HOW DO I GET MY TEENAGER TO RESPECT ME MORE

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There is so much pent up junk in the teenage brain...I think that different ages have a lot to do with when they start to show disrespect. I have 3 teenage boys and a 10 year old daughter. I have come to notice an increase of disrespect when there are physical changes...around 10, 12, 14, 16 creating a lot of internal caos for them. With my oldest..I lost my patience with him A LOT!! He got very lazy, very apathetic about everything...the more I pushed, the harder he dug in his heels about school, life, chores...etc... I realized that I was losing control of me, not him. He would really upset me to the point that there was a lot of arguing and fighting just on the simpliest of things. There were days I thought that I was going to lose it! He was a great instructor for me. He is 17 now and the joy of my life. I realized that whenever those physical changes came..he slept more, he did less. I also realized that I was expecting him to be MATURE about stuff that he couldn't be as they are subject to outside influences and still learning about making good choices. I learned that I needed to not have auguments with him(which created some of the disrespect, verbally). When he would start to get mouthy, I walked away. I would put myself in my room and stay there until I could stop shaking with anger or feeling that I needed to declare that I was right and he was wrong. That was worse to him than yelling or phyically slapping his face!!(which never made me feel better, it just made things worse. He was out of control in the situation when I left. When I came out of the room, I didn't speak to him, I made him approach me. I even periodically let him see how it affected me (if it made me cry). I tried to show him the consequences of his actions thus creating maturity. It is a requirement for an sincere apology to be given if your actions or words have been offensive or disrespectful in our home. I don't demand it right away..I require that it be thought out. I have learned to apologize, too, when I am not respectful to him. I am fortunate to have a husband who has taught his sons from day one that they never are allowed to refer to me in a disrespectful way. Now, if my son hears one of his friends chewing on his mom or dad, he will tell them to stop. This I think, is one of the most difficult parts of being a teenager. But, as a parent, I have had to learn that I am in charge. When I treat my child with respect, he may come at me with stuff I don't like. But, if I only deal with that with anger or need to always be the boss, he will never learn to chose for himself how to properly give respect to women and children and to his peers...other boys. I have experienced it with my daughter and it works the same way. Keep your cool and they can't hack that! If their friends are disrespectful, ask them to leave. You wouldn't put up with that from an adult in your home. It is hard on your child..but if they know you won't take it, they will quickly learn to not give it.

Zana - posted on 09/10/2013

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I have identical twin 15 year olds who are lazy, disrespectful, self absorbed, ungrateful bullies. It doesn't matter what I do for them they still feel like it's not enough. If I try to discipline them for their behavior they gang up on me. They are a lot bigger than me too. I'm sure one day they'll beat the crap out of me. They also threaten to phone the authorities and have me put in jail if I touch them. I don't know what to do. I'm at the point where I don't even want them anymore. Their dad doesn't live with us but is a raging alcoholic with a dead end job. I couldn't even send them there. Help

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Be consistant with what you say. Dont forget to lead by example. Remeber to say your please and thank yous too. And when they forget, remind them that if they cant do something right away when you ask, then you cant do something right away when they ask.

Grant - posted on 10/05/2012

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Children, are only children as long as you treat them like children, give him responsibly. And back off a little from him, allow him to make decisions that affect him, and let him deal with the consequences.

How would you deal with someone in the work place treating you in a similar way, ignore them or refuse to work for them... why treat your children any differently.

If they do not respect you, why do their washing, cooking or give them pocket money. If they get angry do not shout, (would you shout at another adult who disagreed with you in conversation).



Teenagers want things, and they get things, this quickly becomes expect things. If the continue to get things when the expect things without working for them they can not respect it, they have no idea of its value.

Adults respect their and others property and other people, because they know the value of them, through having to work to pay for them (or maintain a relationship with a person etc).

If a child does not have this they do not respect what they have because they have no way to qualitatively evaluate its value (what's a £100 to some one who has only ever been given money)

[please note I am speaking generically, I am not assuming that you personally give your child £100 every day :) ]

So by extension, if they do not know the value of something, they can not understand or respect the person that gives it to them (I include the support, and help in living in a house and in raising them in that comment)



So top tips

Treat them like you would an adult, give them choices which impact on their lives and expect them to be responsible.

If they are not, why go out of your way to help them, that gives the entirely wrong message.

Make them work for things. How can you know the value of a car journey, or a new game, or the dinner if you have never had to work for a wage?

