I need encouragement and lots of prayers please! (Sons left home)

Carol-Lynn - posted on 04/24/2013 ( 15 moms have responded )

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I need encouragement and lots of prayers please! (2 Sons left home)

First a bit of history...My ex-husband who was 38 at the time, abandoned me and our 3 boys, ages 10, 7 & 3 yr old for a 19 yr old security guard at work in the mines. Shortly afterwards he started having 4 more children with this woman and they later got married. My 17 yr. old last fall left our home because he was being disciplined at home for breaking the law. He moved into his girlfriend's home with her parents. The parents have no problem supporting him! Now the girlfriend broke up with him and she is now dating a new guy and the parents still welcome my son to live there! 
Now yesterday...my 14 yr. old son just left our home to move in with his biological father. He was also grounded...from his cell ph that we signed a contract for, and as his behavior and rebilloiousness escalated despite the grounding so we disconnected his internet service. He continued to not come home and told us he would come home when he wanted.
Our 10 yr. old is living with my husband and I and I thank God for the blessing every day.
I'm shocked because I constantly gave to my children, ....breakfasts were made for them, packed their lunches, even brought hot dinners to my oldest at work for him, etc... I gave everything for them.
I believe that my 14 yr. old was heavily persuaded by his father. My ex started allowing my son to have sleepovers with his 14 yr. old girlfriend! It's still beyond my understanding how this girl's mother was ok with this!
Jeremiah 29:11 says, "I alone know the plans I have for you, plans to bring you prosperity and not disaster, plans to bring about the future you hope for. Then you will call to me, and you will find me because you will seek me with all your heart." 

A few weeks ago a friend told me to read Isaiah 49:22-24 "The Sovereign LORD says to his people; "I will signal to the nations, and they will bring your children home. Kings will be like fathers to you; queens will be like mothers. They will bow low before you and honor you; they will humbly show their respect for you. Then you will know that I am the LORD; no one who waits for my help will be disappointed." 


My hope and prayer and belief is that these verses will help ALL of the moms that are feeling the same pain and nightmare as I am once again. Please don't forget, God isn't the type who says, "nah, I change my mind, I'm not keeping my promise" or "no sorry, this promise isn't for you" ...He is a God who never changes and will always love you no matter what and will even be your husband the bible says! If we remain faithful and loving to Him, He promises "no one who waits for my help will be disappointed". Wow! that is pretty black & white.
Please stay strong and mostly patient while God works on our behalf for victory. He already made us a promise....just sit still and watch expectedly.

God bless each and everyone of you. May we all pray for each other.

Matthew 18:20 "For where two or three gather in my name, there I am with them."

p.s I am new to this circle and I have read many posts that talk of the same heart-break...please let's post our victories when God answer's our prayers. Let's bring His glory to Light...it's the least we can do when our prayers have been answered. And it will also encourage the rest of us who are waiting in the dark room of loneliness and heart-break. Thank you all. God Bless

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Rebecca - posted on 05/12/2013

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Father, help Carol-Lynn and her husband to walk in unity through these times. Help them to love each other and to model a godly relationship to these children.

Pitrak - posted on 04/30/2013

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I am so sorry that you have had such pain as a mother. I relate to the words you quoted. My heart goes out to you. I will think of you and pray for your son as best as I can.
Pitrak

Rebecca - posted on 04/30/2013

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Father, please help Carol-Lynn to walk in your truth. Please help her to love her family and do what is right.

Birgitte - posted on 04/28/2013

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We have been through some dark days with our 20 year old daughter, and I have questioned my parenting abilities and where God was in the situation.
My advice, keep praying and ( this is the hard part ) accept that your child's decisions are not your decisions. Love them anyway. I feel for you. Often the good things you have already instilled will come back. Our daughter is slowly but surely growing up. Making better choices, more grateful and fun to be around. Lean on your friends. Praise God at all times.

Rebecca - posted on 04/27/2013

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Thank you Father that no one who trusts in you will be disappointed. Please help Carol-Lynn and others in her situation to cling on to you. Thank you that your plans are good. Grant her the patience she needs to wait for you.

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Carol-Lynn - posted on 09/22/2013

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Good evening Lisa,
I've got some encouragement and hope for you this evening....my 17,(now 18) yr old moved back home shortly after this post I wrote and is a changed person. He is even now enrolled in college! It seemed he did need to hit rock bottom but as the protocol child in the bible...we welcomed him back with open loving arms. As for my 15 yr old...I still text him at night "good night, I love you" to only receive no response but silence. But I've seen it with my own eyes....in the bible God's promise and in my life with the return of one of my children. God's promise is "They will bow low before you and honor you; they will humbly show their respect for you. Then you will know that I am the LORD; no one who waits for my help will be disappointed."
Don't let go of God's promise Lisa....if anything at all, keep repeating and believing in them, especially when you start feeling hopeless and all the evidence points the opposite way. You have to have faith Lisa. Unfortunetly our prayers getting answered isn't always in our timing but God's...that's the hard one for us moms...waiting. Try and distract yourself, volunteer, give back to others in something that you are interested in or want to help with. It really does help. This week I overheard a saying that I've heard a million times but this time it really stood out..."Jesus died on the cross so that we can enjoy our lives." ...hmmm...."enjoy our lives".
This person said, "It's perfectly okay for you to be enjoying your life while you have a problem"
.."There's no point in being depressed and weighed down or preoccupied with your problem because God is already working on your problem so you might as well enjoy your life in the meantime"
Ephesians 6:13 "having done all that Christ demands now stand firmly in your place."
"Learn how to focus on good things. Everybody has something negative that they could focus on but what you focus on is what you magnify." What we talk about is something that we focus more on our life. And think about the possibilities in your life and not the problems in your life... be careful what you talk about and what comes out of your mouth daily. It will be what you focus on.
Enjoying your life is not a suggestion to us it's actually and literally Jesus's words and commands to us. God has plans for our lives but so does the devil.
John: 10:10
"The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that you may have and enjoy your life."
Hmmm..."enjoy"
My prayers will be with you Lisa, from one mom to another and we will see God's promise...I know we will!
Please let me know when your prayer is answered. I will celebrate with you.
Sweet dreams and good night.

Lisa - posted on 09/21/2013

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Carol-Lynn,
How are things going? Especially with your 14 year old son?
My son is 19, and we are estranged, it looks hopeless and I cry ever day, all the time.
Please remember me in your prayers, as you know the pain I am feeling, thank you!

Lisa

Rebecca - posted on 05/12/2013

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Thank you for answering our prayers Father. We continue to remember this family before you, especially the 14 year old. Please open his eyes that he may have wisdom beyond his years. Help him to hear from you and know what is right.

Carol-Lynn - posted on 05/08/2013

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P.S. I would also like to give a huge thank you to each and everyone of you who read my loooooong novel! LOL 😜
THANK YOU!

Carol-Lynn - posted on 05/08/2013

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Hi everyone, thanks for posting on my post with all your kind words and encouragements and most importantly..all your prayers! You girls certainly did speed up the process with your prayers! Lol ...I have great news and wanted to share with all of you....my 18-year-old son has come back home! Last Friday he moved back in. He did have to hit rock bottom but in the end, he's home safe and sound! and all is really good. However my 14-year-old is still not back ...yet. I believe in God's timing and promises and the power of prayer🙏👍 thank you all once again! God bless🌹

Carol-Lynn - posted on 04/24/2013

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Thank you sooooo much Amanda....you have no ideal and I truly prayer you never find out the nightmare I am living through right now. Thank you for your reminder and support. God Bless

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