Na'keyshia - posted on 06/18/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am in desperate need of some advice, my husband and teenage son does not get along. There is the constant yelling and screaming (mainly from my husband) in our home. My husband feels as if my teenage son does listen to him, when my husband ask him to do his chores or homework, my son either take his time or does not complete it at all. I recognizes the defiance on my son part and discipline as well afterwards the same thing happens all over again. Even though my son is not biologically his, you would not be able to tell, my husband has always been there for everything.My son is 19 years old now and is singing the same tune, I will finish high school, do my chores without being ask to and get a part time job, My son two days ago ask my husband why do we make go to Tae Kwon Do classes, and my husband replied, to give you structure that you need, which I agree but my son was still combative and my husband then told him if he did not want to follow the rules and regulation then he will have to leave and told my son to give him the house keys, he left and later that night my daughter his sister contacted him on facebook , she ask where was he and he replied do not worry about I am kicked out the house and deleted her as a friend, which in return hurt her. As worry mother in a new state I did not know what was going on with my son,previously he has talked about suicide . So I told my daughter to contact him again on facebook and tell him to come home. Well he came home later that day and it pissed my husband off because he ask him at the door why was he here and my son replied because Mom told me to come home, well that was not the answer my husband was looking for and he then turn to me and said this why you contact a man and tell him to come home because he have no remorse for anything, he spoil and feels like we need him he does not need us. Now I am stuck because I truly love both of them and I understand where my husband is coming from because he is spoil(thanks to my mom, he has been living with her on and off for a few years) now she is like this your problem deal with it or send him to her.This is the problem he always get bail out and continues to do the same thing. My husband and I are on the verge of getting a divorce as of today.I do not know what to do, I will feel bad kicking him out, then again if he goes to live with his grandmother then she will automatically have the attitude you are choosing your husband over your son, which is definitely not the case, I am just tired with two other children and it seems like I am giving most of my attention to my 19 year old and my husband battle. My son does not want any counseling and just told my husband that he does not want to be around, he just wants to talk to me. Do any one have any advice?