I am a sole parent to 3 daughters 16,14 and nearlly 13. I cant cope

Sophie - posted on 03/20/2017 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My 12 yr old and 16 yr old are so rude to me and everything i do is wrong, i feel so put down by them everyday. I suffer with depression and hv been on anti ds for 20yrs. I am 47. I want to run away so they can see how much i do for them constantly, i am angry and uptight and sad. I wish thier dad could have all 3 for the holidays but his wife wont have them all at once. I never get a break and i dont hv any support where i live, no one seems to care about me, noone invites me anywhere, i feel like everybody just hates me

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Ev - posted on 03/20/2017

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It sounds like you need some counseling and what do you do when your 16 and 12 are rude to you? Do they get any consequences for this? And to heck with his wife and her wants....drop the kids off on his holiday and leave them there for the entire time and if you have a place you can go to get away for a few days do it. He can handle the kids for a few days!

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Sarah - posted on 03/21/2017

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I agree with the advice to tell dad and his wife to put on their grown up panties and take all three!
I am parenting four kids 12, 15, 18, 20 and I know what you are talking about. My newly 18yo can be very rude! Of course I don't ever know what I am talking about either. I get her where it matters; no car! She loathes being driven to school like a "baby" so taking her wheels away works. Find their currency; phone, computer, friends and take it away. Lay it out that you expect to be treated politely, period.

Therese - posted on 03/21/2017

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I can imagine how you're feeling. It is very challenging dealing with teens and pre-teens, moreso as a single parent.

You must look after yourself though. Your children are old enough to be relatively self-sufficient. Find time to do things and have small getaways.
Have you spoken to their teachers or counsellors to get a feel for their behaviour at school? I encourage you to find someone, a Pastor, a counselor whom you can speak to freely and who can help you navigate this period and put things in perspective.

Definitely, drop them at their father's home!! He and his wife can resolve whatever issues they have between themselves. God Bless

Amanda - posted on 03/20/2017

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Don't give the wife any other option but to take all 3 kids at once! Drop all three kids off at her house and tell her to suck it up and deal with it. Make her realize that she married into the family and she has to accept having all three kids at once and if she won't accept it then she needs to leave. Yes I'd recommend counseling for you too.

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