet my house she's doing more than sleeping.

and Ashley - your certainly correct, times HAVE changed, back when most us on here were growing up we either didnt have sex or had to sneak around to do it. And now its much more socially accepted to have sex young, and thats ok with me, i started having sex when i was 15, but i wasnt "allowed" to do it. And back then, when sex wasnt quite as ok, we didnt have 10 pregnant girls in every high school, and abortion rates through the roof. So yeah times have changed...are they better?

Melanie - posted on 10/10/2012

my daughter is 15 and i dont even allow her to date yet! we have to set positive examles for our girls ,this only leads to early pregnancy ,regret of having these relationships at such a very young age.no way dont let that happen

Danielle - posted on 10/09/2012

Wow!! I'm sorry, I can't believe this is even a question. She is FIFTEEN!!! She is a minor, and not even close to being an adult, and you are questioning whether you should condone adult behavior?? Your job is to guide and direct a child in the way they should go, and I don't think this is what it means.

Rose - posted on 10/07/2012

I allow my 16 year old daughter to have her boyfriend spend the night and sleep in the same bed. According to my daughter they haven't done anything, but I'm not really so sure. I know when my daughter was 14 I found a video on her phone of her giving a guy a blowjob! According to her that's the only thing she has ever done. I think since your daughter is already sexually active with this boy and she's being safe then it's alright I guess. I think you should really talk to her about this though....

Ashley - posted on 10/07/2012

I don't see what the big deal is whether or not the boyfriend is allowed to sleep over. I'm fifteen yet my boyfriend of nine months can't sleep over but my friend, same age, is allowed to have her boyfriend of a few months spend the night in her bed with her. It all depends on how much trust you have for them and your level of comfort-ability knowing that your daughter is in the next room sleeping with her boyfriend. It also depends on how mature the couple is and how "in love" they are.

If it were me, I'd let them spend the night as a tester night, and it all goes well then they could have a sleep over three times a month. (i really wish my mum thinks the same way I do). Hope this helps. :) also remember, times HAVE changed. Things aren't how they used to be.

Trina - posted on 10/05/2012

BUT HE CAN NOT BRING HIS GIRLFRIEND IN HIS ROOM AT ALL. SHE IS WELCOME IN MY HOME BUT ONLY IN THE FAMILY AREA.

Douglas - posted on 10/04/2012

Are you people who said 'Wait till marriage' actually serious?? What a bunch of outdated old farts.

Dilara - posted on 09/21/2012

I think you should. You just need to put your trust in her. I'm not a mum, i'm 15 years old. I joined because I disagree with some peoples accusations. I recommend that a teenagers perspective is more important. If you don't want him sleeping in the bed you can make a deal with your daughter and let him stay the night but on the couch.

Jessica - posted on 09/19/2012

I am 22 and my boyfriend is 21 - we have been dating for 6 years, we both still live with our parents and are not allowed to stay in the same room let alone in the same bed. We are even saving a house deposit and plan on buying somewhere in January of next year. Sleeping in the same bed is something that is simply not done in either of our families when you are just dating, and I can say with conviction that I will be taking the same approach with my own children. I would never even think of asking my parents if my boyfriend could stay in my bed.



Ultimately, it doesn't matter if your daughter is sexually active or not. If you have a rule that boyfriends cannot sleep in the same bed, then the rule should remain. What would be your response if she wanted some random guy she met a party to sleepover in her bed? I think you would say no.

Mary - posted on 09/15/2012

I understand everyone’s concerns. However, when I was 15 my boyfriend would spend the night. My mother did not want me in the back seat of the car. (I had the same boyfriend from 14 – 18) I think it was a very healthy relationship. We learned a lot during those years. His parents were upset at first but came around to the idea.



So, my answer would be yes. I would allow it. Especially if they are already active.

Natosha - posted on 09/14/2012

If you condone that activity you condone the consequences and possibilities of sexual activites most teens these days are active and though your daughter may not like you disagreeing with her wishes now she will respect you drawing the line in the future. You seem okay and your mother didnt allow you to have your boyfriend in the bed with you. It is hard to feel you disappoint your teens I understand first hand but we are parents not friends.

