extremely worried about my 14 year old.

Shannon - posted on 04/20/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 14 year old sleeps for a very few hours when she comes home from school and I'm not sure what to think of it. She is very active and plays sports but, she's has had problems with self mutilation. Her old counsler told me that it could be abuse that was making her self injure but, she won't admit to any abuse by her father or step mother and since her counsler told me this my daughter said she's fine and doesn't need to go anymore. I have also recently seen that she's having an extremely hard time sleeping. Eaither she can't get to sleep or she twist and turns in her sleep from nightmares. It has gotten so bad that at times she'll begin to scream. I'm not sure how to help. Any advice?

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Louise - posted on 04/21/2011

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I think this little girl is troubled and needs to be in therapy to talk things through. If you can sit down and tell her you are worried about her and ask her if there is anything you can do to help her. Let her chat to you and open up. There maybe troubles at school you know nothing about. This could be a number of things. you really need to get to the root of all this. This is not normal teenage behaviour and she needs help, there is something deep routed here that needs to come out.

Amanda - posted on 04/20/2011

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Hello my Name is Amanda my step-daughter is 21 now but I remember how hard it was with her, her mother and step father were mentally abusing her I had her in therapy for a long time, I hate to say that even with that she still learned that no self esteem and running away was the way to live.
I think you are doing the right thing if your doing the best you can do to protect your daughter, therapy and letting her know she doesn't have to visit there, we had to go as far as getting a restraining order against her mom and step dad, so she didn't have to see them the anxiety went away slowly,
it may not be the abuse per se but maybe just the things that are said.
also I know it sounds odd but have you tried having a sleep study she'll think it's for the way she sleeps but it will give you answers on her REM sleep, she naps after school because she probably isn't hitting that rem sleep at all.
I hope some of what I say helps even if just ideas to keep in the back of your mind.
good luck, God Bless
Amanda

Amanda - posted on 04/20/2011

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Hello my Name is Amanda my step-daughter is 21 now but I remember how hard it was with her, her mother and step father were mentally abusing her I had her in therapy for a long time, I hate to say that even with that she still learned that no self esteem and running away was the way to live.
I think you are doing the right thing if your doing the best you can do to protect your daughter, therapy and letting her know she doesn't have to visit there, we had to go as far as getting a restraining order against her mom and step dad, so she didn't have to see them the anxiety went away slowly,
it may not be the abuse per se but maybe just the things that are said.
also I know it sounds odd but have you tried having a sleep study she'll think it's for the way she sleeps but it will give you answers on her REM sleep, she naps after school because she probably isn't hitting that rem sleep at all.
I hope some of what I say helps even if just ideas to keep in the back of your mind.
good luck, God Bless
Amanda

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