If your son got someone pregnant

Lisa - posted on 03/17/2010 ( 594 moms have responded )

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My 17 year old is having a baby in September and everything seemed to be going fine until the parents of the boy found out...now he does not want anything to do with my daughter or the baby and neither do his parents....he will be 19 when the baby comes. They say that this will ruin his life and that he is going to University in the fall and that we can expect no help financially from them....I would like to know what other parents think...I also have a son and if he got someone pregnant he would have to support that child even if he only knew the girl two days or two years....

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Tracy - posted on 12/04/2013

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I just found out my son's girlfriend is pregnant. ....he wants to do what ever he can.....I am in such shock. ...not that he wants to abandon her but he is so irresponsible. ....I'm heart broken. ..I don't know why to do or say or feel. ...I can't stop crying. ....her parents want to meet me. .... it feels like a nightmare

Edgard - posted on 01/06/2014

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hi, I am currently going through the same. I am 23 years old, I got mixed up in a 2 year relationship which ended last July (2013). The past month (December) my ex girlfriend and I met at a party, we started catching up, having some drinks and we were having a good time. One thing lead to the other and we had sex. We used a condom but it ripped and neither of us noticed it. The next day she drank the day after pill hoping it would prevent the unwanted pregnancy. She is 22 and still a year from finishing college (she is studying to be a dentist). I am 23 and graduated last year, I have a stable job. I just found out,3 days ago (January 3, 2014) that she is indeed pregnant. I've had trouble coping with the idea that I am going to be a father, specially with her. After the incident happened, and she took the pill, we talked about it and both concluded that it was a mistake, and that it shouldnt happen again. I kept seeing her out with her friends and we chatted from time to time but we each respected the boundaries. Now that I know she is pregnant with my child i am planning to take responsibility for it. I do not intend to marry her, I know it wont work because we have had many differences and problems in the past. I plan on supporting her financially as well as emotionally from here on. However, I still have not told my parents, neither has she. Im terrified of it, my parents are very old fashioned and they will be destroyed when I tell them. It worries me so much how they will react. I know this is a blog for moms, but here I am, a 23 year old guy who is going to have a baby with his ex girlfriend and who is going to take responsibility for his actions. How can I proceed to talk to my parents?

Celeste Maria - posted on 03/20/2010

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Well, well,well....everything was fine until the parent's stepped into the picture ...and now he did a turnaround....

Emotionally, no one can force anyone to take any TYPE o responsibility...but she being a minor and he is 18 (assuming this is legal age in your are)...I would go to the institution that will protect your daughter´s legal rights and the Baby´s

Give your daughter support ..the rejection now after his parent´s found out is an emotional down bomb......

No fight..No insults..WALK WITH DIGNITY.....He should be walking with his head ina bag...tomorrowgets here quickly...and the baby will be one day grown,..Never speak bad of Dad...the TRUTH ALWAYS WINS.....

Jana - posted on 03/20/2010

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Well, since the boy is 19 he is a legal adult. he will be forced to support the baby financially based on his income and the Child enforcement rules in your state. Did the parents just find out? If so it may still be a bit of a surprise. They may just need time. I agree he should go to school. It may mean less work time but it will be better for the baby in the long run. Support your daughter, she will need it.

Monique - posted on 03/17/2010

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Tell him he can still go to college and be a ffather,at least acknowledge the baby. I would send pics to them and maybe they will come around. I dont see how people can deny or have nothing to do with their blood relatives, especially a baby. It just shows their true character. The parents should be teaching him to be a man and take care of his responsiblity. His father didnt leave his mom,but he going to do it. THAT IS JUST SAD!

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Helena - posted on 02/23/2014

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I am pregnant with my husband baby, we have been separated for almost one year, but we see each other time to time. We were together for almost 6 years but his parents never liked me, and I will never understand their reasons... We both are 30 and he also has HDHD problrms, his mom always makes excuses or blame others for every wrong he made.
Now she knows I'm pregnant she helped him file the divorce (he isn't working , so doent have money) and they doenst want to do anything with my pregnancy, she invented I curse him to have sex with him and to get pregnant (unbelievably) also she says I'm crazy and.... Well! It is very hard for me to understand how moms can be like that with their sons. I live far away from.my parents and I learned how to survive independently since a young age... I read this histories about this kind of parents but with teenagers. My husband is 30 and his mom is ok he isn't taking responsibility for his baby. What do you think?

