How do you tell your teen about the dangers in the world without scaring them to death?
Holley - posted on 04/06/2009
Honesty is best and to live they life you want your kids to live. Show tham that is ok to mess up, but also show them how to correct the issue. My girls will tell anyone that I have never hide what the world is and could be. Tell them about things in your past. And also tell them how it has effected your life. Have them meet others whom have made wrong decisions in their life. Have them learn from them.. Alot of times kids will not listen to their parents, but will listen to their peers.
Amanda - posted on 04/06/2009
I agree with Rachel Mcguire, knowledge is power. It's a scary world out there and they're not going to stay with you forever hiding behind "mommy's skirt". The world is a very cruel place so the more you teach them now the better off they will be. The best thing a parent can do is be there for them through the good and bad. I wish you the best.
Rachel - posted on 03/23/2009
In my opinion. Knowledge is power. The more information your child has, the better they can make an informed adult decision. Unfortunately, it's reality that life out there in the real world is scary. They should be afraid, that will help them make good decisions. to be cautious and think twice. Anything you have to say can be taken better if you state it in a "matter of fact" way, and let them know that you are there to listen if they have questions, fears or anything they need to discuss, no matter how silly or embarrassing they think it may be.
User - posted on 03/22/2009
Yes, it is hard to protect our children, I am a case manager in mental health, I take every oportunity to tell them like it is.
I try to instill awarness and also insight.
My daughter is 15 and my son 17.
Sometime they are so wise and sometime so stupit.
I guess at some point maturity will happen and our information
will help them.
I believe that in all aspects of dealing with our children communication is key. If you say they can talk to you about anything then you should be ready to talk to them about anything openly and honestly no matter how "scarey" it might be. They know what is out there they just need to have someone to talk to about it.
User - posted on 03/16/2009
My opinion, Scare them!! better to be prepared for the worst, then naive and have to come upon something accidentally and have no clue... i have been straight with my kid since he was little... there is not too much that surprises him, but when things do come up, we talk about them...
Mary - posted on 03/15/2009
I agree with keeping a Godly perspective.
However, Jesus knew He would die on the cross and why.
How exactly do you apply WWJD to a road rage situation or a campus shooter?
Although Jesus had plenty of enemies, they did not become violent until his
There are some things in life that we must apply Godly standards that are indeed biblical, however, they are not always what Jesus did.
We want to avoid the initiation of violence. But oftentimes self defense is violent
and there is nothing biblically wrong with defending onself in a life or death situation.
What did David do against Goliath?
Heather - posted on 03/15/2009
You must be honest with your children. In reality, they are already most likely aware of a lot of things that you think would really scare them due to exposure to the world through television and the internet. Don't be afraid to have open, candid, honest conversations with your children and remember to always focus on a Godly perspective. I always share the "dangers" of the world with my children through the lens of how would Jesus tackle this issue? It really helps them to put things into perspective.
Liz - posted on 03/15/2009
I think honesty is always the best policy. Let's face it....this is a scary world we are living in, the more information they have about the truth of it, the better equipt they will be to deal with it. Personally, I think we are all on a very steep learning curve and entering unchartered territory, I push the personal safety line and look after your mates and do a risk assessment for everything. Whenever possible, avoid putting self and others at risk and stay safe.
Mary - posted on 03/15/2009
I scare mine. And they even got more scared when they found out I was telling the truth after being in the world a little...
Oldest son has been to war in Iraq. Thank God I scared him or he wouldn't have ducked when necessary over there.
Oldest daughter is in charge of dorm security at her university, she saw what goes on and it freaked her out.
One son is a firefighter, he REALLY knows what happens.
19 year old is starting to realize. He was beat up and mugged in a park and got his $1,500 bike stolen and his backpack with all of his homeschooling books in it.
(Now he doesn't want to leave home!!)
17 year old "kinda" gets it. She had a crazy boyfriend once and he was a crash course in stalkers.
14 yo son was chased by a group of teens in a car, he was on foot. They were joy riding around and thought they'd mess with him. Fortunately this happened just around the corner. I caught them and they went to JAIL.
Same younger son kept dissapearing on me at checkouts in stores when he was little. Well, I scared him but good. I came up behind him once and put my hand over his mouth and eyes and tried to drag him away. He freaked out but he never disappeared from my side in the store again...
Shoot, we need to scare them.
Josie - posted on 03/14/2009
BE HONEST OF WHAT ITS REALLY LIKE OUT THERE IN THIS WORLD, IM A MUM OF A 17 YEAR OLD SON, AND IVE ALWAYS BEEN HONEST WITH HIM WHAT ITS;LIKE IN THIS WORLD, AND I KNOW IT MIGHT SCARE THEM BUT IT MAKES THEM STRONGER IN THE LONG RUN AND IT WORKED OK FOR MY SON,
Kim - posted on 03/13/2009
If is my belief that your child is likely not as naive about things as you might believe. She hears things from her friends and is exposed to things on tv and the computer that you don't know about. I think not telling her about the things that scare you, is like letting your two year old play around a hot stove without telling him or her of the danger. You don't have to try to scare her but let her know about the things that worry you and ask her what she thinks she might do if confronted with those situations. That will help you get a sense of where she is at.
Pati - posted on 03/13/2009
I went at it with the intentions of scaring her a bit. I want her to have a little fear of what is out there as in my opinion we do not live in a safe world at all. I worry that the TV and movies are desensitizing kids to violence so I still make a point to let her in on the horrific things that are taking place in the streets all around us and all around the world.
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