How do you feel about tattoos?

Kim - posted on 05/31/2009 ( 289 moms have responded )

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Hello,

My 19 year old is wanting a tatoo, and we told him not until he moves out and is living on his own. A lot of his friends have them. How do you feel on this subject?

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Michelle - posted on 07/02/2009

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You know I deal with the elderly and they don't look good when you turn 70. And they need to know that Job wise, It may hurt there future, shamful to say but it happens. But I Know that once they turn 18 and are out of school it becomes there decision and I only hope they make the right one.

Jeanette - posted on 07/01/2009

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I agree with although we let my daughter have one it memory of her sister. then she got another one on her foot her dad said anymore we wont help pay for school and you will not live here. no more tatoos. My son who is almost 17 started on us with the same thing and ear pierced we nipped it quickly. has not been brought up again we learned from my daughter. hope this helps

Tammy - posted on 07/01/2009

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I got my first tattoo last summer at the ripe old age of 39. My daughter was 14 at the time & asking if she could get one too. My good friend, who took me to get mine done, told her that any reputable tattoo artist won't touch her until she is 18. My daughter knows what she wants & where she wants to get it. It will be in a place she can cover it up. I have made a deal with her that if she still wants the same thing when she turns 18 we will go & get one done together. Her father has about 8 & I want 3 more. They are all something of significance & being that I am 40, I have had a LOT of time to think about it.

Cathi - posted on 07/01/2009

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i have this figured out. i have tatoos so maybe i can help. my oldest when she got hers i found out to late. i was shocked! well i learned alot. the next daughter came to me and wanted to get a tatoo. well i had input. first she wanted it so that was a great gift. hold out for a holiday. we had a really good talk. she really wanted one so we had a conversation, o.k. she was really wanted a tatoo. with or without me. heres the trick. i really wasn't ready for her to growing up. i would pay for the tatoo but i would
have input on where it was and what it was. she has her first tatoo. it was a vine on her wedding toe that says wwjd. - what would jesus do. it really worked out for both of us. we both were happy. WOW!!! good luck, cathi

Kelly - posted on 06/26/2009

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Your son is 19 and old enough to get a tattoo on his own. I have quite a few of them as they are very addicting. All of my tattoos signify something special in my life. I allowed my son at 16 to get a tattoo that was a memorial to my father after he died of cancer. If the tattoo has a particular meaning to the person wanting it, I don't see what the big deal is with getting it. Tattoos have taken on a whole new meaning today compared to years past. They symbolize body art and even though they are permanent they are beautiful enhancements to the human body.

Janet - posted on 06/22/2009

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i have no tattoos, neither does my husband. we have 2 daughters, both grown who have several each.....i still don't like them. both of my future son in laws have them, one has most of himself covered. my 5 year old grandson has already decided to have alot of tattoos like his dad.....i still hate them, but that doesn't me i don't love the person who has them......

Pam - posted on 06/22/2009

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Tattoos were the first things my kids did when they turned 18, behind my back of course!! I got small tattoos when I was young, but their dad has alot, so we have a hard time saying tattoos aren't good to get, Now I'm trying a new technic, wait until you see the most incredible tattoo you have ever seen, you'll know it, it might take years, but wait for that special one!!! Guess what I have a nineteen without tattoos!!! at least she's still looking, no tramp stamp yet!!!

Tammy - posted on 06/22/2009

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MY SON IS NOW 20 I TOLD HIM THAT HE COULD WHAT TO DO ALL OF THAT WHEN HE TURNED 18 HE IS NOW 20 AND HAS NO TATOO BUT GIRLS ARE SO DIFR. MY DAUGHTER IS 16 BUT WHEN SHE TURNS 18 I TOLD HER SHE IS ON HER OWN ON THOSE KIND OF CHOSES

Renee - posted on 06/22/2009

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They are too young to decide on something that will literally mark them the rest of their lifes. What they want now, they probably won't want at 40 or 60...

Angela - posted on 06/21/2009

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I BELIEVE YOU ARE RIGHT.AS LONG AS HE'S LIVING IN YOUR HOUSE, HE NEEDS TO FOLLOW YOUR RULES!

