Does age matter.................Boyfriend same age as mom

Wendy - posted on 10/28/2009

hello there, I feel the same way as you do ,I have an almodt 20 yr old and I would be worried too,unfortunately we cant do anything to change their minds just hope they know what theyre doing and be there to pick up the pieces, I wish you patience and luck that this works to your favor because theres a huge generation gap here ,good luck and take care.......wendy

Tammy - posted on 10/27/2009

Oh how wonderful to have your daughter home for Christmas!!! The good Lord does answer our prayers. I think this maybe alittle harder then you think so if you have a close friend or other relatives that can join you that wouldn't be a bad idea! You will have a chance to check him out; which I pray eases your mind somewhat. Believe me, she may look at him and then at you and come to her own conclusions....seeing the two of you together may be more of a shock then any of us could imagine!!! Either way, I know you will love and enjoy every minute you get to spend with her. She is very young, and I would bet....This too shall pass! As always praying for you, Tam

Jackie - posted on 10/27/2009

Thank you so much everyone, she rang me yesterday to say he is paying for tickets home for the two of them for Christmas, I will get to see him and it will truly be special to see Laura. He is getting a hire car and staying in a local hotel ( Thank God ) . Thanks for being with me on this , I feel odd about him , but I will give him the benefit of my doubt, he seems to be making Laura very happy.I will get back to you all on this , fingers crossed for us xx................Jackie

Tammy - posted on 10/27/2009

Dear Jackie, Pray, and pray some more. Remember you raised her and gave her all the tools to make the right decisons. Hopefully she will see that they have very little in common and it will be short lived! You, are right there is little you can do but love her and be there for her when the walls come crashing down. If she ask your opinion be honest and tell her your concerns...if not bite your tongue. She can read between the lines, after all she is your daughter! May prayers are with you! Tammy

Shelly - posted on 10/27/2009

Respect her decision, but be honest with her! Tell her how you feel but do it respectfully so that you don't push her away. Age truly is a number and if it was my daughter, I would be stressed too. She sounds pretty level headed and apparently you've raised her quite well, so put faith in that and stand by her side! She'll come to you when she needs you and that's what is most important.

Toni - posted on 10/26/2009

As hard as it is always try and look on the bright side, yes its destressing that she is dating someone twice her age, but on the plus point,at least he has a job. Imagine how you would feel if she was dating a guy her age that had no job, took drugs and treated her badly, the chances are you will agree someone 21 years older is preferable.

Maria - posted on 10/25/2009

I don't want to be the bearer of bad news, but there's really not much you can do, hon. At this point, she will do what she believes is right for her, and apparently is impressed by this man enough to date him. Unless you can fly over to Australia to meet this guy in person to check him out,or have an investigator check him to put your mind at ease without letting your daughter know, all you can do right now is sit tight and give her your love and support. It doesn't necessarily mean you approve of her choice, it just means that you'll be there for her when she needs you. She sounds like a responsible young woman. It's hard for us as mothers to see our children make their mistakes, if this is one, but then it might not be, and if it is, it is something she has to find out for herself and learn from on her own. Let's just pray that she'll make the right choices. Good luck!