Debbie - posted on 09/14/2012

NO NO NO! I was a very "open" mom and let one of my daughters (I have 3) have her boyfriend spend the night. He ended up being a very controlling person and while she said she consented to having sex, she did end up getting pregnant and he forced her to run away or he wouldn't let her see their son. Granted this is a worst case scenario, and not everyone is like him, but at their ages they are so not ready for this level of commitment or responsibility. You need to stand your ground and not permit them to have sex under your roof. Your roof, your rules!

Alexandra - posted on 09/13/2012

No, I would not allow that. Just because I don't agree. I would want to have a serious talk with my daughter and explain her why.

BethAnn - posted on 09/13/2012

WHAT THE HECK????? I think the answer is a clear NO NO NO!!!! Why is a 15 year old having sex???? Check out these links to help you sort this out- http://www.purefreedom.org/



http://www.focusonthefamily.ca/parenting...



http://www.drjamesdobson.org/search-resu...



It sounds like you and your teen needs some serious famliy time. My children will NOT be allowed to have boyfriends let alone date at that young age. What have happened to morals and values and teaching our kids to NOT have sex till they are married??? I truly am shocked at waht I am reading and that someone would even ask such a question...

Natalie - posted on 09/13/2012

You all sound like great moms. I only have a 3 year old so im not speaking as a parent as much as I am remembering my teenage years. As a parent, I want to say no. But there are factors to consider. First, she's on bc, So at least they are responsible (or pretending to be responsible). I agree with watching the family dynamic. Make sure you aren't setting bad examples for anyone else or putting stress on your own marriage because you disagree.



However, as a teenager, my sexual experience started at 15 and I know I'm not supposed to say this, but it was wonderful! And it was something I really wanted to do. I told my mom I wanted birth control. She let me get it. She told me that she believed I was too young still. That if you date again, you will always be expected to have sex again, etc.relationship talk. Like an adult. She made me feel good but she let me know that she didn't agree with my decision. And, if at any time I wanted to stop having sex, I can. Just because you do it once doesn't mean, you're ready to be sexually active. In that sense, I felt so much freedom. And, like I said, it was a wonderful year. And when I felt like my boyfriend was taking advantage of the situation. When my mom mentioned that our place felt like a motel, I had been feeling the same way. I broke up with him. I dated someone else, and did not have sex with him. He wasn't ready. We carry so much shame and guilt with sex. It can be wonderful. Tricky, yes, but as a growing woman, she has a lot of power. I always felt I had control. I was lucky. I was also built that way. I knew girls that had no interest in it. That was not their parents, that was them. That was the way they were made! I know this is a long story. But it really depends on the individual.

So my advice is to allow it if you think all of you are capable. But just like a single mom who invites the bf over, everyone has to sign off and have open communication. If you think this is just a whim or more his idea, that's different.

Alice - posted on 09/10/2012

Speaking as a 15 year old myself, I think you should let them as long as you trust them. Just because they're only in they're teens, doesn't mean they can't be mature about it. I hate the typical stereo type some people have for teenagers. Many teens think just like adults and it's not fair to be grouped with the irresponsible youngsters out there. I'm sure there are plenty of adults that are more irresponsible than teens! I know that if I was allowed my boyfriend to sleep over, I wouldn't use the opportunity to have sex, I would cherish and appreciate being able to fall asleep in the arms of the one I love, then waking up and being able to say 'good morning beautiful'. I feel like most adults take this for granted and if I was allowed, it would mean so much to me and my boyfriend. Maybe you should have a talk with your daughter and ask what her intentions of him staying over are. After all, the key to a good, trustworthy relationship is communication.

Jay - posted on 09/09/2012

This is just "my opinion" Hell No. To me, its bad enough to actually know she's having sex at 15. But to know she's doing it under the same roof as you and the rest of the family....hell no. My daughter isn't crazy enough to even ask if a boy can come stay for spring break, and ask if they can sleep in the same bed!!!??? Please.... We are our kids parents, not their friends. But like i said, my opinion and i hope it doesnt offend you.

