Kristi - posted on 05/20/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )
My daughter is a very grown up 12 1/2 year old. She cooks, stays after school everyday for homework club, does gymnastics. I know that sounds like every other kid in middle America. My daughter has had to grow up fast under some pretty intense circumstances. In any event, I have tried, on more than one occasion & from more than one direction to have The Talk with her. Of course, she doesn't want to talk about any of it & she gets embarrassed when we talk about her getting her period. She says it's gross & disgusting. I told her, light heartedly that yah, it kind of is but it is totally normal & we all have it & we all get used to it, etc. When I try to talk to her about boys & their body parts & then what they go through she gets angry & plugs her ears & yells at me that she does not need to know this & so on. If we get through that and make it to actual intercourse, pregnancy & birth control (in the opposite order!) she gets even worse. She will cry & she starts to catastrophize everything. She says her body is nasty & disgusting. I asked her if she was talking about all our inside stuff or her outside. She told me all of it, it is all nasty. Of course, I tried to comfort her & I talked to her about how beautiful our bodies are. What a miracle they are, especially a woman's. But she was adamant. I am worried there might be something more going on & I don't know how else to help her. I went to the school, they invited parents to come & see the materials & talk with the teacher,etc. Do you believe out of a school of 500 kids only 4 parents showed? Anyways, the teacher gave me the packet he's using in class so I brought that home & tried to go over it with her, hoping to dispell some shock value & help her ease into it. Samething all over again. Absolutely crazy mad about why should kids her age be learning about something they shouldn't even be considering until they are like at least 16 or 17 and even then that's messed up. So please, mom's who have been there, done this, I need help! Thank you!