How to stop young teens from viewing porn sites friends send?

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Nelly - posted on 07/07/2012

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Before any of our children ages 18,16,14, and 12 yrs old go on the computer either my husband or myself search their emails and only my oldest 2 have a facebook account and that is also searched if anything is sent that is not appropriate we delete it before the kids have a chance to look at it

Elizabeth - posted on 07/09/2012

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I agree with what Emily says about sitting down and watching it with your kids, my kids would die of embarrassment...I will have to use that one...thanks Emily,

The answer to your question is simple Linda, call their mother. It will make you the BAD guy but will stop not only your child from viewing the filth out there, but the other one too.

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Ada - posted on 07/10/2012

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I wouldn't discuss it with them though. You will embarrass the hell out of them. I'm sure they recognize that porn is something most people "sneak". I remember one time my mom found porn on the computer when I was a kid and I blamed it on a friend. It's still embarrassing to think about and I wish I never got caught, esp. b/c it was lesbian porn and I'm totally straight! Even though my mom found out and called me out on it, it didn't decrease my desire to look at porn. Again, I think most people (even young people) are capable of separating fantasy from reality. I'd personally shrug it off and chalk it up to teenage hormones. I know I was hornier when I was a teenager than I am now in my twenties.

Ada - posted on 07/10/2012

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I wouldn't discuss it with them though. You will embarrass the hell out of them. I'm sure they recognize that porn is something most people "sneak". I remember one time my mom found porn on the computer when I was a kid and I blamed it on a friend. It's still embarrassing to think about and I wish I never got caught, esp. b/c it was lesbian porn and I'm totally straight! Even though my mom found out and called me out on it, it didn't decrease my desire to look at porn. Again, I think most people (even young people) are capable of separating fantasy from reality. I'd personally shrug it off and chalk it up to teenage hormones. I know I was hornier when I was a teenager than I am now in my twenties.

Ada - posted on 07/10/2012

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First I think it depends on how young the person is and how mature they are. Chances are, however innocent we'd like our children to be, they've probably heard about all sorts of things, using all sorts of language from peers at school. Then, are they just looking at the porn out of curiosity, or are they masturbating to it as well. Certainly, I'd say put parental locks on all electronics, and only if they're really desperate for it will they try to find a way around it. I think also in porn, most people can recognize the difference between reality and fantasy. I think it's dangerous to try and shelter children too much. However, I think if you've discovered extremely distasteful porn that say someone 11-14 is looking at then lay down those parental controls. Once high school hits though, for me, I'd say if your kid likes kinky porn, then that might just be a personal preference. As long as nobody is addicted to porn or having dangerous relationships.

Ada - posted on 07/09/2012

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i'd say if it's a family computer, then it should be porn free, but i remember wanting to watch porn at 12…it was no big deal, and i was never confused and i didn't turn into a sexual deviant…sexual desires are natural

Shawnn - posted on 07/09/2012

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Block them. Period. And, you can parentally block the friends as well.

and there is no difference between "regular" and "really bad" porn. It's all porn.

Sit down with them, ask them WHY they like to view it. Is it because their friends do? Or because they want to. Address each answer individually.

But, first, and foremost, START MONITORING your kids on the internet.

Emily - posted on 07/08/2012

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....might be a bit unconventional(but it's what worked for my cousin) but if you bust them/suspect them of viewing/receiving porn sit them down and make them watch it with you while discussing the video, the people in it, the lack of feelings. Actually converse with them about it and explain a "real" relationship doesn't have sex like that and that sex is special. Hopefully though, watching porn with mom should scare them enough that they don't watch it in your home for a long time :) if not - then do what Nelly does :) that's a just punishment/consequence.

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