Jessica - posted on 02/16/2014

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@tracey spradley, I can relate. I just recent found out that my 16 yr old son got his g/f pregnant. Iam so heart broken and so Pist off. Because they knew exactly what was going to happened if they weren't careful. Just the thought of him being a father soon really really bothers me! And on top he is very unresponsible and doesn't like school. It's a shame that us parents (grand) will have to pay child support if the fathers are not working? I'm so disgusted.

Tina - posted on 09/14/2013

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I need your advice and help.....Is it possible for a girl to "just" found out she's 5 months pregnant and that it's normal for her not to realize she is because of an irregular period??? I thought the average of women knowing she must be pregnant is at 2 months (maybe 3) regardless of irregular period because of the weights gain, tender in beasts and the cravings??? She called my son last week and told him the baby is his's. DNA will need to be provided after the baby is born because we don't know for sure!!! They got together in the middle of March and broke up the first of May because she cheated on him with someone else.

Babs - posted on 07/10/2013

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my son was datiing a girl (24ish) in the navy and she decided she wanted a baby so he went along with it. They were in love, but she did a 360 on him, she was hateful, mean, block his emails, phone calls and even told him she would have him arrested if he came near here. three months later she did another 360, wanted to be friends only and raised the baby together, so like a grandmother to be I did the nursery and thought we were starting to build a relationship. Now another 360, doesn' want him around for the birth, not sure even in the childs life. I asked her a question if we were going to be allowed into the childs life and she said she felt threathen and ended the conversation. I think there is more going on with her mentally and emotionally and not sure what to do next

Susan - posted on 04/05/2013

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Parents are harsh,having a child does not ruin a boys life,may make him mature,may make his life harder and more challenging. That said, child support should be paid and it should be in line with what he earns.He seems like a nice boy with overbearing parents. Have you talked with him specifically. My next question for your daughter is Do u want him in your childs life,not because he is the father (my mistake which caused a lot of damage to my son with cancelled visits etc.) but because he is a good person and can commit to a long term connection. HTH

Shawnn - posted on 03/28/2013

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Heather: "Anyone under the age of 25 having kids is being selfish"...

REALLY????????????????????

Care to clarify that statement? Both of my sons were born before I was 30, one prior to my 25th birthday, and their father and I are still married, 25 years later.

So, again, care to clarify that?

People who sleep together (knowing that the common result of sex is pregnancy), create a life together, and then cannot pull their heads out of their asses are the ones who are selfish.

Parents like yourself who will advocate that your son should "fight his way out of it", should he be irresponsible enough to impregnate his girlfriend, rather than teaching him to be a responsible party from the start by using birth control, and in the event of a pregnancy, ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY FOR HIS CONSENSUAL ACTIONS.

Parents like yourself, advocating irresponsibility, are being selfish and irresponsible, IMHO. So, you claim to teach your son "keep it in your pants", but when he doesn't, you advocate for him reneging on the consensual agreement made by both parties when engaging in sexual activity. Maturity at it's finest.

Shawnn - posted on 03/28/2013

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To Angel: your advice is contradictory. If he signs away his parental rights, then she has no legal recourse. She CANNOT sue for paternity, because he rescinded his rights.

If he refuses to sign away his rights, THEN she can sue for paternity, support, and legal custody.

The rescinding of rights means that he has no financial, moral, or any other obligation to the child from that point forward. It also means that, if he wants a relationship on down the road, he will have to be the one to pay for the court proceedings to reinstate his rights.

Christina - posted on 03/28/2013

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If that was my son and he his g/f pregnant, he would be there all the way, Regardless if him and his g/f are still together or not, NO MATTER WHAT WHEN MY SON TURNS 19 , let me fix that regardless of what age he is he will know if you do use protection during intercourse then you are taking a greater risk if you are not ready.

Karen - posted on 03/14/2013

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he should still support the baby the baby is part of him and he needs to realize this and his parents as well,if he refuses bring him to court for child support it is your daughters and the babys right

Angel - posted on 03/12/2013

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If you can get him to sign a paper stating that he wants nothing to do with the child and will give up all parental rights, let him. Then sue for a paternity test, child support, and 100% of parental decision making and parenting time (custody). Then garnish his wages, it follows his SSN so he can't get away from it. And if he's signed that statement your daughter will likely win & he'll have no say in any decision about the child, ever.

