High School Worries!

Tonya - posted on 08/15/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My oldest daughter will be starting high school this year. She's somewhat excited and nervous at the same time. I've been hearing her ask alot lately about high school bullies. I told her not to stress over this and just be herself. I think she's afraid of not being accepted so readily. Anyone out there with some ideas, on how I can help her overcome these high school worries? Thanks

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Shelly - posted on 08/18/2009

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Tonya,

First off relax every child going into a new situation gets the butterflys and starts letting thier imagination run away from them...Second is this a new school district that she's going to or will she have some of her friends there with her from middle school?? Just try not to be to worked up your self or she will feed off of it and just help her enjoy her school years because as we all know they will be over before they know it...Just encourage her in what a lovely young lady she is becoming and that she is going to have the greatest high school expieriance. I think if I would of been encouraged more in stead of pushed so hard I would of enjoyed school more!!! Good luck and let us know how it goes

Mona - posted on 08/17/2009

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My boys will be starting high school and college in the fall.
I agree with Raquel's advice.
I would also say to keep that communication open. Don't brush off her problems as they come up....remember how you felt as a teen.
Mona - http://moremilestones.blogspot.com

Raquel - posted on 08/17/2009

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i've worked at the high school level for 8 years now. as long as she makes the right friends and stays out of the rowdy crowd she'll be ok. but tell her to join clubs or and or anything that has a positive enviroment. also, do let her go to football games and basketball games and all the school dances she can. she shouldn't miss out.



as for you. let her have all the friends she want over so you can meet them and learn to trust her and her crowd. the more kids you meet the better for you. i allow my girls to bring freinds over all the time. then we talk privately about whatever issues she might be concerned with. you should also let the friends know that you'll be there for them as well without judgement. just be a mom for them, some parents are not around for other kids when they need them and one or two may be looking for an adult to be able to talk to.



good luck



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Carrie - posted on 08/19/2009

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I agree with several of the post here. If she is going to have friends from her previous school that will help. And keeping an open communication is really good. Opening up your house not only let's you get to know her friend's but somtimes it gives her friend;s that may not have anywhere else to go a safe place to hang out. My daughter started 9th this year and I have a son in 8th. They both have friend's over alot. We live in a small town and my son hads 2 friend's that come from homes that do not have good relationships so they really like to come to our home. They have fun here. They like that we all talk about things and joke around. My daughter talks to me about alot of stuff that I know several of her friend's don't talk to their parents about. She feels comfortable with this. We don't always go into deep conversations sometimes it is just small things said in the car to and from school or at dinne. But this keeps us open. Latley her thing has been to ask us 'So how has everyones day gone?" it is nice to have a teenager ask here parents that.

Karen - posted on 08/18/2009

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it has alot to do with the friends she makes.it's tuff,girls can be so caty.high school is alot easier than middle school.

Dawn - posted on 08/18/2009

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Just remind her that her friends from Jr. high are also gonna be these kids at high school so just be herself & she will be ok..

Nancy - posted on 08/18/2009

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Maybe not the first day but drop in time to time and have lunch with her. Her friends will think it is cool that her mom has lunch with her and probably want to talk to you as much if not more than her. You might be surprised at how many kids have parents who never come to school unless they are in the principals office!

Tonya - posted on 08/18/2009

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Thanks for the advice Shelly. She will be in the same school district. I take her on the 20th to register her, and on the 22nd the school is having a, "Freshman Day". We will definetly be there. One more question. Should I go with her on her first day? Will that be overdoing it?

Tonya - posted on 08/17/2009

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Quoting raquel:

i've worked at the high school level for 8 years now. as long as she makes the right friends and stays out of the rowdy crowd she'll be ok. but tell her to join clubs or and or anything that has a positive enviroment. also, do let her go to football games and basketball games and all the school dances she can. she shouldn't miss out.

as for you. let her have all the friends she want over so you can meet them and learn to trust her and her crowd. the more kids you meet the better for you. i allow my girls to bring freinds over all the time. then we talk privately about whatever issues she might be concerned with. you should also let the friends know that you'll be there for them as well without judgement. just be a mom for them, some parents are not around for other kids when they need them and one or two may be looking for an adult to be able to talk to.

good luck

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