Disrespectful 17 year old.

Ruth - posted on 11/05/2017 ( no moms have responded yet )

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My son just turned 17 in August. With that came disrespecting. He talks back and now refuses to attend school. Idk what to do.

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Leslie - posted on 11/08/2017

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Had your son been disrespecting you at all before he turned 17? If this is a totally new behavior including the not going to school I would try to talk to him and see what he feels changed and why he feels this is acceptable now. Have his friends changed? Is it possible he's gotten involved in drugs or drinking? He needs to understand that you are not OK with this kind of behavior and if he is going to continue to live with you he will need to go to school - or get a job and contribute to household expenses (you have to decide what you want and if you're willing to risk him leaving too....). Is his father in the home? What does he think? Is he willing to talk to your son and back you on things? If he's not in the home can your son live with him? Teens are hard at times but since it sounds like this behavior came on suddenly I'd do some investigating as to why.

KimmyO - posted on 11/06/2017

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Yea, it is tough raising boys! They don't know how to show feelings until there is only anger and so that's all we hear from them. They are silent otherwise. I always told my son that in life you either work with your head or with your hands and if you don't use your head, you will work w your hands! Take him out on some manual labor jobs and talk w some of the workers there w him present. Ask them if they wished they had gone to school and why. Maybe get him a temp job working hard outide and let him see how hard it is. Sometimes the more we push the more they push back and you get no where fast by saying he should really go to school or by controlling them too much. They want to be men, and yet don't have the wisdom. give him some life lessons that he won't soon forget, he will take school more seriously maybe then. Also, give him choices and when you can, let him know you respect him when he makes good ones but don't save him from consequences of bad choices or he won't learn. Hope this helps. They all grow up, he'll be fine and so will you. =)

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