Finally do not just bombard them with it all, pick one suggestion and see how it works. Oh and this is not a quick fix solution, this is how to deal with real issues in the long run.

Celeste - posted on 09/26/2009

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You need to be consistant with punishment. is all I can say. don't let things slide, deal with it when it happens. don't give into their guilt trips they will try to put on you and blame you for having them and they didnt ask to be born, blah blah blah. don't isolate them either because that is what they want is to be left alone but in reality they dont want that. They just want their way. all kids are different. what works for one does not work for the other. I have 4 girls at home 18 yo(dtr), 16 yo(dtr), 15 yo (niece) and 14 yo (stepdaughter). It's ok to be their friend but there is limits and they need to know that you are the parent and what you say goes. Do not be wishy washy. stand your ground and be strong. My kids know when I say no it's no and don't ask again. Now I am not a strict mother but the girls know my rules. they get whatever they want within reason of course, but if they screw up then i take it all away. And when I feel like they deserve to get it back then they do, it all goes back to how you raise your kids also. My girls were spoiled but they also knew that I was in control. I don't yell or curse at them. I talk to them. don't get me wrong I have yelled plenty of times but you also have to learn to pick your battles. If you get mad at them for every little thing they do they just figure if I do XXXXX i'm gonna get yelled at or if I do YYYYY I'm gonna get in trouble so they just do what they want knowing they are gonna get in trouble either way. whether it be good or bad. example.. my 2 older daughters skipped school last year and went to the zoo and did some other stuff then came home after school like nothing. then my oldest dtr drank a beer that was left by my brother in law in the fridge. one night after all this happened the girls and i were talking and they spilled the beans on each other telling stuff they had done and they laughed about it and then they began to confess all the things they had done. Well at that time I didn't get mad at them. I just told them don't let it happen again or you will be sorry. I did ask the questions well what did you get out of it and did the beer make you sick and all that stuff. then report cards came out a few days later and my middle dtr was failing a class well she got grounded. then the older one got a ticket well she lost her driving priveledges. well i over heard the girls talking amongst themselves saying mom grounds us for the little things and dosent get mad at us for the big stuff such as examples above. well then I butted in and said the reason for that is I give you one chance. everyone makes mistakes. but if you do it again then you have to pay the consequences. the grades thing is always an issue, the ticket was the 2nd time etc.. I remember being a teenager and my parents not letting me do anything. I still did it and most of the time they didnt know what I did. I was always angry with my parents so I was disrespectful cuz they got mad at me for everything I did right or wrong. So with mine I have always told them I give you once chance to screw up and thats it. I have taught them right from wrong so they know what the right thing to do is. And crossing my fingers, but as of this day I have not had any real problems. Yes there is times when my oldest who just turned 18 tries to get mouthy. Cuz she thinks she knows everything and is an adult now. So I just remind her I am still you mother. Not your friend, and if you don't like it and you think you can make it on your own then there's the door. but you are not taking anything I bought you. So she quickly realizes she better shut up. I can say I am my daughters friend. But they know I am their parent first. And what I say goes. I let them voice their opinions their gripes and complaints, but I have the final word. And when I say no it's no. My husband stresses the fact all the time that being dishonest and disrespectful is going to be tolerated. He reminds them of this every chance he gets. So they know if they screw up they dont get what they want. or if they already have it it gets taken away. We remind them their cell phones, computers, tv, car, shopping is all a priveledge if they dont do the right thing then they lose it all. its easier to comply and have everything than lie and be disrespectful and have nothing. I tell the girls it's your choice. You decide what you want..

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Mervat - posted on 02/17/2014

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my daughter sings hurt having fun I'm going out and her feelings are more important than minespecially I'm flat broke I suffer from bipolar disorderno matter how hard I try to convince her to feel sorry for me I'm stuck with the Flies your old 24 /7summer or no I give a same treatmentand I do all the chores in the house the heavy duty basement yard. it's getting worse by the minute

Lynn - posted on 09/10/2013

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Zana - Possibly, your children need a strong influence in their lives right now, but do not have fight with them because that will cause more disobedient behavior. Say what you need in as few words as possible and then let it go. Also, if you are going to engage them try to do it on a one on one basis because their strength is greatest together. If by chance either of them does lay a hand on you then you can also pick up the phone and call the police. Teens can be ungrateful, rude, selfish and lazy, but don't be a victim to their bulling. Don't allow them to draw you into an argument whether you can win it or not. Be calm, firm and brief.

