I think my teenage son is masturbating too much

Army_Mom - posted on 07/08/2012 ( 53 moms have responded )

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When it comes to teenage boys and masturbation, it is given that at some point during puberty all of them figure out that there penis does something else other than just peeing.

This week I had a conversation with my son about it because I wanted to know if he knew what it was all about, and he actually told me he does it 4-5 times a day!

That seems like a lot of times to me. Could he actually be needing to do it that many times a day, or is his body just producing too much sperm?

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Nicole - posted on 11/23/2012

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As the mother of a 13 year old boy, I do consider that much masturbation excessive. I believe it may deaden your son's healthy interest in other activities, including meeting and socializing with girls. I had the same problem with my son. It seemed that whenever I walked into his room he was busy at it. He always tried to hide it as quickly as he could but it was obvious what he was doing. I cautioned him he was doing it too often, but he continued anyhow. Finally, one day when I discovered him once again masturbating (and I was in an angry mood from work, which I admit didn't enhance my judgment!), I Made him pull back his blanket, look at his magazine and finish the act while I leaned against the door and watched. He was totally humiliated. It may not be the best way to handle the matter, but it does seem to have worked!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/30/2014

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Nicole, I'm surprised your son did not turn you in for child sexual abuse. That was MORE than the wrong way to handle it...Did you get your rocks off too?

Bob - posted on 01/03/2015

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Holy Crap!, what the heck is wrong with you Women? stay the hell out of a teenage boys business when it comes to masturbating. As long as he is doing it privately it is NONE of your concern. A males sexual drive is very different to that of a females and a Woman is in no way ever going to be qualified to understand it. It's already a total disgrace that you have come onto this forum to discuss their private matters like this. Cut the apron strings and let your boys become men on their own without filling them with so much shame that they later turn into warped little sex offenders. You need to be teaching them to respect Women and treat them kindly but with this level of interfering you risk making them think that all Women are nosey, tactless and oppressive.

Alfred - posted on 10/31/2012

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Boys Masturbate, Men Masturbate even when they are married.. It is normal for a teen boy to masturbate alot... as long as he is doing it in private and meeting his other obligations, school. etc.. he is fine..



When I was 15 I use to masturbate about 3 to 4 times a day and even now as a married man, I enjoy masturbating and having solo time.

JM - posted on 01/25/2014

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@Nicole - What you did to your son is sexual abuse. I am disgusted.

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Sarah - posted 4 days ago

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Why permit him to continue to be counseled by this priest at all? My boys have a great relationship with the priest at our church and I know that in the young men's bible study group this topic has come up. While teaching about chastity and abstinence, I do know that the priest focuses on self-control but also discusses the reality of human nature. I don't want to start a whole debate on this; but if your son is so distressed by what he has been told by his priest? I'd find a new church. You son cannot put his sin on to you, he has free will and intellect. For a priest to tell him that he is committing a mortal sin, but that he can continue that sin with your permission is messed up.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted 4 days ago

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Sarcasm is not appropriate for this topic, ESPECIALLY not when you take it into the realm of child pornography and exploitation. Stop being ridiculous.

Gergana - posted 4 days ago

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It make sense when you obviously have deep psycological issues caused by religion. In midle ages people looked up their private parts in chastity devices just to struggle with masturbation witch they thought was a great sin . Nowadays also many churches recognize it as a sin and even mortal sin , including the one my son is visiting. If i approve it he gotta respect my decision ,cause he gotta obey his parents and i'm taking his sin for him ,he can free his mind and ejaculate with ease. The other way he trully suffers very much. I'm at a point that i want to kill his priest for messing up my son's head.

Tammy - posted 5 days ago

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Don't you think there is seriously something wrong if what you say is true, that he begs you? This just doesn't make sense

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted 5 days ago

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What you just suggested is child pornography, and further sexual exploitation, both of which are illegal!

Gergana - posted 5 days ago

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So you want me to send you a video to prove it's true, right . Are you ready for that ?! You are trolling by not recognising a different types of behavior out of what is socially accepted in US. There are other cultures, you know!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted 5 days ago

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I just knew I would find the trolling gergana at some point...you are ridiculous. Your son doesn't masturbate out of guilt and shame, and you WATCHING HIM is sexual exploitation.

Gergana - posted 6 days ago

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My son begs me to watch him. He says this is the only way to get rid off the shame and guilt imposed by religion

Justine - posted on 08/17/2016

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I don't think there's anything to worry about. Masturbation - by either sex - is a healthy activity.
If your son masturbates that much, he is obviously experiencing strong sexual urges. Better to relieve himself by masturbation, than to accost girls or women.

Justine (Mother of 14 year-old boy.)

Alfred - posted on 08/13/2016

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this seems to have gotten out of hand. My comment was a comment about a realistic aspect not some crude thing. As regards the comment about not poking your nose into a boys business......please remember he is only a boy and needs guidance. Boys do masturbate over their ideas of their mothers........it is a human thing.............nothing wrong in it. I think it is a stage of growing up. My advice is to establish if that is so ............and then to try to guide him to doing it to appropriate other aspects or towards other females............such as a girl he likes or a magazine he likes.

Alfred - posted on 06/29/2016

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it could be that maybe he is masturbating over thoughts of you...................boys sometimes do that alot when they fantasise about their mother. if you want advice my emails is sgt4696@gmail.com please feel free to ask my advice abut anything

Brooklyn - posted on 03/11/2016

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I honestly thought I was the only mom talking to my 3 sons about these things. Just yesterday I talked with all of them seperalty and went good as expected. I love I have a group now.