Tori - posted on 09/08/2012

if their already active and are using protection, then why not? My son has his girlfriend round all the time and i know they are active and taking the proper precautions. if you are that worried about it then sit down and talk to your daughter about it, tell her what you think about the situation and let her feedback to you and see if you can set some ground rules. But don't say 'no' harshly or suddenly because she will rebel and not care any more and do as she pleases and will end up with an unwanted pregnancy. If you have young children as well then tell them they are not to have sex while you and the children are in the house.

Sally - posted on 09/02/2012

Depends on how soon you want grandchildren.

Rachel - posted on 09/01/2012

Teens have no business being in a sexual relationship ...period. There are consequences of which their underdeveloped brains cannot cope nor handle without severe repercussions. It baffles me how many moms think their teenage son or daughter is 'beyond their years' and 'amaze them with their uncanny sense of responsibility'. I agree that some teens are advanced intellectually and have a healthy emotional disposition. But in the end, even these lucky teens shouldn't be engaging in adult activities. Parents should NOT be providing an environment that exposes their teen to situations that set them up for things that their developing brains can't appropriately filter nor handle. It isn't so much a moral issue as it is a common sense issue. Many parents think that allowing their child to 'go ahead' of the crowd so it will 'teach them early and give them a head start' are completely out of touch with what the natural development of a human being involves. We're all different, but yet we're all the same when it boils down to the developmental phases of the mind. Teens have no business having sex.

Christina - posted on 07/16/2012

NO WAY should your daughter's boyfriend be able to sleep in the bed with your daughter. He can sleep on the floor or even on the couch. If they don't like it,the b/f doesn't spend the night..

Allison - posted on 07/09/2012

NOOOOO, it never ends well!!!!

Chaya - posted on 07/05/2012

Don't let them, you can't stop them from having sex, but you can make it difficult. If you allow it, she'll walk all over you for the rest of her life.
My dad told me I share a room with the guy after I was married to him. I didn't marry the guy to be allowed to have sex, but my dad was willing to allow us to share a room

Hope - posted on 07/05/2012

My lord....no disrespect here but if I tried to ask my mother that question she would quickly respond with a HE(double hockey sticks) NO! The reason being: those two are teenagers. If they want to play house, cohabitate or whatever- they can do so when they are grown ups. So for your daughter, I'd say tough luck kid. It's part of growing up.
The comments about how this mother could lack some control as a parent are WAAAY off base. You all need to check yourself before judging someone else's situation. I'm pretty sure half of you who commented on that have no clue if your teenager is even having sex or not. At least her daughter is comfortable enough to talk to her mother about sex. Just because her teen asks that type of question doesn't mean she isn't in control, that's a ridiculous assumption right there.

User - posted on 06/23/2012

I honestly think and know for sure, that no mothers that I know would allow a 15 year old boy to be spending the night. Who is in charge here? You or the 15 year old. You better get control and quick.

While they are having sex in your house, what are you doing. NO NO NO, Your daughter is NOT your friend. I encourage you to take some Parenting Classes and a few psychiatrist visits.

Rebecca - posted on 05/27/2012

NO!

