Help! my 17 year old son is adamant about getting his GED

Terry - posted on 02/18/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Looking for support from other single moms dealing with teen boys

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Lucy - posted on 02/23/2011

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It isn't true that there is no difference at all for colleges whether you have a high school degree or a GED. It depends on the college. Community colleges and state schools will probably accept either. If he isn't doing well in school he isn't going to be going to a better school anyhow, so it may be a moot point. But if he really is doing well academically and has his sights on particular schools, have him check into them and see if they accept GEDs and if they give it the same weight as a high school degree. I know that home schooled kids with GEDs get into good schools but that is because colleges know that home schooled kids do well overall.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/21/2011

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I think probably so...I only knew because we were trying to save the "nephew from hell"...but he was already beyond help in that regard.

Jane - posted on 02/21/2011

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That may have changed recently because of needing bodies in the Middle East. When my friend's "step son from Hell" tried, only the Army would accept a GED. He managed to break the law before he started boot camp so he ended up out because of that.

Cathy - posted on 02/21/2011

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Terry, I am a single mother with three boys. Oldest one quit school and now wants his GED. Middle one wants to graduate next year but may not have the grades for it. It's to soon to tell yet about the youngest but A's in middle school give me hope for scholarships.
My advice is to have him take the practice GED test online to see if he can pass. Here if they pass the GED with high enough marks they will get a State Diploma and not a General Equivelancy Diploma. ( looks better at the University)
It costs nothing to take the practice and if he has a hard time in one area he will know what he has to study for.
My oldest takes the practice test once a week just to get his % up before taking it for real.
Don't fret about it , He may decide sticking it out another year may be best.
Cathy

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/21/2011

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@Jane: Actually, EVERY military branch allows a certain percentage of their recruitment class to be GED holders, as long as they score well on the entrance exams, or have a waiver from a recruiter.
http://www.ehow.com/info_7931867_branche...

http://usmilitary.about.com/od/joiningth...

http://usmilitary.about.com/cs/genjoin/a...

So millitary service is not out, as you can see from the 3 links provided here

Jane - posted on 02/18/2011

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Unlike others answering here so far, I am a single mom because my husband was ill for a long time and could not parent, and then he passed away, leaving me a widow.



With that said, does your son have plans beyond getting his GED, such as joining the army, going to trade school, or attending college? If so, then give him full your support but do consider whether he is emotionally ready to leave the nest. Some kids are and some are not at his age.



My sister really hated the high school she was in and got her GED so she could go on to college a year early. She is now a PhD so obviously it didn't do her any harm. She has no regrets. OTOH my daughter enjoyed every minute of high school and so stayed on to graduate and then go to college.



However, my son, now 16, hates school and would be delighted to stop. He is not much of a scholar and I suspect would never finish the GED program. He also does not have specific plans after school other than "I'll live with you, Mom." His school offers a program that will make him a certified welder by the end of senior year so if he stays in he will be employable. He has been told that he WILL graduate no matter what, and his grandfather has offered a financial incentive to each grandchild that does. Thus, we have both carrot and stick.



However, if your son wants to get his GED but has no idea what he wants to do next you need to talk to him and explain that unless he comes up with a plan he needs to stay in school. Also, while a GED is generally accepted by colleges, it is NOT accepted by the US Navy and may not be accepted by the Air Force.



In any case, once he is 18 he is legally an adult and can make his own choices whether you approve or disapprove. It is always a good idea to be sure not to burn any bridges, though, so you need to consider how you express disapproval. Getting a GED is MUCH better than simply dropping out.

Kelly - posted on 02/18/2011

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Not sure if you are in favor of this or against it, or what the full story is behind it. Does he want to quit school to just get his GED? In either case, if he is wanting to get his GED, support him. Sometimes, in some cases, kids and school are just like oil and water. If he is trying to find an alternative to quitting school altogether, he should be supported if he's looking to get his GED. If he's been out of school and wants to get his GED, same deal...support him.

Stay strong and good luck girl.

Angie - posted on 02/18/2011

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I'm not a single mother either but if I had a child who hated school or was struggling in school, I'd be glad to see him get a GED. As Shawnn said, as long as he does well his GED isn't going to hold him back at all.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/18/2011

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Terry, I'm not single, but I would say that if he'd rather get his GED, and he would do well on the tests, go ahead and let him. It won't hold him back from futher educational opportunity. (I work at a college, and while they like to see a HS transcript, they will also accept a GED, and if the scores are good, there is no difference). He also is not out any financial opportunities.



This is tough for me, because the one thing I've told both my boys is that they WILL finish school. Their dad didn't, but he did get his GED, and an advanced degree after we got married. He is glad he did that, but I don't know how many times I've heard him say he wished he'd just gone to school and graduated.



Best of luck with this! You are already doing one of the hardest jobs around (IMHO) as a single mom!

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