Patricia - posted on 12/06/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )
My daughter's boyfriend of 3 years just broke up with her. They are 18 years old and I know this is a part of growing up. But I keep thinking that they were perfect for each other. They were like soul mates - they did everything together and seemed so happy and in love. The breakup was dramatic - he told her he didn't love her anymore and that he liked this other girl who happens to be a friend of theirs. This was just a few days after I heard them on the phone giving each other kisses through the phone. It was sort of sudden and surprising for my daughter. And even though he said these things - he had a hard time dealing with the breakup, as did she.
My daughter appears to be handling it well - she cried, packed up all the stuff he got her, and has been reconnecting with friends. But strangely - I'm the one having the hard time. I think about it and start to cry. I don't know why I'm so emotional over it - it's not like he spent a lot of time over our house. I know that my daughter will be okay and will move on and find some other wonderful man to make her happy when she's ready. I know that if it was meant to be (as I keep thinking it is) then in time it will be. I know that they are only 18 and that they need to grow and find themselves and that this isn't the end of the world. I know that other teems have gone through breakups and that it's a part of growing up. I know that very few "high school sweethearts" marry and live happily ever after. But even though I tell myself these truths - my heart still breaks for her. Any advice on what I could do to not be so emotional over this? I don't want to obsess over their breakup - I want to support my daughter and be there for her.