Jamie - posted on 06/18/2009

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Personally, I have two, my husband has one.....we always said they could get them when they were 18. Two of our three teenagers did. I'm just waiting for the third child (whose 18) to say, Mom I'm getting a tattoo.

Shelly - posted on 06/18/2009

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Kim,

Stand your ground...I feel the same way you do. My 22 yr old son whos in the Navy keeps talking about getting one and I just cringe STILL!!! My feeling about tatoos is it's just one more thing to go south as you get older!!!

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My son is 15 and looking forward to get one when he turns 18. I'm ok with that as long as he pays for it and goes and gets it done in a reserve body part and at a clean/safe place. but as for you... if you feel it's against your family rules then your son needs to respect that and wait till he's on his own. Good luck

Amber - posted on 06/17/2009

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Well with him being 19, he can certainly do it without your permission as 18 is considered a legal adult and able to sign a concent. Consider yourself lucky that he is asking your advice and permission before doing something drastic to his body. Maybe you should ask him what he wants as far as a tattoo and if there will be a meaning behind it. Sometimes getting a tattoo that has meaning can make it not seem so trashy. Also maybe tell him you'll think about it if he puts it in a place that can be covered when he needs to look respectable or when he is working.

Amanda - posted on 06/17/2009

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i am a mum who has tattoos myself and my then 17 year old son asked for a tattoo, i asked him what he wanted and he showed me a picture of the tattoo he wanted, i told him that when he turns 18 i f he still wanted that tattoo i would pay for him to have it, by the time his birthday came he had changed his mind about the picture of the tattoo and as i said to him if you went off that picture so soon after wanting it thats fine but can you imagine if you had gone ahead and got i done you would not have been able to rip it up and throw it away you would have it for life, i ended up getting him a mobile phone for his eighteenth he is now 21 and has got tattoos but he makes sure they are meaningful to him and they can all be covered up with a shirt.

Tino - posted on 06/17/2009

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I tell my children it has to be of Barney the Dinosaur..



then do the math.. you thought Barney was cool at 3, now you're 15, that's 12 years (discounting the fact Barney became uncool before 6).. so adding 12 on to 15.. do you think at 27 you might not think it's so cool?.. then add on another 60 years after that..



It's become a joke about what they are going to have Barney actually doing in that tattoo but they got the point...

Susan - posted on 06/16/2009

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Needless to say, you can see by my picture that I have tattoos. My 16 year old is quite anxious to have his first tattoo. He has two conditions he must abide by. First, he must wait until he's 18. This is an adult decision!! Second, if he wants one badly enough, he must get something meaningful to our family. This way, I'll know he's serious about making a commitment and not just out for the "fad." He came to me the other day with an idea of my mother's name on the inside of his wrist. She passed away in 2006 and he very much misses his Mom-Mom. He knows his tattoos need to tell a story. They should represent him somehow - not just something random he decided to put on his body. Maybe putting it in this perspective to your son might help him make the decision along with your help.

Gennel - posted on 06/16/2009

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We told our son the same thing. When you are on your own, it will be your decision. The minute he was out of the house, he got the tattoo. I think it's just one of those things this generation does that we don't quite understand. My son also had gauges in his ears -- not horribly large, but there they are. I really try not to "judge" him on these choices. He knew beforehand how we felt. He's a great guy and I love him the same with or without the tattoos and gauges - so I don't make an issue out of it because in the big scheme of things --- it really does not make difference.

Nina - posted on 06/13/2009

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He is eighteen and it is his money right? If he's all paid up to you then how can you say no? My 15 year old son is setting his career sights on being a tatoo artist. He is a very talented artist and I keep encouraging to keep his option open and not to close any of his doors just yet. But as we all know, the more we say no, the more they want it.

Heather - posted on 06/13/2009

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I have to say I have 6 tats and they are all in places that can be covered with clothing. As one of the previous responders noted each of mine signify an event in my life. With your son being 19 he is legally of age to get one. I would encourage hito get it where it can be covered with clothing though.

Christine - posted on 06/11/2009

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I say let him...he is of legal age and it's not going to "hurt" you any. As long as it's not inappropriate, I dont see the problem. I have two myself and never had an issue with sanitation or anything like that if that is a concern.

