how to fix a daughter and dad's relationship

Nicole - posted on 06/19/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 15 and her relationship with her dad has become very strained for about a year, Its like they have nothing in common any more and just irritate each other, she's a bit of a rat bag but not too bad, i adore her but he really struggles to even like her. How can they get their relationship back and is it normal for dad's and their daughters to go thru this at this age??

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Mary - posted on 07/05/2010

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At 15 She may be involved with things that she cannot talk to him about like..... boys. It might be nice if he actually asks her what she would like to do once........ usually Dads have a habit of suggesting things they want to do! Tell him to suggest that they go shopping for some new shoes! He will need to be a patient man.He needs to be the bigger person and suck it up. He can teach her by his example....Also there may be something more to this! My father once yelled at me and told me to get in the house and take off the halter top I wanted to wear! I had pretty good size breasts! He did not want me flashing my body to all the neighbors! I hated him for like 2 years!

Remember if you like your child then it will be very hard when they move out at 20.You will cry all the time.You are not supposed to like them very much by the time they move out! It makes it easier for them to go!

Julie - posted on 07/04/2010

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my husband couldnt even look up from his coffee cup or my daughter would verbaly rip his head off. hormones and teenage attitude boys take it out on mum girls take it out on dad. they seem to migrate to the one person they have always felt safe with. if dad cant take it then throw her out of the room and tell her not to come back untill she can talk civily to him. you also need to back him up and tell her that it is not acceptable to talk to her father that way. my daughter is now 20 and has just as good a relationship with her dad now as she did when she was a toddler. in her words she said they will get over it when your daughter has grown up.

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Michaela - posted on 07/05/2010

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worrying wont make it any better they will sort it in their own time just try not to get in the middle and take sides ,i think kids get to a age that they exspect us to become a friend and not a parent

Kimberly - posted on 07/05/2010

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That is funny, I actually told someone that the other day. Teen years are not the easiest and I just started with her at almost 15 and my son at 13. I think they are trying to drive me nuts so I am happy when the go. My husbands parents when I first met them said they were going to have a party when their oldest moved out and I thought that was so cold and now, LOL, I get it. Thanks for your response.

Kimberly - posted on 07/04/2010

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I have the same problem. My daughter and I are very close and she and her Dad just don't click. My daughter just feels like she cannot do anything right and my husband things that she just does not try or care about anything. It is a tough battle to be in between them. I think that she is a good girl and needs to be trusted more and let her do more and he believes that makes him the bad guy and that we need to be more together on things. Honestly I am not sure this is a relationship that will ever get better. Were they closer when she was younger? She has always been a mommy's girl and has always come to me.

Angie - posted on 06/19/2010

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They have to WANT to have a better relationship. Until that happens they can't make it better. Now is the most important time for your daughter to be close to her father. As she begins dating, she needs to trust and respect him enough that when he speaks with her about boys, she'll listen.

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