I have teenagers...Is it to late too have another baby?

Melody Mendez - posted on 01/18/2013

Well listen here I'm 40 and my oldest is 24 and I just had twins 15 weeks ago! It don't matter what it is I can tell you this ITS THE GREATEST LOVE OF ALL EVEN THOUGH YOUR OLDER!!!!

Kelly - posted on 02/27/2012

I laughed out loud when I read your question...being in the midst of teenage h-e-double toothpicks I can't even begin to imagine wanting to start over! ha ha!



But, I do have a 29 year old daughter who has given me three beautiful grand babies ...and there is nothing like snuggling them up!



I have a son that I adopted when he was six and he is 15 now. When I'm struggling with the teen years I sometimes say to myself..."what was I thinking" lol but I wouldn't trade him for the world!



I think you have to ask yourself...will you want to be going to parent/teacher conferences and ball games when you are in your fifties? Everyone wants babies...they are cute and lovable and make us feel needed...but, you can get that feeling with grand babies, too. And not be worn out by noon.



You will never regret having a baby. You will fall in love and won't be able to imagine life without them and will always be glad you did it.

Nicole - posted on 02/24/2012

I have a 16 year old, a four year old, and I just posted here a few days ago about wanting to have another baby! It is true though, only you can decide what is right for you and your family. I love having my 16 year old and 4 year old together but I want another one closer to the age of the 4 year old. The 16 year old is a big help with his baby brother. I think you should talk it out with your family and decide from there. Though, I don't think age, be it your age or age gaps, should be the deciding factor. Good luck in your decision!

Marnie - posted on 02/24/2012

No way! Not to old at all! :) I just had my second at 38.. when he was born now I'm 39 and still hoping to have another in the next couple of years. It has brought a fresh joy into our home which we all soak up. I was sort of feeling like "My baby boy (who will turn 16 this year) is going to graduate from high school soon! Oh my goodness! I'm not ready to be done being a mommy!" So it was such a blessing when we found out we were expecting. My son just LOVES being a big brother too. Of course no diaper changing yet.. LOL.. but he is always right there to help hold him etc. God bless you as you think through this exciting decision :)

Karen - posted on 09/23/2009

I had my first child at 38 so age is not an issue provided you are healthy (a visit to your doctor would be advisable). This will however affect the whole family dynamic so perhaps hinting around the family to see where everyone stands might be in order. Not that they have final say in the issue but you can start working them toward your way of thinking.

Jeannette - posted on 09/22/2009

Yes it is a pre-nest thing. And no you're not to old to have a baby. I say that if your health is good go for it. Always think of another option. They will all be out soon that means you can travel. Wooooo hooooo. Mabye you can go to Paris, like in your profile picture. lol. Pray on it.

Tamara - posted on 09/21/2009

Hi, I have three children aged 16, 14 and four months. I didnt think I would have anymore than two but it has been the best thing ever as I have so much more time to give the baby this time round. The older kids just adore and spoil him to bits and its also taught them how demanding a baby can be. I suggest if the feeling of wanting another baby is still there in another few months then go for it otherwise put some pressure on the 21 year old for grand kids some time soon then you can give them back.lol

Kathy - posted on 09/21/2009

I am 38 with a 18, 16, 4 and 2. I think energy wise it was easier back then, but knowlage wise it is better now., and I think i enjoy them better too. I also miss my freedom! For me having teens and tots has been rough. You know how teens talk and smart off. I don't like the babies being around that. When the older 2 were coming up I didn't have 2 "know it alls" around to interfear.I really feel like gumby now, they each require a lot of attention.

I don't think it is a bad thing to want another baby, infact it is pretty normal. I am sure you are not the first one to go through this and wont be the last. Just make sure you do it for the right reasons.

Chris - posted on 09/21/2009

lol, u are about the same age i was when i got pregnant again, after already having 5 kids in which the youngest ones were twin 10yr olds. With other siblings being older, they can be a big help but it will also be a adjustment to them to having little feet chasing them and getting into their stuff. Pray on it, and if its meant to happen, it will. My kids are now 21, almost 20, almost 17, twins 15, and one that will be 5 in DEc.

Gail - posted on 09/20/2009

No if you want another child then go for it. I had my daughter when my son was 13. She was born in November and he turned 14 in April. He would not trade his sister for anything in the world. They have actually gotten closer as she has gotten older; they are now 28 and 14.

KRISTY - posted on 09/20/2009

i had another baby when my daughter was 12, they love each other!!! its never too late!!!

Crishaw - posted on 09/20/2009

Do whatever you feel is right for you. No matter what it will work out.

DaVonna - posted on 09/20/2009

i don't think it is bad to want or have another child. my oldest is 14 and i have a 2 month old. it was a big gap but it was so worth it. my only concern is we are at advance maternal age and check with your doctor and make sure it is a good idea. good luck on whatever decision you make.