Sarah - posted on 06/10/2009

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I think he is legally old enough to go in and get a tatoo and it is his body at the end of the day! I personaly have several tatoo's and i am proud of all of them!
Do you have any yourself?

Anne - posted on 06/10/2009

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When I was 16 I wanted a tat. I decided to get some of those stick on things that wash away after a few days to see if I wanted a tat in that certain place. It turned out that I tried 6 different places with different designs and decided on my own not to get one. I finally got one when I was 24 on my leg with my childrens name on it, and I love it. Some people get tats and really don't think of placement or design, it's lifelong. So maybe try what I did and have your child think about their career path and how it may affect that also. Good luck.

Trina - posted on 06/09/2009

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Let me start by saying...My husband and I have tattoos. We were in our 30's when we got them. Some states have age requirements so you can always check for that. My oldest wants a tattoo and I would rather select the tattoo artist than let him have an unexperienced, unlicensed artist that doesn't follow strict sanitary procedures. Having worked in the medical field for over 15 years, I know exactly what to look for and which questions to ask. If they cannot answer my questions or demonstrate the appropriate hygiene and sanitary measures...I'm not going to let them touch me let alone my kid.



We do not have tattoos with names or cartoon characters. Our tattoos are representative of our lost family members, heritage, and spiritual beliefs.



Getting a tattoo should not be taken lightly. There are several things your child needs to consider. The strictest hygiene and sanitary measures should be taken by the artist. Infections and scarring are the most common problem. The artist should be reputable and provide references. In some states, tattoo artists must be licensed by the Department of Health (check with your state). Make sure that the tattoo is exactly what you want (and where you want it) for the rest of your life (remember the older you get...the more certain body parts sag). The reversal procedure is extremely expensive and can leave serious scarring depending on the quality of the tattoo.



And Last: just because tattoos are the current rage doesn't mean they are 'right' for everyone. Just because your friends have them isn't a good enough reason to get one yourself.

Christine - posted on 06/09/2009

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My 16year old wants a tatoo, so I told her to figure out what she wants and if she still wants the same thing in a year, then she can get it. I think that will help her not just get something stupid on a whim.

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my daughter has 3 tattoos with my consent and shes 17...id rather let her have them and take her to a clean and trusted tattooist than have as some of her friends have done and gone with their mates to some dirty place and end up with infections and in a mess

Niecy - posted on 06/08/2009

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My 19 year old is wearing (3) tattoos.. I told her to wait until she was 18 and she almost did... And I told her I would take her to a reputable place, but she went on her own..Also the first or one of the first was supposed to say my name. But that is the 3rd one with four beautiful butterflies around it. I could not tel her no because I have four myself and her dad also has!!! But I just want her to be careful of where she goes to get them.....

Ainy - posted on 06/08/2009

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Personally I never like tatoo. It will be with you all your life weather you like it or not and of course if you dont like it someday, you can remove them in a surgical way which can lead to scars and costly too. My teenage girls seen tatoo American program and they just love the artistic drawing but never like to have it on them which I am lucky. I will feel kind of dissapointed if they did it one day which I guess the chances are very low but if it does happened, I hope they are adult enough to think of the concequences and able to accept they own decision should they have regrets someday.

Crystal - posted on 06/07/2009

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My son was going thru a phase of PUNK DRESS. I was almost embarrassed to be seen with him. I talked to my aunt who had 2 older boys that pretty much did the same things growing up. She told me she never judges her children by the way they dressed, tattoos and such as long as they work, don't get in trouble with the law, etc. I told my son after I talked to her that I don't care how he dresses and what he looks like because I loved him no matter what. He appreciated that so much since I never told him that. Since I backed off, he really isn't as bad as he was with the ridiculous clothing and such. He now has a tattoo. When he wanted one, I was somewhat against it. He bought and paid for his first car (Dodge Demon) and he wanted the emblem from the car to be his tattoo. I was all for it, and I allowed him to get one. You're right. Alot of friends have them. They aren't "taboo" like they used to be and they don't make you a "bad seed" like they used to. My son graduated at 16, works in family business full time learning trade of mechanics and wants to start community college soon. I feel my choice was right and the fact he has a tattoo doesn't change who he is. He is still a good and very smart kid. It is on his shoulder where a shirt can hide it. Thank goodness he didn't want to get a girls name or marijuana crap like I have seen way too much.

