How do you deal with bullies at JR High School?

Angel - posted on 04/22/2009

I have a friend who finally got so fed up she told the school administration that if they did not stop the hazing she was going to press charges.

Lynn - posted on 04/21/2009

WELL NORMALLY..I TELL MY KIDS 2 IGNORE THEM... NOT UNLESS THEY PUT THEIR HANDS ON THEM...THEN BEAT THE CRAP OUT OF THEM

Dee - posted on 04/21/2009

It can escalate especially in and out of high school as that is where they drive and go places and where they may not tell you how bad it really has become, I remember all to well, my son was beat one time broken nose and eye socket, black eyes, not pretty to find your kid this way trust me.

Mimi - posted on 04/20/2009

Ratting someone out is also a big deal. When my daughter was being bullied she e-mailed the Principal and asked her to handle it in a quiet way. Most schools have no bullying policies. If that doesn"t resolve it contact the Principle yourself, then the Board of Education, Superintendant. Log everything. The next step is having an Attorney send a letter basically telling them to enforce the policy or face litigation.

Christine - posted on 04/20/2009

Hello First let me tell you both my children were bullied in Jr. High school They are now in college. I want you to always remember this STAND YOUR GROUND. Make sure you address this issue with the principal and then let him direct you to the guidance. I always went to the top and worked down. I do not believe in the chain of comment unless I am told to do so. When you get the prinicipal inform him/her that you need help as soon as possible Not next week and not tomorrow NOW.

If you do not act fast something serious may happen to your kids. Trust me I know I waited a week and boy was I ever sorry My son was kicked in the head and stomach.

When my daughter was bullied I approached the issue immediately.

We are parents and we can only take care of what we can take care of at home. That is what we are told NO!!! that is not true! We have many powers in the schools and we have to open our mouths and really get recgonized . Let the child explain the whole story to you and then the prinicpal etc. Then see what they say. Tell them you want something to be done NOW.

I marched into school one day and demanded to talk to the principal and the secretary said to me OH HE IS IN A MEETING and I said fine I will wait then and I did just that and then I noticed he was not in a meeting at all His door was a little open and he was reading a newspaper.

I walked right into his office as the secretary was screaming he is in a meeting I told you and I said 'YES HE IS IN A MEETING NOW ' and I closed the door.

I told him straight out that my kids were constantly getting attacked verbally and now phyisically and I am demanding something to be done now. Before one of myh kids or others get hurt. Action followed because I came across like a tryant and that is how you have to be in some situations. Don't let it go Go after it seriously you have to before you kids really get hurt.

The child whom beat my son up was expelled and they did not want to do that because the school was on propation becuase they expelled so many students that year and it was the end of the year and he had exams (too bad) He had to come back in the summer to take his exams ( Oh well my heart bleeds for him) Maybe now he will learn you don't mess with my kids or any kids from now on. His parents called and they were such idiots I began to feel sorry for the kid to thing he was raised by such jerks. I forwarded them my doctor bill too and told them to pay for it.

I said if you don't pay for it I am taking you to my lawyer and then you have more bills to pay. (mind you I had insurance for my bill but still I wanted them to get involved here) They paid it surprisingly. I did not care if they liked me or not I am not put on this earth for a popularity contest I am here to raise my kids and whatever comes in my way that can really hurt them LOOK OUT the bull in me comes out.



I was PTA president when they were little and I will never forget how some women were so afraid of going to the principal or he school nurse or their teacher. These parents would tell me things that I would just be in shock over and then I would slowly introduce them to the right place because they were that afraid of authority.

But if it was something serious about bullies LOOK out here I came. I would drag them to the prinicipal first,then the teacher, social workere and then the school nurse. All four got reports from them. Some cases the parents did not want to give out names and they wanted their chilldren not know they went to help them out. Why is becuase they were afraid the children would get beat up or picked on moreso.

THis issue has to be addressed and if your kids know about it so be it Just let them know that you love them and your doing this to help them out not to hurt them and then say to them DO NOT TELL ANY OF YOUR FRIENDS becuase what to kids do They run to their freinds and tell them everything Mean while their so called friends are on the phone with their enemies. Kids do not have real freinds in Jr. high school they have mosh posh friends. One minute they are friendly next they are not. So the best thing to do is to Keep very important issues from them. Now as parents we also have to follow this rule WE can't run to our so called friends and tell them what we are doing if they have kids in that school becuase I bet your friend will tell her hubby and her kids will be their listening to this. BINGO the rumor goes around school so KEEP Quite only talk to your family and mom and dad or your sisters or brother if you need to talk. But do not talk to anyone in school PEOPLE LOVE TO hear bad news .

They thrive on it. It is like they are saying Hey Now she has problems too goodie goodie and yet they are calling you up and saying OH HI how are you I was thinking of you today (sure you were )

I did not trust my best friend I did not trust anyone except the person I had to talk too.

After everything was over and my child was no longer around these bullies then I told some of my best freinds but not until then.



I know if you talk to your hubby about this He can be either helpful or a hinderance too

Men do not always understand or they feel it is part of growing up or they will say don't get involved. I know I had 2 husbands and they would both give me some wild advise.

