Rebeca - posted on 04/09/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )
I suffer from a chronic illness which means I am either in a wheelchair, or bed ridden with chronic fatigue. I have a 12 year old daughter who has just started high school, and a 9 year old son and I get depressed thinking that I am not being the best mum I can be to my kids, eg as I don't drive, I cannot take my daughter on girls days out shopping or to movies, and I cant drive my son to sports practice or practice with him. I have a wonderful husband (their stepfather) who drives them everywhere as well as caring for me full time so the kids arent really missing out on anything but I just feel like they are growing up so fast and needing me less, and I want them to grow up feeling close to me and like I was there for them as they were growing up.
My daughter and I have movie nights at home, with popcorn and dvds, or Beauty nights where we give each other facials, paint nails etc, and I still read to my son every night, but not sure what else I can do to spend quality time with them.
I would really appreciate any advice, especially from other mums suffering chronic illness. I ahve ankylosing spondylitis, fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome and sometimes suffer depression because of my illness. (I got sick 6 years ago). I have seen many specialists but they all believe my condition is permanent and I need to come to terms with it though I remain positive that there will be a breakthrough which will help me walk again someday.