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If they are 18 and older. It is their decision whether they live at home or not. Hopefully they have had enough parental talks and information about tats before they run off and get them. Well having babies, toddlers that cant speak ears pierced is wrong. They havent a say in the matter. So I guess basically what it comes down too it whatever you feel comfortable with. If one of my dd wanted a tatt and she's 18 hey I'll go with you. If you want me too.

Pamella - posted on 06/03/2009

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my 16 year old daughter got a tattoo on her shoulder againstmy better j uddgement and now she is 18 she regrets it as she does not like it any more, my advice if u cant stop them maybe u can tellthem to have it in a discreetplacein case of laterregrets

Jennifer - posted on 06/03/2009

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My daughter is going to be 17 this month and we have talked about tattoos for years. I have 8 of them placed where I can cover them with clothing. Each of my tats signify an important event in my life and they all have a very special meaning to me. My daughter will get her first tattoo when she turns 18 next year and I will be right there next to her holding her hand. But here is the agreement. First it has to be placed somewhere that she can cover it. It has to mean something to her and she has to design it. She is an artist so I know what type of tattoo it will be. I support her because if I didn't then she would do it anyways and this way I can put in my two cents as to where it goes and what it is.

Cherrill - posted on 06/02/2009

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first of let me say both my husband an myself have tatoos, having said that i have had talks with our teens about tatoos and have the same conditions on them as many of you (out of home and over 18) but added one other conditionthey have to give me the design. then if 12 months later if they still want the exact same design they can go ahead. i did this when i was 18 of my own free will, i belive as they are permenant they need to be some thing worth having, if you cant wait 12 months for it you should not get one. 19 years on and i still love my tat as its some thing that is special to me. good luck to all of you.

Beth - posted on 06/01/2009

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I do not understand the fascination with tats. Our rule has always been no tatoos while living in our home. We have 5 children, 3 of them are living on their own, all three have tats. They even went together and had a "theme" where they each had got a tatoo of their middle names. Sounds weird I know but it means something to them. Having said that.... our relationship with our children is more important then their decision to have ink needled into their bodies. If my 19 yr old would come home with a tatoo he would not be asked to leave. If he/she were 17 they would be in really big trouble!!

Kristina - posted on 06/01/2009

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My 16 yo daughter has talked of getting a tattoo. I have told it is something to consider very seriously. I would never allow her to get one under age. I have told her to consider the long term consequences of a tattoo. I personally have nothing against tattoos. A well placed meaningful tattoo can be beautiful. I have a butterfly with my husband's initials worked in it on my left shoulder blade. However I was 36 when I got it and had been planning it for years. He also got a tattoo at the same time. Tattoo can be overdone. My 7 year old son is planning to become a tattoo artist and run his own shop some day. If that is what he chooses, OK. I still would not let anyone under the age of 18 get get a tattoo. Once they are past 18 you really can't stop them but you can encourage them to be smart and consider the future. A tattoo is permanent.

Maria - posted on 06/01/2009

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My 16 yo contemplated on having one, then we sat him down and told him to write down all the pros and cons of having a tattoo, including his having to save the money to spend on it, since we're not willing to spend money on something we consider a frivolous want, not to mention the pain he has to go through! It turned out that for him there were more cons than pros, plus most of his friends do not have any, either, and are all just waiting who goes to have first. He decided he didn't need it after all.

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my daughter is now 14. We continually talk to her about tats - letting her know that those tats will not look the same on her at 20 as they will when she is 70. :-P Not to mention that the location of a tat can limit the jobs that can be gotten later on. Besides that, she knows that she is free to get one as soon as she is on her own & supporting herself, if she so chooses.

Melody - posted on 05/31/2009

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I gave our daughter the same condition. Out and on your own. But I also advised her to be careful what she puts on her body and where. no matter how 'cute' it looks in the beginning, it will fade and change shape of the years, with age, weight, sun, and illness.

Angie - posted on 05/31/2009

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My 16 year old son wants one too and I told him that I would be very disappointed if he chose to mark his body in this way. I guess I'm just old but I don't like tattoos.

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