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I am in a relationship for the last four years. We are not living together although we would like too.

My partner has three children, two boys 14, 16 and a daughter 17. I have a boy of 14 who at the moment I don't know who he is. My partners daughter has given me a hard time over the four years. Only last year she kick off big style, that it prevented us buying a house together on the day we were actually going to sign for it. In the last 12 months my life has changed due to my son whom is now so desrespectful and aggressive towards me. A couple of days ago my partner has said that my son is dsyfuntional which upset me deeply because of this I have now split up with him. I am now questioning myself for doing this as I feel that the children are controlling the relationship we had. I`m not sure what to do next.

My partner would like us to get back together but I feel embarrassed the way my son is treating me as he said none of his children would respect him in such a way that my son does.

Barbara - posted on 10/17/2012

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It seems that all the mom's I'm talking to with teenage girls are having this problem with 'the mouth', including me. I have removed her ipod, taken away her cell phone, restricted her after school activities, refused to permit her her favorite TV shows (especially those I abhor like Jersey Shore and their ilk). Most of these restrictions change her behavior for a short time, and then she backslides to bad habits. Now I tell her that I will simply refuse to speak to her until she can keep a civil tone, remove objectionable language, and discuss her issues with me calmly. I refuse to engage in debates or arguments, it only escalates until we are both extremely upset. During this I'm still treating her politely, still getting snotty replies, but going about my day without getting angry or frustrated. A dear friend suggested this, reminding me 'her attitude is her problem and I'm making it mine by getting sucked into the drama.' She had four teenage girls in her house til two went off to college. This seems to be having a positive affect, she knows she can't goad me into an angry response if I won't talk to her and I try to turn the tables with the 'teenage tune out' on her so I don't get too upset. So far it seems to be working. I also tried viewing her nasty mouth as though she was two again with the tantrums. Their approach is different, but it boils down to the same thing. I also push two issues, my trust is EARNED, but my love for her can never be diminished.

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First of all, what do you mean by respect? Do you really and truly respect your teenager? Think about it. Respect is something that is earned as the old saying goes but that is especially true when it comes to teenagers. Now I am NOT saying allow him free reign. What I am saying is that you need to respect your child as an individual with flaws and imperfections and love them nonetheless.



Now if you really want to get respect quickly, I suggest you go read the book "Have a new kid by Friday". Unfortunately I really cannot for the life of me remember the author's name but it is the most useful book you will ever read.



Basically, whenever the teenager disrespects you, you choose not do something they wanted. Such as if you ask him or her to help with dinner and refuse then you refuse to make them dinner. Make for the rest of the family but for them. Don't set them a place at the table etc. If they mouth off at you, refuse to lift them to their soccer practice or friends house or something. Important that you tell your kid exactly why you are doing whatever you are doing and that you FOLLOW THROUGH! Don't take their apology as a reason to lift them or make dinner. Just say NO! Eventually they will learn that unless they do as you ask (within reason of course) then they will be suffering. If they do as you ask, then remember to tell them that you appreciate it.



My advice, read the book. Best money I have ever spent.

Mercedes - posted on 10/07/2012

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My son was so out of control verbally and occasionally he even push me. I tried everything from counseling, medicines, rewards, punishments, talks you name it. The only thing that worked was public embarrassment. I arrange for me to go to school and sit during his classes. I stand at the bus top and told him how much I loved him as he was getting on the bus. I pulled the most embarrassing pics of him and treated him to put them on Facebook.

Shona - posted on 10/04/2012

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My son speaks to me like crap , swears all the time and,stays in my company and my parners company all the time and wont stop talking about shit, and inturupts me , i send him to his room all the time then he comes out of his room anyway, i also take things off him but he still does it again and again and again, im thinking of banning him from the living room that way i will get peace, he never goes out and he has no friends, he gets picked on at school, i have spoken to police and school and the mother to get the kid to stop picking on him and he still does but not as bad anymore,my son now lies to me about it and says everything is fine, he wont stand up to this kid like i have advised him to do so many times people to be honest my son is a total wimp,he will mouth back and annoy kids probally, i could imagine it as he does it to me 24/7 i never get a brake from it and its making my life a misory, dont tell me to get him to join clubs ect, there is hardly anything to do hear,and everyone of the ones he doenst mind there are kids there who bully him, he lets people walk all over him,its inbarassing,and shamefull.what the hell is wrong with him

Sandy - posted on 04/12/2012

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My seventeen year old seems to hate us. She is very disrespectful. I am signing us up for counseling...at my wits end.

