Rhonda - posted on 07/11/2011 ( 32 moms have responded )
I have a 17 year old son, 14 year old daughter and an 11 year old son. I'm not saying that we haven't had challenges with raising our tennagers, but they are respectful, kind, and considerate. After giving it some thought, I realized that there were some significant approaches taken to ensure good behavior:
1. Anything worth having is worth working for. I made them understand that a team has to work to succeed. Our family is a team and we all have to work together to make it work.
2. The right thing to do is usually the hardest thing to do. I introduced this concept early in development. When situations came up, we talked about right and wrong and how the consequences determine your selection. I explained that most times, you are not going to want to do the right thing because it's more difficult or hurtful, but PUSH FORWARD. In the end, you will always be happy you did.
3. Good character is when your words and actions match. There is no such thing as "Do what I say, not what I do". Be your child's example. If you fall short, be honest with your child. Show them how to take responsibility for their actions and fix their screw ups.
4. Children are not entitled to anything. Just because you have the means to buy your child everything, does not mean you should. It's important that they understand that, as parents, we have to earn money to make things happen. They, as children, have to earn to privledge for me to spend my money. Nothing is free.
Do you have any "Pearls of Wisdom" that helped you with successfully raising your teens?