Christine - posted on 09/20/2009

I just turned 30 and I have I started young having kids, in which they are now 12 and 13 years old. I just had a baby girl and shes a month old :) To be honest I wanted another baby but at the same time I wasnt sure if I wanted 2 sacrafice my freedom that I had to a extent being that my girls are extremely self sufficent to a point and I didnt wont to go through the hassels of finding baby sitters. Well I didnt get pregnant for years and then it happened... I had to make adjustments around my life and its taking patience that we seem to grow with age. I am still adjusting to the all hours of night feedings but I love it I wouldnt change a thing.I was reading other responses and I will tell u one thing that is so very true your friends without the babys dont seem to have time for you or its maybe you both are taking opposite directions at this point in your life and your paths will cross every now and then.Its entirely up to u and your partner.Good luck

Theresa - posted on 09/20/2009

This is very personal. I have kids and stepkids that range in age from their mid twenties, teens and school age. The 3 girls are all 8 years apart! I can tell you though, that with me getting older I do have more patience and wisdom. I learned not to sweat the small stuff. And I am more prepared (we are never really prepared! lol) for what to expect at each stage of life they go through. I wouldnt worry about raising a baby that may not have brothers and sisters to play with. Some of the most well rounded kids I know are "only childs" or children who have much older brothers and sisters! On the other hand, remember when your older children move on you no longer have to provide day care, or get slepless nights. Only you can make the right decision for yourself. Best of luck!

Lisa - posted on 09/20/2009

I believe this is a personal decision.... you CAN have children at 39....but the question is do you really WANT to go thru it again? or do you WANT the quietness and relaxation after so many years? I know friends that went thru that and decided against it and was very happy later on with that decision....and another freind of mine had a baby at 38 and she feels blessed.....so its a personal decision.....personally for me.i want the piece and quiet !!!!!!! and grandchildren !!!

Kaye - posted on 09/20/2009

Hello Adella,

I don't think you're too old to have another baby at all. I am 41 this year, I had my daughter at 23 ( making her 17 ) and my son Noah will be 2 on 9th October. I have found it much harder this time round though to be honest. You have to sacrifice alot of the 'freedom' you have now, and go back to finding sitters for nights out, and working on 3 hours sleep! It's hard work as you get older as you don't have the energy you had in your 20's. I've also found it quite lonely too as all my friends are now enjoying their time with older kids, and they don't really bother with me much as I can never go out or see them without a toddler in tow. On the upside, I wouldn't miss all the moments I've cherished with my baby son, the times he's kissed me, cuddled me, and watching him reach all those 1st milestones again. No one can tell you weather you should or shouldn't have another one, but you need to do it for the right reasons for both you and the baby. Good luck xx

Sara - posted on 09/19/2009

i dont think that it is a bad thing to want another baby and if you can that is great. my husband and i have tried for 9 years and still no luck . we both have children from previous marriages. but we are still trying and his oldest is 19 and the youngest is 10

Jillian - posted on 09/19/2009

My eldest is twenty-four, next one is nineteen and baby is twelve. I am in my fifties. It worked out great for us. I'd do it again in the flick of a frog's tongue! The kids are all really close and almost never argue. Like Ashlie said, the age differences allowed us to give the children a great deal of one on one attention without sacrificing their own closeness with one another. I feel confident that if anything happened to my husband and I, the oldest is mature enough and close enough to her baby brother to take care of him.

If you're ready for the lack of sleep and all the rest of the work that goes into the first few years, I'm guessing that the older kids will fall over themselves to give you the kind of support you didn't have with them when they were little! We love our little surprise! As Jennifer said, "...if that is your fondest desire..." I also say go for it!

Jennifer - posted on 09/18/2009

it is called early empty nester syndrome and it is all up to you and your significant other as to if you want to pretty much start over again with the diapers and 2 a.m. feedings . no one can tell you what to do but i say if that is your fondest desire then go for it . hugs

Ashlie - posted on 09/18/2009

Our oldest is 14 and I am now 36 weeks pregnant. I'm glad we waited personally. Our daughter got great one on one attention growing up and is now old enough not to have to worry about any sibling rivalry. :) She is excited that she gets a baby brother, and that by the time he "get anoying" she will most likely be off to collage. I come form a large family however there are a lot of years between all of us. My older brother and I are 11 years apart and my youngest sister and I are 7 years apart. I can tell you personally that my brother and I as well as my sister and I are very close. We talk at least once a week more often then not three times a week and that is living 10 hrs apart. So the age difference for us siblings has been a great thing. Also I have to say that my mom and I as well as my dad when he was still with us Are VERY close. The age difference between kids allowed us to have individual relationships and it was/is great! If you are sure you want the work when you are almost done I say go for it!

Angela - posted on 09/18/2009

hy well no there nothin wrong wiv wantin 2 av another baby at 39 and when i was 37 i had my youngest son and my 2 other children had just tured 13 and 8!! and let me tell u thats 1 hell oof a gap between em lol but its been gd coz my daughter helps change nappies etc and my older son whos now 15 babysits 4 me and at the end of the the only 1 who can make the dicition 2 av another babys yours and if u need 2 chat im ere 4 u ok angela xx

Jannette - posted on 09/17/2009

If I could have another one I would. My oldest is nearly 18 and my youngest is nearly 16. So long as you have the support of your partner and it is something you both want I don't see why not. Weigh up the risks and discuss it.