Jennifer - posted on 04/12/2012

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I do everything around here she has no chores and when i ask her to do something she sometimes tells me no.I have a house hold of 5 thats including myself and i do all the cleaning and stuff. I try to get them to do stuff but failed.I feel like everyone is taking me for granted.

Sara - posted on 04/12/2012

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act like them talk ur usual way just let the house get relly horrable until the kid starts to tell you to clean up then say 'im having a vacation' leave it for a few more days and clean up,or wait unil the kid does it for you but i dont know how long that would take then hopefully she would appreciate you more. if you dont want to do this dont give it a second thought, but if you would risk it why not try it once or twice?

Jennifer - posted on 04/11/2012

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i have the same problem.I have a 13 year old daughter who thinks of only herself and excpects me to buy her things.She doesnt treat her father nice at all.And now all the sudden she is bisexual.I want my little girl back

Celeste - posted on 09/27/2009

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Quoting Janice:

By demanding it! Let your teenager know in order to get respect, you have to give it! If they still don't want to give it, stop doing things for them, like cleaning their room, washing their clothes, giving them spending money, etc.


Thats what I do Janice. If they don't do for me then I don't do for them. Like I said before pick your battles. At this age I don't wash their clothes anymore or clean their rooms. That is their responsibility. I stopped washing their closes when they were about 12 because they would complain that their sister had their socks or shirt or their jeans were in their sisters closet. So I told them to wash clothes themselves. The same thing with their rooms. The girls would complain when I cleaned their rooms that I put things in the wrong place. so when they got old enough they were in charge of their rooms. when they were younger I harped on them to keep their rooms clean but it always turned into a fight as they got into their teen years. so I don't bother with it. at first they rooms would be so dirty I just wanted to go in and clean it. but after a while they started to clean it themselves cuz they didnt want to be in a dirty room. 

Janice - posted on 09/27/2009

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By demanding it! Let your teenager know in order to get respect, you have to give it! If they still don't want to give it, stop doing things for them, like cleaning their room, washing their clothes, giving them spending money, etc.

Rochelle - posted on 09/26/2009

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exactally!!u need a game plan to disipline them and follow through!! its so important!! if you dont stick to your guns they will walk all over you..

Vicki - posted on 09/25/2009

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I think the most important thing is to respect yourself and always be decent and moral all the time. Next you must respect her. She is no longer a child and we still want to have complete control over everything in their lives but they want to control some parts of it and if it doesn't put them in danger or cause them to be in bad character then let them control those parts of her life. Teach her good morals and show her by example how they worked in your life. Talk to them in a normal tone never screaming. The louder you yell the less they hear. And talk and listen and talk and listen and listen and listen.

Sophia - posted on 09/25/2009

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Quoting Shan:

Be consistant with what you say. Dont forget to lead by example. Remeber to say your please and thank yous too. And when they forget, remind them that if they cant do something right away when you ask, then you cant do something right away when they ask.


I agree with Shan.  But also what I have seen in my friends teenage kids is that the moms try to be their best friend instead of a parent.  Be consistant not only iwth please and thank yous but also with house rules and that would help.  And try to listen more as well.

Paula - posted on 09/25/2009

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well from what i went through with my daughter i didn't get her respect until she moved out on her own and seen what the real world was all about.and now we are the best of friends.We do all that we can for our kids but they real don't learn until they have to do it them selves.The only thing i can tell you is stand your ground and pray and let god handle it.oh and if that doesn't work tell her to get out and get her own place because it's one one grown person in your house and thats you.

Lori - posted on 09/24/2009

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Wow, this site is grate. I just joined. I have a 13 yr. old boy who has gone from a sweatheart to a smartmouth and if starting to say disrespectful things to his father , brother and I. I trying everyday to figure out what will work to stop this before it gets worse. Hee really is a good boy. I feel like puberty has stolen my kid!! Will I ever get him back?

