Carol-Lynn - posted on 04/24/2013 ( 15 moms have responded )
I need encouragement and lots of prayers please! (2 Sons left home)
First a bit of history...My ex-husband who was 38 at the time, abandoned me and our 3 boys, ages 10, 7 & 3 yr old for a 19 yr old security guard at work in the mines. Shortly afterwards he started having 4 more children with this woman and they later got married. My 17 yr. old last fall left our home because he was being disciplined at home for breaking the law. He moved into his girlfriend's home with her parents. The parents have no problem supporting him! Now the girlfriend broke up with him and she is now dating a new guy and the parents still welcome my son to live there! Now yesterday...my 14 yr. old son just left our home to move in with his biological father. He was also grounded...from his cell ph that we signed a contract for, and as his behavior and rebilloiousness escalated despite the grounding so we disconnected his internet service. He continued to not come home and told us he would come home when he wanted.
Our 10 yr. old is living with my husband and I and I thank God for the blessing every day.
I'm shocked because I constantly gave to my children, ....breakfasts were made for them, packed their lunches, even brought hot dinners to my oldest at work for him, etc... I gave everything for them.
I believe that my 14 yr. old was heavily persuaded by his father. My ex started allowing my son to have sleepovers with his 14 yr. old girlfriend! It's still beyond my understanding how this girl's mother was ok with this!
Jeremiah 29:11 says, "I alone know the plans I have for you, plans to bring you prosperity and not disaster, plans to bring about the future you hope for. Then you will call to me, and you will find me because you will seek me with all your heart."
A few weeks ago a friend told me to read Isaiah 49:22-24 "The Sovereign LORD says to his people; "I will signal to the nations, and they will bring your children home. Kings will be like fathers to you; queens will be like mothers. They will bow low before you and honor you; they will humbly show their respect for you. Then you will know that I am the LORD; no one who waits for my help will be disappointed."
My hope and prayer and belief is that these verses will help ALL of the moms that are feeling the same pain and nightmare as I am once again. Please don't forget, God isn't the type who says, "nah, I change my mind, I'm not keeping my promise" or "no sorry, this promise isn't for you" ...He is a God who never changes and will always love you no matter what and will even be your husband the bible says! If we remain faithful and loving to Him, He promises "no one who waits for my help will be disappointed". Wow! that is pretty black & white.
Please stay strong and mostly patient while God works on our behalf for victory. He already made us a promise....just sit still and watch expectedly.
God bless each and everyone of you. May we all pray for each other.
Matthew 18:20 "For where two or three gather in my name, there I am with them."
p.s I am new to this circle and I have read many posts that talk of the same heart-break...please let's post our victories when God answer's our prayers. Let's bring His glory to Light...it's the least we can do when our prayers have been answered. And it will also encourage the rest of us who are waiting in the dark room of loneliness and heart-break. Thank you all. God Bless