Carol - posted on 05/20/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )
I have a 16 year old boy who is very disrespectful and defiant. I have raised or helped raise 6 teenagers and have never had to deal with anything this bad. when he is given a curfew he just says I forgot the time or just says he isn't going to listen to it. He is to come home after school and let us know where he is going. but he doesn't even bother coming home. sometimes he leaves for school and doesn't come home till 9:00-10:00 pm. He was at the doctor and his urine came back negative for drugs. A year ago he was a happy kid who always cared about peoples feelings and made everyone laugh. Now he says he doesn't care. We try to punish him by taking things and grounding him but he doesn't care he just goes anyway. We have tried praising him and rewarding him for doing a good job, and I have tried talking to him but he just says. Just leave me alone, let me do what I want. He may flunk tenth grade. We have always had to keep on him to do his homework but he never got close to flunking. I don't know where to go from here. He won't go to counseling. He just says no and he will not go. You may say make him but how do we make him if he just says he is not going and nothing you say will get him in the car. Please if you have advise let me know. But if you haven't been through this please don't just say make him do it because you wouldn't understand when i say we haven't found anything to make him do it.