Michelle - posted on 03/10/2013

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I don't agree with those parents at all!! Every man or women should take responsibility for bringing another human being in to this world. I also have a son who is 21 and in college. He was taught to respect women and to always do the right thing. He would definitely be helping raise a baby that he and his girlfriend brought into this world!!

Evelyn - posted on 03/05/2013

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Heather--That sounded harsh. Anyone under 25 having kids? Well that covers a lot of the country. We do not know all the vivid details of their case do we? We know what brief things were put here. And if a guy is willing to do the deed with the girl who is also willing, and a child is the product of said deed; the pair are both responsible for that child even if one of them does not want anything to do with that child. The child is not ruining this boy's life, he made the choice to have sex and the child is the end result. Did this baby ask to be born? NO! But however much protection or little was used, this girl and boy have a child coming into the world. It is his obligation to support this child no matter what unless he does go through the courts to have his rights terminated. Even then, he may still have to pay support to the child depending on the state he lives in. This girl did not choose to do this on her own. She chose this guy to sleep with and he chose her. They made this choice together. His parents, unfortunately, can not say yes or no to any matters as he is an adult by the age of 18. They can be there for him and that is all. The girl is 17 and therefore a minor still but having his child. She has just given up a lot of things to keep this baby and support it. So my question to you is this: If you had a son and he ended up in this situation; would you try to get him out of it or tell him he can go on with life and not worry about a baby he helped to create?

Vanessa - posted on 03/05/2013

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Congratulations to you and your family welcoming a new addition! I am sorry that the baby's father and his parents want nothing to do with the new baby. But, that is not something that needs to be worried about at this time. File the appropriate paperwork to ensure that he is made aware of his responsibilities and place limitations on his visitation should he change his mind. Like, if he is not current with child support, no visits. If he is living off his parents, place limitations on their visitations as well. Make sure that your attorneys are aware of everything that has been said and how you feel. If they want nothing to do with the baby, make sure that they have nothing to do with the baby. Make them work for it when they decide that maybe they were hasty and acted foolishly. But, in the meantime, enjoy the baby and show him/her that you can give them all the love they need!

Darcel - posted on 03/05/2013

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child support... he has a LEGAL responsibility to support the child.. If his parents are that foolish to think he can just move on and not acknowledge the baby show them otherwise... I would have a DNA test as well to prove that the child is his and he is responsible as well..

Charity - posted on 03/05/2013

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Lol, sorry. I found what the boyfriends family said very funny. All it takes is a dna test to prove if he is the father. If so, your daughter has him until her child turns 18. So, let what they said roll off your back and get a good lawyer. It sounds like your going to need one, since his parents are speaking for him.

Lucy - posted on 03/05/2013

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Why would you try to help your son get out of paying support for your grandchild?

Heather - posted on 03/05/2013

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Anyone having a child under the age of 25 is being selfish and irresponsible. People should teach their kids to keep it in their pants/or their legs shut! And if a girl wants to keep her baby and the boy doesn't, the boy shouldn't be forced to care for it. Same goes for the other way, if the boy wants it and the girl doesn't, pretty much boys are screwed.

I would help fund my sons attorney to fight it if that is what he wanted.

Lucy - posted on 03/05/2013

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Well, he and his parents can disavow any responsibility for the support of his child, but the law is very clear about parental support. Your daughter files a paternity suit and the court will order DNA testing if he disputes paternity. When the test comes back showing that he is the father, he will be ordered to pay child support.

LATONYA - posted on 03/05/2013

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I think that is a shame that the boy's parents is encouraging this. If they don't want to help financially fine take their asses to child support and then they will have no choice but to help financially. I have 3 sons and I would be pissed but there is no way that I wouldn't make them stand up to their responsibility. Good luck with everything.

Anginelle - posted on 03/05/2013

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There really are some ignorant people in this world. Do those parents really think that just because they tell their son to stay away from your daughter, that's the end of it? It takes two people to make a baby and it takes at least two to raise and care for that child. I can not imagine telling my son it's OK to run away from his resposibilities. Your daughter can expect no financial help? They think taking care of a baby will ruin his life? No...not paying his child support will ruin his life. Also, this "boy" is legally an adult. His parents lost their say so when he turned 18.

Nikki - posted on 03/05/2013

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Regardless if he is going off to University in the fall he was adult enough to have sex then he needs to take the responsibility and do his part as the baby's father. I can not believe that his parents would be like that. He will never learn to be responsible at that rate! My son is 18 and he has gotten his girlfriend pregnant and I have been on him to be responsible and making sure that he is prepared. This is not the future that we had planned however when things like this happen you have to change course a bit. If they do not want to assume responsibility then lean on the court to make him responsible.