User - posted on 05/27/2012

That being said ( what I posted above) and combined with your post, I don't understand how a teen having sex in your home with your knowledge would be considered disrespectful? ( like most are implying) I have been instilling respect and knowledge for yrs now and I would not at all find it rude that my child would ask this. I would actually find it quite mature and respectful. But that is my relationship that I have built and I understand it's not others. Does it make me uncomfy to think about- yes. Do I hope it takes forever to happen- YES. To take a stance such as, ' I know you're having sex, but it's just really disgusting to do it in my home' is gross to me. It would confuse my boys and they would be perplexed as to why I feel this way. I don't have a black or white stance on the subject. I don't preach it isn't ok or ok, ( partly because the question has not come up) but 'if you do have sex, wait'- you have to do it somewhere else cuz it's gross and not acceptable for your age. I don't believe in ignoring like that or at worst pretending " out of sight out of mind" type mentality. Quite frankly that mentality is a joke to me. It's not a joke to me for parents to feel upset or not like it (especially if religiously convicted). It's only a joke when parents know their kids are having sex and demand it happens elsewhere- any place but the home. My son would actually be role modeling my behavior if he asked to have sex in our/his home. This is what he has been taught- love/sex happens in a safe home/place. Not because I have told him this but because he has grown up this way and knows that his loving parents screw in the home. Why would there be a need to sneak off and do it elsewhere? It's not dirty nor does it need to be sneaky. I find it appalling to even think of him having sex in another's home, vehicle or whatever- if he felt forced to do so. His choice-fine. But not if I forced it elsewhere due to my disgust/fears and own issues. I also know if my son had sex in our home, he would be respectful. He's not an idiot and does have his own feelings of embarrassment and sense of pride. Just as he doesn't want to hear his parents screw- he won't want us to hear him. In saying this, sex would not happen in my home unless the other parent gave consent. I will not participate or create a haven for my teens to come to our home because it can't happen somewhere else. I think that is rude, disgusting and undermining another parents authority. I would never condone or teach my children this is ok- and I don't. If I had a mom/dad that said no way to their daughter having sex in my home, I would have to tell my son -no way. That's part of the price he would have to pay in choosing to have sex. He would have to go elsewhere. I could not live with that guilt in knowing that I'm disrespecting another parent/person in this fashion. I will not compromise my values or morals to placate my children in this fashion and they would not be surprised at all by my conviction on the matter.

User - posted on 05/26/2012

This is a response I gave in another forum here that kind of pertained to this subject: I have never told my boys when they are allowed to have sex. I'm not really worried due to our relationship that we have. We have always been open about sex and answered every question even as young children (including using the proper terms for their genitals). My boys know that they can ask us anything and we don't lie or ignore the conversation. (age appropriate of course)We do that with everything though not just with sex. So it kinda normal around here and we think relationships and sex are good and normal. It's never been taboo. We talk to our children as though we know they will have sex. Which they will at some point. Point being, is that, this normalizing a normal human need/desire has actually led them to be more thoughtful/more serious and not so curious to need it now. My oldest is 14 and still has never held hands with a girl or even kissed a girl. He is horny and tells me so but he just isn't ready. He also tells me who he is crushing on and what body parts he likes. We also talk about other things that have led him to be attracted to someone. It's led my son to an understanding that we don't just need to act off of every feeling like he has no control. He knows about disease, pregnancy and that it is his duty to provide protection and not believe a girl when she says she is on birth control and so forth. We don't use any fear based tactics on our part. We have just never made a big deal about sex/the body to the point where they wanted to test us/rebel and find out for themselves why his parents seem so against it. We have never made him feel bad or ashamed for how he feels either while going through puberty or even masturbation ( we even celebrated his start of puberty with great excitement over this milestone). We have more standards on how to treat others and respect in general for all humans whether sex related or not. And we role model that within our relationship in our home with our sons. We also respect our sons, thoughts and feelings, whether we agree or not. This has established a good connection between us, so what I say and how I feel has more impact on him. He has respect for his parents because we show him respect/don't shame or punish when he makes a mistake. He is right on cue developmentally in this regard and also more mature then his many peers. This does not mean I would not be disappointed to find out that he had sex last night at his friends house, but I would deal with that accordingly. There would be no punishment, anger or making him feel bad though. I would express my concerns as I see that as reasonable and fair and this is how our relationship ( in particular) and all relationships work. ( or should anyway in my beliefs) It would be hard for me to tell my son an 'ok age' to start, as that is not the message or feelings I try to promote or convey. Sex and relationships to me are not about age but rather maturity, a deeper understanding and respect/knowledge as to why one feels they are ready. We have always referred to sex in a relationship context also. So we have never really talked about it in a 'if I have opportunity' with some girl. Although likely to happen it's not my concern with what I have worked yrs on with establishing, teaching and role modeling. I have built a fair, respectful and understanding foundation and where he goes from there is his choice and will- not mine. He clearly knows my beliefs, boundaries and feelings on the subject of relationships and how we treat others, including ourselves. If my son asked me what age it was o.k I would not answer that personally, because I really don't know the answer. Many young children have sex due to poor relationship and connection with the parent, abuse, low self esteem and so forth. These things in themselves force a child to look for connection elsewhere due to the wired need in all of us from birth to attach and bond with others, that remains throughout life. If parents aren't able to give it or understand how to nurture it- kids will find it elsewhere. With teens if there is not much attachment to the parent for whatever reason, sex does and typically becomes an avenue for them to feel some sort of connection. So I would not say a child at 13 yr old is wrong for having sex or even 15 depending on the reason they feel they need to. I don't know their home life. I would ask my son about what he thinks and how he feels about it. What he thinks is appropriate and why. I would encourage him to think and question himself. My post has become to long but I say all of this in hope for the parents out there who have younger children and are struggling and fearful of this subject with their kids. It's important as parents that we figure out how our past has influenced us now on this subject and to not parent from a place of fear and dread in this matter. Our children will be as ashamed and insecure as we are about sexuality/relationships if we don't get a grip over our fears and why those fears exist. Our children are not us. I don't say any of this with ease either. None of this came natural to me as a parent. I had to literally stop constantly and question myself and why I was about to respond the way I did and still do. Negative or positive. Important for me though was to make sure my responses weren't fear based due to my own garbage and negative past experiences, so that my sons could and can have the experience and knowledge they really deserve. The world is scary but I don't' care to instill fear, but only ways that keep the confidence that my boys were born with, intact as much as possible, so that they can deal with the world- and not be consumed or overwhelmed.