Sarah - posted on 03/11/2016

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Louis Dad, your advice is perverse and illegal. Again, moderators....where are you? Please lock this thread

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I wanted to add, What is up with all the Norma Bates? WHY as a mother would any of you WANT TO KNOW THIS INFO and force yourself into his space? Good grief,
I'm just shocked at how many of you do not respect your sons privacy..Good Lord.

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As long as he isnt being nasty and you have to get onto him for cleanliness because YOU are not interested in cleaning it OR you are teaching him sex ed. LEAVE HIM ALONE. HIS SEXUALITY IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS . So long as hes appropriate age. Unless he chooses to talk to you. There are things NOT for Mom, this is one of them. If hes at this point, all you should be doing is making condoms and maybe wipes magically appear in his side table with a be neat, be safe love Mom note. THATS IT.

Marie M. - posted on 03/04/2016

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My son has masturbated regularly since he was about 13. I suspect also several times a day. I think it should be ok as long as he does it in private.

Nicole - posted on 06/24/2015

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Army Mom, he needs more healthy and wholesome activities to fill his time with. 4 or 5 times a day is too much.

Samantha - posted on 04/30/2015

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Your so fucked up your such a terrible mom for doing that ugh that's sooooo bad

Samantha - posted on 04/30/2015

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Nicole that's soooo fucked up you don't even know. Your such a bad mother for doing that.

Mirunda - posted on 12/26/2014

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Im a dude 13 and i dont do it that much regularly its prob only 1—2 times a day but i used to do it a lot more when i was 9 and just started to do it

Susan - posted on 08/19/2014

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Yes indeed This is totally normal My son (14) has a hard up several several times a day and jerks off qiute regularly. It will wear off with time I do not worry nor should you

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/15/2014

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I see the trolls have arrived...

Calen - posted on 08/08/2014

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Maleiteira Maleiteirax - I seriously doubt there is need for corporal punishment. Masturbation is totally normal and should not be handled in the way you are describing. This makes me sick to my stomach. I sincerely hope you posted this as some kind of sarcastic joke albeit a disturbing one. If not well...God have mercy

Georgina - posted on 08/08/2014

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Wow. Just...wow. You should be ashamed of yourself. It's "mothers" (and I use that term loosely) such as yourself which make my job so much more difficult (Child Abuse and Sex Offences - policing).
What a horrible little selfish woman you are. God I pity your future daughter-in-law, or male partner. Hopefully no damage has been done by your 'punishment'. Those who work within child abuse have words for so-called "mothers" like you, but I'm not going to repeat them here.

Nick - posted on 02/24/2014

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Has he just started? A lot of boys do it excessively when they start but decrease later on

Sarah - posted on 01/25/2014

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Well, many boys go through this stage in there life. Maybe you should talk to your son. So It doesn't become a normal thing for your son. As long as he doesn't loose focus on his priorities he will be fine.

Janice - posted on 11/27/2012

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One of my sons had a urethra issue that we did not know earlier, and it made the complete process a multiple times a day issue, and also that he produced so much semen the emptying of it was not fulfilled in one or two sessions. After seeing the Dr and having the issue somewhat resolved, he still masturbates quite a bit , but not because of a problem, but because he enjoys the process.

Chris - posted on 11/23/2012

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The only wayof someone wacking there dick too much, is if they penis is getting sore

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My 14 yr son masturbates constantly. It is normal. I enjoy it why wouldn't they.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/10/2012

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Army Mom: I did read before I commented, tyvm.

My opinion is that you asking your son about masturbation is creepy. I didn't have to ask mine, the evidence was pretty obvious. That's all I'm saying. My apologies if you don't like my opinion, but, after all, this is an internet forum. You're bound to read something you don't like along the way.

Take it with a grain of salt, is what I do, and move on. ;-)

Besides that, if you are concerned that it could cause issues, consult a urologist. The affected area is the urethra, and the more constant constriction could cause problems in extreme cases, as I said in my earlier post as well.

Cheers! :-)

Elizabeth - posted on 07/09/2012

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A few things, normally the female sex drive is nothing like a male"s. So don't concern yourself. Boys are one huge sex hormone, they eat, sleep and breathe sex. Its in the DNA. I have three sons. Two are eighteen and one is 15. I even helped raised my nephew for a bit who is n ow 29. Four or five times a day is alot, but, I would rather them play with themselves then someone's daughter. As long as he doesn't injure himself, which is unlikely, you can be assured of two things, one he wont be getting anyone pregnant and two, STDs are not an issue,



Just make sure he cleans up after himself, and keeps it private.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/09/2012

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Look at it this way...at least you're not a grandmother.

If you're concerned, ask a urologist if the constant constriction could be something that would affect his bladder on down the line, but otherwise, it's kind of creepy that you wanted to know HOW OFTEN your son plays with himself...

Brittney - posted on 07/08/2012

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When I met my (now husband) at 18, we would have sex up to 6 times a day and he would still find time to masturbate. Its completely normal, but over the past few years he only does it a few times a week if even that and we don't have nearly as much sex as we used to. I say your son is young and has a lot of hormones running through his body, as he gets older, it will slow down.

Denikka - posted on 07/08/2012

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My hubby used to be like that too. I met him when he was 19 and even at that point, and with having sex regularly, he was still masturbating at least 4-6 times a day. He's mellowed a lot in the past year or so. I think it's a normal thing. The hormones and whatnot are running rampant.
Not to mention that masturbation is a stress reliever.
I don't think it's a *need* necessarily, but I wouldn't be concerned about how frequently (or not) he does it unless he starts choosing inappropriate times and places. As long as he's doing it in a healthy manner, there's nothing wrong with it at all :)

Caroline - posted on 07/08/2012

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Hey, Army_Mom, there is literally no way you can jerk off too much.

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