Lisa - posted on 03/05/2013

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He got her pregnant. If he is not going to help I would sue for child support. I agree with the others. Terrible parents on his end telling him to forget about the baby and just go off to school.

Dana - posted on 03/05/2013

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I would need more information before commenting, but I will start off with this...

The boy got someone pregnant? Wouldn't a more shared responsibility title be "your son and his girlfriend/date/one night stand became pregnant?" Kinda makes me think that the girl is taking the victim stance, which drives me a bit crazy from the start.

My daughter is 20. When she and her boyfriend's relationship became more passionate, she asked me to help her get birth control, which she took diligently. She also made her boyfriend use a condom when they had sex. She did not want to be pregnant and made sure that she had all of her bases covered as well as she could (ourside of total abstinance, which works wonders as well).

I have told my son not to ever believe that a girl was "taking care of things". He carries condoms so as to not VICTIMIZE a girl who, heaven forbid, never really wanted to have sex with him anyway, but agreed because she didn't have the balls to say no.

Amy - posted on 03/05/2013

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This boy is not a boy he is an adult and I am disgusted that his parents have reacted this way. If it were one of my sons they would alter their lives accordingly. This doesnt mean he can not go to school but it does mean he would be working to support this child and the mother through her pregnancy. It would also mean that he would be a father and take time to physically be there also. I would never make a child seem like some THING that can be thrown away and forgotten about. SHAME ON THEM.....

Barbara - posted on 03/03/2013

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I'm not sure why this post keeps appearing on people's feed when it is 2 years old. I would be interested in an update to find out what the baby daddy did. Was he held responsible? Is he contributing financially, emotionally? What about his parents, the grandparents. Are they still in the picture?

Ally - posted on 03/03/2013

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I have been in your spot. My daughter was pregnant before she graduated high school. They baby daddy and his mother didn't want anything to do with it. We waited until my grand daughter was born and had a DNA test done. I told the baby daddy if he did the test on his own, I would pay for half of the test. The test was only $150 through our state. If he refused then I told him that I would take him to court and have it done. He did it on his own and he is a good dad now. He doesn't make a lot of money, but we didn't care. My daughter is now a Private First Class in the Navy and he moved to Jacksonville to be with my grand daughter. She is now two. Don't make his parents scare you. She can get state assistance and the state will help with getting support. He may never be a daddy, but he should still support baby. Good Luck

Kristie - posted on 03/03/2013

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I have a 17 year old son and I would make him take responsibility or I would help out. I would ask for DNA first but then I would do everything I could. He would be out if he refused to help at all. That boy will be a loser all his life because his parents won't make him man up. He has to pay child support. Just take him to court. He will go to jail if he doesn't. What a disgrace.

Kathy - posted on 03/03/2013

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I completely agree with you. I have two boys and they will both be responsible if one should get a girl pregnant. Take it to the state and make him pay child support!

Tibby - posted on 03/02/2013

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His parents need to step up and take charge of their son did. You and your daughter shouldnt have to deal with all of this by yourselves. He needs to own up and face what he did. As for your daughter just be there for her when she needs you.

Julia - posted on 02/27/2013

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I've seen plenty of posts like this one, and everyone always says, of course my son would be responsible! I have 3 boys, ages 13 - 20, and if any one of them got a girl pregnant she'd instantly become part of our family. I can't say I'd provide financial support, because we're barely getting along as it is. But if she needed to she and the baby could come live with us, because that's how you treat family....
Unfortunately, in your situation, as in many others, the boy's family does not respond this way for whatever reason. No sensible, good hearted person can know what they're thinking, so let's give it a rest....
I had kids when I was pretty young, and so a number of my friends were teenage moms. The thing that concerns me the most is how many of them tried to get child support, and were threatened by the father's family that they would take her to court to take the baby away from her. Living in fear of losing her baby is the last thing a young woman needs when she is trying to learn how to be a good mom. Many of these girls were not receiving support from anyone, even their own parents, and some were so desperate for love and help that they got involved in bad relationships. I always try to protect my kids, sometimes to a fault, and if my daughter got pregnant I would take care of her with or without the father's help, just as if I got pregnant by accident....
From what you've said, I think the best course of action may be to get them to sign paperwork to relinquish all rights to the baby. She won't get child support, but realistically she would only get that once he starts working anyway, and by then she'll have everything figured out. It won't be easy for anyone involved, but hey, we all treasure our memories of when we were young and poor, right?