Keri - posted on 09/24/2009

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i have a 12 yr old like this i gues she is not yet a teen a pre teen i gues but same thing

Vickie - posted on 09/24/2009

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always remind her your setting rules because u love her and stand firm it will come trust me sometimes u have to be very cruel to be kind and just hope and pray it works its tough !!! sorry

Julia - posted on 09/23/2009

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If you figure this one out, please let me know. I have a daughter, now 23, and identical twin boys that are 17 and I struggle with this one always. My daughter does alot since she has graduated high school. The twins are still in high school and it is an everyday struggle. Good luck! Julia

Amber - posted on 09/23/2009

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This one is very tough for me @ times also! I feel that LOVE is the answer. whether its tough love or not! A friend once said to me if your teenager says she hates u you're doing your job:) I have found though that also having God as a central unit in the family helps! After all if they don't respect themselves, how can they respect you?

CARRIE - posted on 09/22/2009

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When you find a answer please let me know, I think I only have 6 strings of hair left on my head. (She's 17 an grown LOL.)

YVONNE - posted on 09/22/2009

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To Lisa Sowards post above: I love your honest response, I have a teenage son (14) at the moment and we go through some of the same struggles as most - it is a breath of fresh air to hear a parent who looks at themselves as well as the child and see's the value of the lessons to be learned on each side. During a time when it can often feel like I am loosing my sanity and i'm plagued with self doubt about my parenting skills I truly found your post inspiring ;-) Your man sound wonderfully supportive too so pat on the back for him!!

Shana - posted on 09/22/2009

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I know what you mean I have 4 girls 3 of witch are teens my 15year old an my 17 year old think everythings is about them an are realy negative about everything. Some days I dont think I will get through it but I am sure my mom thought the same thing and I turnded out ok so Im sure they will too ( i hope ) LOL

Donna - posted on 09/22/2009

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Setting healthy boundaries, and following through with the consequences, works for me.

Nancy - posted on 09/22/2009

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Allow the teenger to live long enough to grow out of the teens and into the twenties. As far as I can tell, time is the only thing that works.

Jennifer - posted on 09/22/2009

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ROTFL! Good Question... I think we are suppose to just take the "know it all, sassy mouth attitudes" of the teen years with a grain of salt, because the " I am so sorry I was like that" years will be here before we know it."Just do what I did and respond the way our parents did with us.... " Oneday I hope you have a son/daughter that is just like you." (A Mini Me!)

How I wish my parents had not spoken that over me but really... How right they were to say it because I was that bad too. LOL!

TOUCHE????

Nicole - posted on 09/22/2009

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I have been through all of what you are going through. "I" statements work the best with teenagers. " I would like it if you would do the dishes or clean your room" I know that sounds dumb but I learned that it works. My teenager was way out of control skipping school last year thinking she knows it all. I was losing my mind. every chance she got she would call the cops on me. well I truned it around on her and would call the cops on her and I ended up going to meetings and there is where I learned about "I statments and it really works. If you put it on you and say I instead of you need to do this and that they rethink about what you are saying. Trust me it works. My kid goes to school now and we talk about everything

Natasha - posted on 09/21/2009

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i have been having the same problem wiv my 13yr old girl to the extreme and she is gettin out of control so i asked my brother to have a word wiv her and he did she is scared of him since then she has been really good so try sum1 u know worries yr child....xx

Lisa - posted on 09/21/2009

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I am in the same place is everyone my son is 15 he will be 16 in November. He is just like me i was a single mom up until he was 9 years old. It has always been only him and I and my mother and my brother. well I moved us 3000 miles away from family and friends to be with my now husband which is still an issue. But we have a better life here and we are happy he just can't get pass it so he has a chip on his shoulder against my husband because we are away from home. But its been six years now and he has made a life here but he still threws it in my face about wanting to move back home with my brother. But i wont give in because he is my son and this is his home now. He has great schools here he wouldn't have that back home. Lots of friends we would be in the country with not many people around if he went back home.

But enough of that i can go on and on about that issue.



Right now is that he is my only child and i did and do spoil him its hard not to do it. Do to the fact he died on me when he was five when we were in a car accident and By the grace of God he was sent back to me.



I do for him all the time i bring him and his friends to town and other stuff. IF they need rides its always me not his friends parents. I am taken for granted. all the time. I pay there way at times too. But no one ever offers to bring my son home or pick him up. Its always m doing . Its hard for me to stop because i want to do it for me son. He gets mad if i say no about going to pick his friends up or bring them home.



