I disciplined my 15 yr old daughter she mentioned it to her crush he called me a b@@ch should I confront him?

Shawnn - posted on 05/16/2012

You can take the phone completely away from your daughter, and sit down and explain self respect to her.

Spend some time with her, teaching her that she's worthy of a prince, not the asshole that compliments her just to get in her pants.

She's 15 for crying out loud. She needs some direction if she's already dating losers like that. As for him? Do you REALLY want to acknowledge the asshole? Seriously? That's how his type gets attention. Don't give it to him. But, your daughter needs to kick the guy to the curb too.

I read my kids phones, look at their photos, and sign into their online accounts. See, that's my job as a parent. Once they're 18, living on their own, paying for their own phone, internet, etc, is when they will have personal privacy. Until then, I am their parent, I have the responsibility to raise them right. And regardless of what others may say, I CAN be LEGALLY held responsible for the content on my kids phones and computers.

The privacy granted my kids is bathroom privacy, and bedroom privacy if alone in their rooms. If there are guests (male or female) in their rooms, there is no privacy. But in their electronic lives, there will be no privacy until they are legal adults, because I'm not about to be held responsible for my kids being stupid.

Patricia - posted on 05/16/2012

If he said it to your face or within earshot - then you should confront him. But if you just read it in a text - you should probably just let it go.
First - they are teenagers. I called my own parents bad names to my friends all the time when I was a teenager - it was the "cool" thing to do.
Second - he was responding to your daughter's complaint about you - he wasn't calling you a name out of the blue. How do you respond when a friend complains to you about their boss or in-laws?

Sophia - posted on 05/15/2012

I took her phone away for 3 weeks because she uses swear words in almost every other sentence and makes references to male anatomy that is just inappropriate. I did tell her that I would occasionally check her text messages that was part of the deal. This boy doesn't respect her just by the way he answers her which is also my concern. He never met me or vice versa. My daughter just told me about him I'd say a month ago. What further advice can you give me? Should I do nothing? Am I over reacting?

Louise - posted on 05/15/2012

Don't read text messages on her phone, this is a bad habit to get into. If the lad says it in ear shot then confront him. Let your daughter have a private life as much as you can. I am sure you would of gone mad if you saw your mother reading your diary as a teenager well this is just the same.

Unless your daughter is giving you grounds to suspect something criminal or unsavoury is going on give her some respect.