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Sheila - posted on 01/19/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I have been dealing with cancer for 16 months now, my 2 daughters are taking it hard, my oldest is 16 & seems to be rebelingb not sure how much of that is normal or do to the cancer my 14 yr old hasn't changed in attitude at all what do you think?

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Sherrie - posted on 09/03/2011

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First get ahold of yourself.I just went through this 3 monthes ago, and honey I am cancer free so far!I told everyone right away. I needed the support from everyone.I felt it was the right thing to do.I have a 36 yr old ,34 and a lil 21/2 yr. old.And my husband and family. It was really hard but i felt better AFTER i told them.They helped me recover and do everything i had to do.I was so blessed by the Lord, i had Uterine cancer and they took everything you can imagine out but so far so good, i pray every night it doesn't come back.I will pray for you all and as for me i put EVERYTHING IN GODS HANDS, because mentaly i couldn't handle it both my parents died from cancer so, i was very aware i was at risk.Pray hun, and leave it in Gods hands or (your higher power) if you don't have one i suggest you find him.He helped me (or angels helped me through everything!i felt it!)Good luck and God Bless sweetheart!hugs ,Sher

Cecilia - posted on 01/22/2010

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I agree with the other ladies. They need someone to talk to. You should go to. You and your family are going throguh alot . This must be scary for them. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. May GOD give you the strength to get through this.

Mary - posted on 01/20/2010

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I just said a prayer for you and your girls. And for your health too....

Reactions can vary to a Moms having cancer. Please get some family counseling for you and your girls. I do not normally believe in counseling, but in thins like this, it is very necessary.
Best of luck to you fellow Mom. May God lead and heal you. :O)
Mary~

Chandra - posted on 01/20/2010

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I agree! I used to work at a Cancer center and we had a counselor on site! Hang in there and keep up the fight!! I will be thinking of you!!
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Jany - posted on 01/19/2010

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Oh my gosh, I'm truly sorry for your situation! I believe these ladies are right! Try to get them (all of you) spme help. You really need to stay strong and take care of your self so that you can get better. I would just tell let your girls know that your are here right now and this time is precisous... Just keep telling them how much you love them and let them know how you feel. How great it would be to have their help and support so,, that you can ger better. It is good for our children to see that we are strong for them but we too are afraid. It makes us humans in their eyes. I wish you strength, clarity, wellness...God bless you! :)

Angie - posted on 01/19/2010

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Amy is right, get your daughters (even the one who seems okay) in to therapy just to make sure they are okay. My 3 nieces dealt with this when they were in their teens. 2 of the girls have come out of it okay, the youngest is a mess (she's 22 now) and I really believe it's because she didn't get the help she needed when her family was battling her father's cancer. God bless you and your family - it's a tough fight you've been handed...

Amy - posted on 01/19/2010

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Your 16 year old could be acting out in fear. Maybe she could talk to a counselor (like a family cancer counselor). Cancer has a huge effect on the whole family. I lost my sister to Cancer three years ago, and it has changed my whole family. I wish you lots of luck. Teenagers do rebel normally, so I'm sure that some of it is probably normal.



Edited to add: When I was 13 I came home and told my mom that for the next five years we couldn't be friends. I was informed that by my sex ed teacher. lol So... that could be part of it.

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