He just dont care or understand what it does to me. they are never greatful to anything i do. He hangs out once or twice a week after school with his friends and i always make sure he has money on him so he can eat or get somthing to drink. How do i stop my self from being use by him and his friends. I hate to say no. over all my son is a good kid but he is all about him self.



Thanks

Lisa

Sharon - posted on 09/21/2009

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I have heard so many doctors years ago as well as now, talk about "disrespect", and mouthing off", and so many time I sit back and laugh because they have no children. The hardest part is being consistant, they believe if they keep on, most parents will give up. Keep adding days, and taking more things away, even if they are down to nothing, they will be mad, even say things that hurt at times. I have done this with my children they are 8,13,15 and 21, I had my 13 yr old tell me he hated me, (even though I knew he didn't mean it) I said thats ok, you were the one that put yourself in this, you may hate me now, but "I love you".
And thesad this is what works for one may not work for the other, let the child know they have to "earn" what they had back, and disrespect isn't gonna be the way to get anything except more days. Hang tough, its a hard road, and you feel like your on a roller coaster, they know how to push the buttons. good luck.

Amy - posted on 09/21/2009

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So hard when it comes to teens let alone girls. My one n only baby is now 16 and man oh man her attitude towards me is so frustrating.But me and her are exactly alike and so we seem to bash heads when it comes to anything.She loves to argue,BUT the one thing that seems to help me is restriction......that she HATES seems how alls she wants to do is hang out with friends n stuff.....so that helps..but I also stay clear from her when it comes to her time of the month....i dont have that issue myself but i pay close attetnion n stear clear from her PMSg lol....hope things get better....but I will say N PLEASE DONT TAKE THIS WRONG WAY...BUT ITS ALL ON HOW OUR KIDS HAVE BEEN RAISED.....WHAT THEY SEE WHILE GROWING UP..WHEN THEY SEE THINGS THEY BECOME NORMAL TO THEM N THEY THINKS ITS OK..IDK IF YOUR HOUSEHOLD HAS BEEN STRESSFUL OR WHAT BUT OUR KIDS PICK UP ON SO MUCH N WE DONT REALIZE TIL THEY START ACTING OUT. HOPE THINGS GET BETTER!!!

Patricia - posted on 09/20/2009

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I calmly sit down with my teenager and have a very long talk about respect...reminding her that I'm her mother and that she not talking to one of her friends ..set rules and if not met let them know there will be consequences..also show by example..respect them and they will respect you in return. Always make time to talk to them and be ready to listen ...tell them you love them often..wish u all the best

Thelma - posted on 09/20/2009

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OMG that could be me! I swear i am close to having a nervous breakdown. It seem I am the most strict, uncool parent in the world. This is effect my relationship as my partner can see no good in him and I seem to be in the middle of their war as well. Is it normal that everything I do or say has to be questioned seriously losing my mind here

Lisa Wynn - posted on 09/20/2009

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I have the same problem with my 14yr old. He thinks he is grown. The calender thing is a good idea, but he will purposly do things to annoy me and his brother. In the end my nerves are a wreck, so I have been picking my battels, but I am beginning to question that. I want to put him in a soundproof room and lock the door, but that would be considered abuse. I wonder if it would be worth it. lol So any more suggestions?

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Thats a tough one...cause I went thru alot of crap when my daughter was 14 and 15 and i was really big on "earning my trust" and she realized that having my trust was soooo much better than me NOT trusting her.....as for the respect...it took my daughter taking off for 2 days and being punished for her to respect me.. she started off being punished for 2 weeks.. i had a calendar with it marked..and EVERY SINGLE TIME she disrespected me i added on a day..and i would write on the calendar on that day EXACTLY what she said to me so there was no "i didnt say that!".. she was grounded for 9 weeks !! she tore up the calendar a few times but thats okay i just put up another one....she was very angry...hated me..... but in the end....by the last week.....there was NO DISRESPECT...i told her she would never talk to me like i was some teenager or one of her friends.... and i had no problem grounding her for disrespect. You have to stick to your guns no matter what !!!! dont give in !!! there were many days i didnt think i was strong enough to keep going but i did and it payed off.. my daughter is now almost 17 and she still apologizes to me for what she had put me thru.....good luck !!!!

Sandra - posted on 09/20/2009

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If and when you get any kind of a response to htis question....I have been racking my brain for quite some time to get the answer.....My 14 yr old daughter has such an issue with disrespecting with her mouth and the way she treats the adults in this house.....thanks

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