I have very good kids and they never started a fight but I was hoping one day my son would just beat the living hell out of that boy that beat him so bad. However he does not have that type of fight in him. However years from now I know he will build up a fight and look out he will become ME. I do not put up with any form of harrasment.

LIke I said I don't care if people like me or not I am here to raise my kids.

Hope this helps you God Bless and may you have a peaceful year.

(my son was so badly bullied if another boy came over to play with him the bullies beat up the boy whom came over our house so he was not allowed to play with my son) That is how bad things were here. The bullies lived next door to me and their dad was a COP I had my hands full big time. HIs wife was a jerk too

Kimberly - posted on 04/20/2009

It is strange that the school thinks it is ok to do this. I do have a few teachers that help out with her thank god. My daughter is 13 about to be 14 in one month. So of her teachers though are saying that I have mad it bad for her because I made sure that she stayed young. Most of the kids at her school know and have had sex in one form or another. My daughter does not even know what it means. I made sure she is 100% pure. She has come home to me so many times asking me what this word or that word means and ask why and she said that someone called her that. What I do not get though is that it does not happen to my son who is 12 going on 13 next saterday. I know my daughter does not want the same to happen to him so she has not told very many people that he is her brother. I also have to deal with one child that has been doing this to my daughter for 3 years now. This child id also trying to get my daughter to throw the first punch. My daughter is always sayig no and the little girl will say yes you do you know you do. I just had to put her on Lexapro because it has gotten that bad for her. At the same time we found out that she has ADD which does not help at all. I am not looking forward to high school for her right now. Lucky for me and her is that she has only been in one fight in 2 years. Thank you for letting me know that she is not the only one that it happends to

Dee - posted on 04/19/2009

This hole bulling policy is a joke if you ask me just like the no child left behind policy! It's just so there is a policy on the books it does not really work if you ask me , schools need to get on board and address these kids and make them accountable for what they do. I have had both my kids at one time or another harrassed by other kids, kids can be very cruel to one another. One of my sons did not want to take the bus anymore and I remember being home oneday when he was being dropped off and they were screaming at him as he got off the bus. Another time he was caught walking home without permission cause he was afraid to ride the bus this was in jr high.

When he went to high school he was punched in face by a kid his school has no tolerence for this it is taken much more serious, that kid was arrested.

My older son was harrassed in halls by a popular kid who kept trying to get him to fight him in high school pushing him into lockers and just trying to get him to throw the first punch knowing that would get my son throw out of school. That escaladed into much more nonsense ouside of school.

I can also relate to comment made about the right and the wrong side of town, I remember being told I grew up on the right side off town and got married and moved to the wrong side. I am so tired of all the judging in the world by what is worn, whats in your wallet, what you drive, what your occupation is the list goes on and on really its not about that for me , its about who you are as a person and whats in your soul not whats in your bank account or any of that, none of that makes any difference to me. I have always told my children its not about what you have its about who you are as a person. I think after all when I am gone from this earth people will not remember between the dashes of the year I was born and the year I die what I had but who I was as a person. Children need to be taught to be more kind and understanding of one another. I would stay on top of the school and I would encourage your child to stand up for themselves. For some reason high school seems to take this much more serious.

Kristina - posted on 04/18/2009

Both my daughter and son were bullied at middle school. How old is your daughter? My daughter was 12 and 13 when she was bullied so bad began to miss school. Our school did not want to do anything because they did no see it either. We started by talking with our daughter about our involved she wanted us to get. Then when she started failing classes, I met with the school counselor. We found out that unfortunately our daughter had other issues to deal with but with the bullying she began to get strong enough with our encouragement to stand up to them. WE encouraged her to never go anywhere alone so she would always have someone to back her up. When she finally got through middle school and the same thing started at the High school. It was a whole new story. We went into the school and they called the girls to the office and the problem stopped right away. It was great. It is very difficult when the school says no bullying but only if we see it. At our school you could have added ... only if your kid is from the "right" side of town and only if your kid dresses right. When the problem started with our son (it was so bad he was coming home with marks) we went to the principal and to some of his teachers. Then when it happened again, his sister told the police officer at the high school. She was not about to have her brother go through what she did. So with her protection and the protection of one or two good teachers things were starting to get better. He also developed a close group of friends that felt strong enough to stand up for him. Trust me I feel your pain.

Kimberly - posted on 04/17/2009

They tease my daughter at school talking about how dumb she is. Also they call her a b**** and a sl** and all of that but my daughter does not even know what sex is. On little girl told the who school that my daughter ad sex with another child in the bathroom of the school and then started a fight with my daughter after my daughter tryed to tell everyone that the child was not telling the truth. The school has a no bulling thing that they do but that is onl if they see it. well the kids have gotten smart and do it so that none of the teachers can hear it. What do I do to help herc and I so do not want her to turn out to hate the world because of it. I love my daughter very much and only want what is best for her but I really am not sure what to do.

Mimi - posted on 04/17/2009

What's the bullying like?