April - posted on 07/26/2011 ( 33 moms have responded )
I need to know how to handle my 15 year old son. He was recently in a fight with a girl who lives down the street and it seems she kicked him in the groin. He needs to see his doctor but he refuses to go. His doctor is a lady and my son's embarrassed about having to get undressed and he's also embarrassed to have to explain to the doctor that he was injured by a girl.
He has been seeing this doctor for several years and I know he likes her, although he has never had to undress for her. It's not like he'll be traumatized by it. He's just afraid she will see his thing. I understand his embarrassment but he has to see her. I've already made an appointment for him.
I've explained to the nurse the problem and she says the doctor wants him to come in to talk with her. I asked the nurse if "talking" is all the doctor has in mind. The nurse says it depends on her findings. If she feels she needs to examine him he will have to undress. I asked the nurse what would happen if he refused an examination. She said it's up to the doctor to decide - if the doctor believes he should be examined, then he will have to comply, and if he refuses, she could potentially have him hospitalized. I thought yikes!
I believe once he's allowed her to examine him just one time he will no longer be afraid to undress for her in the future when the need arises. He just needs to get over it somehow. How do I coax him to see his doctor without actually forcing him? I know he's not going to like this. Should I tell him about my conversation with the nurse?
Thanks in advance