Talea - posted on 09/17/2009

It may be empty nest, but I firmly believe that babies are a gift from God and I am 34 and pregnant with No.4 so my answer is no, as long as you are able and God is willing go for it. Having had babies in the past you know what work it is and if you say you want one go with God. :)

Samantha - posted on 09/17/2009

I'm 38 and have a 16 year old daughter and i now have a 1 year old son, i have really enjoyed being a mum again at this stage in my life.my daughter has been a great help and loves him to pieces.i think if you want another baby go for it.good luck i hope it all works out for you.

Jessica - posted on 09/17/2009

My husband and I are both 32 and after losing an unexpected pregnancy in July, we are now actively trying to conceive. We didn't expect the child that we lost but now we are hoping for another one. Best of luck and best wishes!!

Jacqueline - posted on 09/17/2009

NO I have 3 older children and I had a baby when my youngest was 10, it was one of the BEST things that ever happened to our family. It has kept me from going insane raising teenagers...LOTS of love from the little guy, when the teenagers are trying to pull away!

Deirdre - posted on 09/17/2009

My mom had six children. I am the youngest. The child closest in age to me is still eight years older. My oldest brother was 17 when I was born. We all did fine together! If it is really what you want, go for it while you can!

Keysha - posted on 09/16/2009

This decision is totally yours, but i had my children young. I have two in college and 3 at home my oldest is 20 and youngest 7. I feel its good to have them spread out, but like i said decision is all yours and your spouses.

Beaunka - posted on 09/16/2009

no its never to late but dont waite to late becuse you know wants you are over 40yrs old thats a big risk i have a 18yr old and a 5yr old iam 43yrs old good luck and god bless

Leonie - posted on 09/16/2009

i was 38 when i had my little girl in 08 my other two are nearly 16 and 10 both boys , but i can tell you iam absolutly loving this precious little gift i dont think that age matters if you are healthy and can be ther for all your children if it is what you want go for it there are always the ifs and buts but if its what you want the choice is yours good luck

Nina - posted on 09/16/2009

I would be mortified if I had a child now with my youngest being 16. I am at a point in my life I can go places and do things w/o worrying about trying to get home before school lets out, or do I have enough bottles, food etc.. I can get in the pool and close my eyes and not worry if my son is going to drown cause I closed them. This is me, and we are 2 different people and although this may be the best thing for other mothers, I don't think I could have another child at my age. I was taking care of my grand-daughter which is 5 yo for a few months and let me tell you, I am ever so thankful that was a short time. You on the other hand, may feel blessed to have another child, but I for one, enjoy my life and my time alone with a quiet house when my son is away for a few hours or weekend at his dads.

Teresa - posted on 09/15/2009

I am 39 and have 20 month old twins, It was not planned, but I think it is much easier this time around

Patty - posted on 09/15/2009

I have a 17 year old and a 3 year old...I say go for it!

Bari - posted on 09/15/2009

I had a baby @ 39 !it was really hard for me to start all ova again I dont have the energy that i had when i was 26 w/ my oldest daughter.she is now 14 .at first she loved the idea of having a baby sister but now she cant be bothered cause @ 3 sammy is into everything.and u have to look afta her at all times and telling a 14 yr old that is just out of the question.LOL I would not trade having a child @ the age of 39 for anything..good luck and I say go for it!

Patricia - posted on 09/15/2009

I'm a 33 year old mother of a 15 year old, and I have a 16 month old son. I started early, but the feeling of my daughter being an only baby, I felt that it wasn't fair. I forgot about the loss of sleep, gaining weight, 24/7 attention with the baby. All this while my daughter is planning her homecoming dance, and prom. If you think you are ready to face the challenge then it's up to you. I have alot of help with my daughter changing pampers and preparing bottles when my hands are too busy. She loves helping, and looks forward to seeing her brother after school. It's also helping her realize first hand on the sacrifice it takes on raising a baby as well.

Kisha - posted on 09/14/2009

I'm in the same boat. I just had a baby boy in May, and my daughter is 16 and my son is 10. I love it because my older kids are such a great help and they really love their little brother. Just make sure you are ready for this big change, because its just like starting over and somethings I forgot about because i was caught up in having the baby, like getting up at 2am, not getting any sleep, gaining all this weight and having a hard time getting it off, changing poopy pampers, and paying a lot of money for daycare. But it was all worth it.

Jackie - posted on 09/14/2009

Only you can figure out if you really want another baby. 39 is not old ,babies need love and stability, write down the pros and cons and good luck in whatever you decide xx jackie

ps. i had a boy at 38 and a little girl at 41 with a 9 year gap between them and my older 6