Rachel - posted on 10/10/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )
I have a 13 year old that keeps me at the end of my rope. Short of buying/giving her anything and everything she wants, how do I get her over this? Everything from her clothes and underwear to her hair is wrong. I've tried everything. She ends up in tears and I do too. (Although she never sees mine) She has a closet full of clothes that she picked out, yet never has anything to wear. Nothing is ever right, anything I suggest in not good enough. I know this is a hard age. Friends, body images, and trying to fit in is stressful at any age, but 13 is huge. I'm losing my mind. I teach high school,so I know about teens abd their issues, but don't know where to go with this. Today I asked her to think about what is coming out of her motuh and what she really sounds like. All I get is "Sorry mom" (yelling). "That's why I don;t like myself!" Tehnshe storms off. Everything is so emotional. She yells at me all the time. I know some of this is the typical teenager syndrome, but I have been dealing with this crap her literally since she was four. I make sure she knows how much I love her, how proud we are of her and that I feel so lucky to be her mom. We don;tput any pressure on her about anything, she does enough of that herself. I feel like I am raising a spoiled brat, even though she does hear "no" quite a bit. I'm getting so depressed and frustrated about the situation! It is affecting the whole family. Her little brother just runs to the other room to get away from her tantrum-like behavior. HELP! I need suggestions!