Linda - posted on 02/26/2013

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You may have to request a DNA test and take him to court to get him to support the baby if he or his parents are refusing to help support the baby or deny the baby's paternity. My son did father a baby at age 19. The girl was 19 also. They attempted to make a life together, we took them in and gave them all a home even before we knew his girlfriend was expecting. Her parents had asked her to leave because of problems in her household. When I knew there was a child involved I knew that it was meant to be. Both my husband and I attempted to help them as much as we could. We both decided that until they could find stable employment and a place suitable for them to raise a child, they should remain with us. It did change both lives and ours but that is no reason to deny a child. the old saying"when you play you pay" should be taken into account here. What were her plans prior to becoming pregnant? they both are having this child, not just one of them. Maybe you can speak with his parents. in some states he is over age and could be charged with statutory rape too! Maybe its time to remind his parents of that fact too! That would not look good on a college application either. My prayers go out to you. this is a life long commitment for your daughter and for you too! Is she ready to be a parent? my husband and I now have custody of our grandchild. W love him very much but his parents marriage didn't make it and we wanted him to have a stable home so he remained with us where he knew the place he started to grow up as home. He sees both of them when they can visit, They both love him, They were just too young to start a family together. God blessed my husband and i with a gift of love.

Christina - posted on 02/26/2013

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I think sometimes avoiding responsibility works out better in the long run. It will be difficult doing it on her own but hopefully she has the support of her family because truly it takes a villiage. One day when Mr. Right comes along he can adopt the baby and there won't be any hoops to jump through. I think it's better to relinquish paternal rights before the child can be used as a pawn to control and resent. I get that he did this but I think for your daughters sake if he sucks now he'll suck even more later. She can do it she just needs lot and lots of emotional support.

Michelle - posted on 02/26/2013

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Wow! It seems like respectable parents would encourage/demand that their son face, live with and rise up to the consequences of his actions! They sound archaic and probably just blame the girl.

You may not be able to force him to care or step up as a father, but you can certainly go to court and enforce the very least of his obligation...child support.

Charlene - posted on 02/26/2013

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I have a 17 year old son and I just had a great talk(have in the past, but now he has a girlfriend) with him and told him I will buy him condoms, np but if he where to have a baby don't think your all good and have no responsibilities, because if your old enough to "play" than your old enough to pay. I would do as much as I could to help out but the baby is really the parents responsibility. If I where you I would take him to court because she did not get herself pregnant, that boy needs to take responsibility for his actions! I was 19 when I had my son and my husband( boyfriend at the time) took his responsibility at heart and now we are going to have our 2nd baby due in June. I can't wait and my son will know what it is like to have a baby in the house 24/7 hoping that will be a great deterrent to him and make him think twice about having a baby anytime soon(although he completely doesn't want a baby anytime soon) Good luck with your daughter and new grand baby. I hope he and his parents grow up and do what is right!

Brenda - posted on 02/25/2013

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Regardless if the father or his family want to be a part of this baby's life, he will still need to pay child support. You should contact your local courthouse and get the paperwork started. Not fun or easy emotionally, but if these kids want to make adult decsons, they need to know they have adult consequenses. I am not intending to sound rude or uncaring. I had my oldest child when I just turned 16, his father isn't a part of his life, but he does need to pay child support. Hope this helps.

Ronnae - posted on 02/25/2013

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You can always take him to court because he is still that child's father. Just because his parents says he want support the child doesn't mean the court system will say he doesn't have too. It will involve a long process and they will probably say they want a paternity test but you will have to persevere if you want to make sure this kid takes responsibility for his own actions. I think his parents forgot this isn't one person's fault but two and that includes their precious son.

Jinnie - posted on 02/25/2013

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If they won't respond to reasonable requests to talk & make financial agreements, take him to court for court ordered child support. He is 50% responsible for this situation; your daughter & he BOTH made the mistake & they BOTH must do their share to support this little life they brought into the world. I mean, it doesn't sound like your daughter is asking him to take custody of the baby, so he can still go to university. But he has a financial obligation whether he likes it or not. Life is hard sometimes- he needs to grow up now

Sara - posted on 02/25/2013

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My son was a young father and he pays child support and loves his son...this young man needs to step up he helped make the child he should help take care of the child

Anthony Mc - posted on 02/25/2013

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Your daughters boyfriend has to be responsibell for the upbringing of that child.If his parents have any conscious within them they should chip in ,any way the can. Any child can make the world a better place given toe proper love and effection.this blog by a concerened parent.