Dianne - posted on 05/23/2012

Sex at 15 and 16 is NOT responsibility in these young kids.....just because they have sex doesnt mean they are "adults" who can make their own decisions!!!! Why can't we let our kids be KIDS instead of saying okay to everything. Setting higher standards for our kids would be the responsible thing to do.

Deborah - posted on 05/22/2012

So true. Having sex at 15 is not responsible and a mother that approves it is setting the wrong standard.

Deborah - posted on 05/22/2012

Amen. I agree.

Tabitha - posted on 05/22/2012

Well Paige, I hope we don't see you posting anytime soon about becoming a granny. Having sex at 15 is NOT responsible, I don't care how careful she says she's being. The responsible thing for a girl taking the "adult step" would be to abstain from sex.

Paige - posted on 05/22/2012

well my daughter is 15 too and is having sex and my opinion is to trust her and now that she has taken the step to becoming an adult by having sex responsibly , let her make her own decisions with her love/sex life .

Ramona - posted on 05/17/2012

I know my kids would never even ask!!! Heavens NO!! I would not care if the were 25, it is just disrespectful. .

Deborah - posted on 05/17/2012

I don't think my daughter would ever contemplate asking me this as she would know not to. But I if she ever did my reply would be 'of course your boyfriend can sleepover and in your bed' followed by 'were are you staying'. This is not about her boyfriend staying over its about her respect for you and your wishes. the chances are even if he did stay over nothing would happen. if you brought your boyfriend home to your parents house at 15 would you really want your mum or dad to hear you, even when i was married and we visited my parents I would'nt feel confortable having sex know they were in the next room, thnk i'd rather wait til i went home.
the problem is if you allow it once it will continue and do you want that in your home.

Patricia - posted on 05/16/2012

I agree with Sam - this website is a great place to get other parents opinions. There is no such thing as a perfect parent and we all have different views on things. Sometimes seeing things from a different persepective helps us in making the hard decisions. Everything is not black and white. In the end - I think we all need to do what we feel is right for ourselves and our family regardless. We can't please everyone and we need to be able to live with our decisions - which is why we can't let others decide for us what to do.

Sam - posted on 05/15/2012

To each his own/her own way of raising children. Its good to read different opinions and I'm sure everyone is just trying to do the best they can to raise good, healthy, thriving and honest children! :D

Deborah - posted on 05/15/2012

Amen! Dianne

Dianne - posted on 05/15/2012

I would not allow my son to even think about sleeping over a girls house.....tell your daughter that this kind of behavior is condoning her boyfriend to disrespect her!!!!!! Get the other parents involved, too!!!