How do Mom's cope with their children wanting to live with their dad?

Angie - posted on 07/24/2012

Angie- I am feeling your pain, heartbreaking, my boys 13 and 15 want to live with their dad, I don't think they or me are ready for that reality- their little sister is left feeling they don't want to be with her. Don't want to come on too strong but I want to stop this. I feel like I have lost them and am grieving. They have been gone two weeks, beside myself. I know how lost and rejected you feel. It does help knowing other boys want to do the same. I have read every book, raising boys, he'll be ok, that hasn't helped me feel any better, I feel like they would leave me by the roadside at the moment. So glad others are ou there.

Michelle - posted on 08/07/2011

Ditto. Same thing for me and I feel exactly like you do. There is no greater human love than the love a Mom has for their children. I wish I had advice but feel I have lost my kids too. Support would be best from others who are experiencing the same...so you can always express your feelings to me.

Madeleine - posted on 07/08/2011

There is a God!!! Marlene my dear beautiful daughter decided to live with her Daddy last October too and i was treated sooo badly! i cried for 4 months and lies where spread etc... not going to go into the nitty and critty of it but i havent seen her in over 4 months really. i cannot cope with how i am being treated also. she seems happy but i know there is more to it than meets the eye. i feel so sorry for her and miss her sooo much but she never answers my calls or my texts and i too neither want to come on too strong.. i just dont know what to for i know she is bring brainwashed and i have lost all control. i just miss my baby so much.... she is 11 ...xxx

Rachel - posted on 06/16/2011

I'm so sorry that you're in this situation, and I can't even begin to understand, so the advice that I give may not be helpful but please know it comes from the heart. When you do get the opportunity to see your daughter, enjoy every minute of it, and tell her how much you enjoy her company, even though it is brief. Try not to also show your love by buying her stuff, because she might misconstrue that to mean if she moves back with you she'll get what she wants all the time. Ask her how she's doing...sometimes teenage girls don't like to talk about their feelings, but let her know that if she needs to talk, has any questions, or anything that she can come to you. By putting on a brave face and not letting your daughter see how much this situation upsets you, it will hopefully make her respect you more. You're in my thoughts and prayers!

Denise - posted on 06/14/2011

Oh man Marlene. That hurts :*(. But be encouraged. Relationships ebb and flow -- and we want our children to grow up and move away eventually while still having a good relationship with both of their parents, right? So -- while it happened a few years earlier than would be ideal, it's still what was going to happen eventually (I mean moving away from home). Try to be positive and touch base often. Never bad talk dad (though it could be argued that it is best to talk 'bad' about truly bad activity if it is going on at dad's house or anywhere else). Oh -- but I feel for you. I am glad she is doing well and that you still see her twice each month. You haven't lost her, Marlene... ♥ Stay open hearted and positive. It sounds like you really are that kind of person and that is lovely.