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My son has started dating a girl we have known for a few years. They have been dating about 4 months now. She has always been a 'high needs' kind of girl and things haven't changed. I loved this girl as she was sweet and a generally good kid, just a handful. She and my youngest had talked about 'dating' but when they all met, her and my oldest started dating. He has never had a girlfriend ever and is now 'in love' with this girl. She does stupid things to him, like say something about a specific band that gets my son totally rialled up and almost to the point of hurting himself from the rage. He won't tell me what she said but he said she has said something. She also calls him names like 'stupid' etc and bosses him around and is always hitting him. I have taken him aside and told him that someone who 'loves' you doesn't hurt you. He doesn't listen. When they are together, which is not that often, they totally disregard my rules and completely ignore my requests. She lives out of town and when I said absolutely not for him going over there for a few days, they tried to sneak out of town with her mom when I was at work. I have had it and I don't know what to do. If I completely ban him from seeing this girl, it's going to make him want to be around her more. I don't know how to get him to see how she is not a great person for him and she is going to hurt him. She also tried to kiss my other son when he had his back turned the last time she was here. Help??? I don't want to alienate my son but I also don't want to see him screw up his life for this crazy girl. She just gets crazier and more disrespectful every time she is around and talks to me! I have limited his contact for next while due to the attempt to disappearing but things still aren't changing. Ughh!!! Help!