Phyllis - posted on 02/24/2013

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It's a really sad situation your family is in but do Not! Let him get off with taking care of his responsibility, let the courts handle it. They will order a DNA test, proven its his child, they will order some type of support. He can find a way to pay or his family will pay it for him to keep him out of jail. There are too many baby makers out here not doing the right thing for the innocent child. He wasn't thinking about his future when he helped create that child...

Shakeal - posted on 02/24/2013

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My son got a girl pregnant when he was 18 & though that is something I would not want for him, I taught him that he must take care of his responsibilities & suffer the consequences of his actions. We are dealing with the opposite the girl & her family won't let my son or any of us be in the childs life. Its sad because we have enough lost children in this world who are looking for Love in all the wrong places & trying to find their identies due partially to not having or knowing either 1 parent or both parents, along with extended family members. We need to know who & where we came from. The babies are innocent & did not ask to be conceived or to be brought into this world, yet they are the ones who will be hurt & suffer because of this vicious cycle. I too am a product of not having my bio parents, but I know who they are. I had bits & pieces of them for very small amount of time in my life & I am still trying to accept it & find my way through life without them. IT IS VERY DIFFICULT! If I didnt have God in my life I would have lost my mind. I am sure of it! So when your grandchild get here you teach it to KNOW GOD, MERCY, GRACE, FORGIVENESS, TO PRAY & TO NOT REPEAT THE CYCLE. If the dad ever decide to come around don't deny him that opportunity. I pray for your family & God bless the child.

Alicia - posted on 02/24/2013

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So sorry, but this is the same game. Mom, contact your local childsupport office, request a DNA test and file him for child support. You never have to speak to the father of the baby or his family. If he and his family want to behave like a dead-beat-dad then they should get treated as such. Go get your daughter the support she deserves. He should'nt get away free. It takes two to create a life and take care of that life

Terra - posted on 02/24/2013

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The father is legally equally responsible for the baby. I have boys also, and no WAY would I allow them to be a dead beat dad. It takes 2!

THE most important thing now is that baby. And that does include a healthy relationship with it's dad AND grandparents. I cannot stress enough how important it is that you and your daughter take the high road and NOT bad talk that side no matter what. Also, you shouldn't have them sign over rights. For one thing, it won't matter in the end. But most importantly, when the baby grows to be a teen/adult, he or she will be mad at you. Sounds crazy, but it's true. It will not be in your favor to cut them off.

Financially he is obligated though. If after the baby is born and he sees it, he may decide to be there... it's hard for men to feel that connection until it's "real". If he still doesn't want to help, I suggest going to court and not only getting child support, but make him spend time with the baby via visitation. A father's role in a childs life is more important than most people understand.

Gwen - posted on 02/24/2013

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They don't have the right to prevent him from supporting his child. He's an adult. Take him to court. Once he's through with college & gets a great paying job, take him back to court & get more help. I grew up with a single mom who didn't fight for child support. We had nothing. A crappy delapodated mobile home, crappy car, medicaid, food stamps, etc. I warned my husband before I married him that if he ever put me in that situation, I'd take him for everything I could get. Now I'm a single mom with a nice home, nice car, & my kids have everything they need. Whatever I can't provide is covered by my child support. Take care of that baby!

Joann - posted on 02/24/2013

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His parents should be ashamed of how they are acting. they should have taught him how to prevent the pregnancy in the first place ! who better than a Nurse and a Teacher! but then they might just have seen this too many times on both ends. I have learned Never say "not my kid" because sure enough it will be.

Sandra - posted on 02/24/2013

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And hopefully the Dad & his parents have had a change of heart, by now. It is what it is & is not the fault of the child. :o)

Joann - posted on 02/24/2013

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Oh MY I never even looked at the date. that is too funny. (the fact that it has been two yrs ) I am sure that the mom and grandma are way to busy keeping up with two year old to post. it is a great age enjoy !!

Sandra - posted on 02/24/2013

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I noticed date of Original Post. The Baby should be over 2 years old by now. Nice to have an update to see how things turned out!

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