how to deal with teenage girls

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Sabrina - posted on 08/24/2009

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I have raised two wondeful women 25 & 21 and am now on my 3rd. She is starting that oh so fun stage of puberty at 10. It seems to happen sooner these days! And my 21 year old has made me a Grandmother. Another little girl to love!! Please let me know if I can help.

Brandi - posted on 08/26/2009

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My 15 yrs old daughter can be loving and also very nasty. Unfortunately the nasty is most of the time. She has no regard for our home and our rules. She also does not do well in school due to being so focused on her image. I do not know what to do, I don't want to look back on our life together and have nothing but negativity. Help it is killing me.

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I have a daughter that turned 15 this year and know what you're talking about... she's just started to come around from that bout of "Can't-get-along-with-mom-at-all" she started around age 13!

Nadine - posted on 07/14/2009

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I have two girls,15 and 19. I will be glad to help. If you want their opinion I will ask them for you.

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Melanie - posted on 08/26/2009

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Quoting vicki:

I HAVE THREE TEENAGE DAUGHTERS,15,16,20,WHEN YOU FIGURE IT OUT LET ME KNOW.THEY WERE SO SWEET AS LITTLE GIRLS ,THEN THEY TURNED 13YRS OLD ALL CRAZINESS KICKED IN.CHILERN DO NOT HAVE RESPECT FOR PARENTS LIKE WE DID IN THE 70'S WHATS HAPPENING IN THIS WORLD.KIDS ARE OUT OF CONTROL.



I agree 100%. I have 4 kids, 17.13,10 & 9. My oldest is a great kid. He is very respectful but my last 3 must of come from a different planet!

Tracy - posted on 08/24/2009

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I have had a daughter and a step-daughter. The one thing that worked for me was open communication. Although you might not agree with whatever they decided, let them know what the consequences are for those actions they choose, then put the decision in their lap (of course this is dependent on the age of teenagism). My daughter wanted a tattoo at the age of 13, of course I told her no, she insisted and so did I. Of course she was mad etc. I told her when she can sign for herself to get one, she could. By then, the thought was old.

Vicki - posted on 08/21/2009

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I HAVE THREE TEENAGE DAUGHTERS,15,16,20,WHEN YOU FIGURE IT OUT LET ME KNOW.THEY WERE SO SWEET AS LITTLE GIRLS ,THEN THEY TURNED 13YRS OLD ALL CRAZINESS KICKED IN.CHILERN DO NOT HAVE RESPECT FOR PARENTS LIKE WE DID IN THE 70'S WHATS HAPPENING IN THIS WORLD.KIDS ARE OUT OF CONTROL.

Wendy - posted on 08/20/2009

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I have a 14yr old and an almost 17yr old. At times, they even tell me how awesome I am. When something big is going on, or she has difficult questions, stay calm. Getting upset or yelling will shut her down or make her feel uncomfortable to talk to you. If punishment is necessary, keep it equal to what she did wrong. For example, you found out she's smoking. Punish her for lying to you, but explain the reasons you don't want her to smoke. She's going to make her own decisions eventually, all we can do is guide them to the right ones. Good luck!

Chris - posted on 08/20/2009

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I have a 14 yr old daughter. She has quite an attitude most of the time. But when she wants something, she is my best friend! Funny, though, her friends come to me for advice instead of their own mothers. I wish my own kid could appreciate me. I have one mom in particular that I have ticked off a few times, so I do really have to watch what I say to these kids. Teenagers sure put you on a rollercoaster, don't they!

Amanda - posted on 07/18/2009

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I have a 15 year old daughter - the best advice I could give anyone is - don't get drawn into an argument - walk away!

Gloria - posted on 07/17/2009

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Dana, I don't know if this is going to help you, because I don't know if you have a particular issue. I would say to remember not to take attitude personal. I see too many parents get angry about a slammed door or rolling eyes, instead of remembering that we as adults also have outlets when we are angry sad or have had a bad day at work. Communication is very important if you can have it without attitude on your part. If there is something else you wish to discuss please feel free to do so. Hope this helps a little bit.

Danielle - posted on 07/16/2009

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I have a 13 year old step daughter and a 5 year old biological daughter. All I keep thinking is by the time the one looses the teen attitude the other one will get it! My teenager is like night and day. One minute happy and helpful, the next minute mouthy and snappy. I remember being 13 I hated it then and I hate it now, lol. I find myself using the phrase "Suck it up" alot. Since my five year old can make her cry. Niether child visits their other biological parent which in many ways works to our advantage. However sometimes it would be nice to have a break from the DRAMA

Gloria - posted on 07/16/2009

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I have a 16 yr old daughter, the ride's been tough thus far,these teenage lil hormones can drive you up the wall at times, but thank God, He kept us both......loving each other and showing patience:) How can I be of any help?

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13 is a tough age, they're caught between wanting the safety and security of the home yet feeling the need to start being independent. Your best bet is to listen, really listen, to what your daughter is saying and think about what you were saying or doing when she snaps. Give her time to cool off and then ask her about it in a nonjudgmental and nonthreatening way. Again, just listen with your mouth closed and ears and mind open. It's the hardest thing to do well and takes tons of practice, but I guarantee that it will help your relationship. And as one of my good friends told me, just remember the aliens take them away at puberty and bring them back in a few years, just don't do anything to damage your relationship in between.

Mindy - posted on 07/15/2009

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i here you there i have 17 teen year old sweet and kind but my oldest wow the mouth on her all i can say is let them know the rules and stick to them .my 17 year old had a baby in april and is moveing next week , the babys dad has been the for my daughter from day one so there is hope . but as far as my oldest goes i had to play the old tough love card , sent her to a friends to live for a bit mind you she is 19 and she is moving out

in 2 months hope this was helpful to you no matter what thery do we stall love them

Barbara - posted on 07/15/2009

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mmmmmmm i think meself its a hormone thing i got a daughter of 20 n i got 1 of 14 n the min they hit 13 its like woohooo butch symdrom comes a head lol my 14 yr old is lovely most of the time but wow wen she gets a headon her i want to pack her bag as so to speak lol

Sharon - posted on 07/15/2009

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my daughter is 13 next week and all of a sudden got an attitude the size of an elephant she has become such an aggresive child yet can be so loving and thought full how can i stop her snapping at me everytime i speak to her

Karen - posted on 07/14/2009

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i have a daughter 17 going off to college in the fall and a daughter 13 who going into the 8th grade. both are typical teens with crazed frontal lobe issues. i have education in the health field if you have anything you would like to ask.

Laura - posted on 07/14/2009

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My daughter is 16. What can I help you with? It's been tough but I can give you my opinions.

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