im a mother of a 16 yr daughter, who has just starting to the lgbt center for youth. anyone know what esle i can do to help her.i have no problem with her being gay. i just need some outlets for her

Betty - posted on 09/12/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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my daughter is very smart, does great in school, but i'm very worried that at 16 yrs old and not having friends is not normal..

her doc sent her to the center to see if that will get her to open up. how do i help her. all she wants to do is read and listen to music.. she is really a great child. i have no problems with her not comming home, or being out late. she i just be grateful that she doesnt want to have friends

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Betty - posted on 05/15/2016

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Hi katie.
My daughter and I have come a,long way thru girlfriends and now boyfriends. We have a very open and honest relationship. .I don't judge her
Because of the things I went thru at a young age she is 20 now ...
And she still had the same two friends from high school.. her friends say they are jealous of our relationship.
I just know that in today's world's a lot of parents dis own thier kids because of their sexuality
I just always tell my daughter know that no matter what goes,on in the world when she needs me I'm always their .and if any one hurts her they would have to put my under the jail.. that's my baby , my heart and I will always be there for her

Katie - posted on 05/14/2016

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Hello Betty. I've just found this forum looking today for people going through similar experience to me. It is now 2016 - so you're further down the line than me! Firstly, may I say how proud you must be of your relationship with your daughter that she can comfortably talk to you about her sexuality. Secondly, your action about going to a youth centre of like-minded people was my way of thinking and an hour ago I've just shot off an email to one in our area. They have sessions for nervous newbies and under 18's so my 15 year old son would be fine here. The comments you make about your daughter however I'd say are similar to my son and many other teens. They do just like screen time or book time but I'm being away of any isolation or indeed friends at school being cruel but he seems happy at home with his own company as he's dealing with his own feelings.

Betty - posted on 09/14/2012

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Hi Ail Jane- no she doesnt have any friends, she does have twitter and facebook, but she doesnt talk to anyone, all she talkes about is Michael Jackson her idol. (lol). I started letting her to go the lgbt center for youth, i'm hoping that will get her to open up and see that their are kids out there going thru some of the same things she is when they come out to friends and family. And thank u she is a very good girl, she gives me no troublr at all.

Ail - posted on 09/13/2012

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Does she really not have any friends, or does she just not see them outside of school? High school kids are so busy with their workload, that they seem to just want to "veg" when they get the chance. Does she text or communicate via on-line tools, like e-mail or facebook? Does she connect with others if she has a question about a class? Does she do any activities including physical sports, clubs at school or art classes, outside the home? If you answer no to all the above, I would have her choose at least one after school activity, to get her moving and hopefully, talking. If she does any 1 of the above, I wouldn't worry and I wouldn't nag. It will only increase her anxiety and annoyance. If she isn't miserable and lonely, you shouldn't make her feel bad for enjoying down time. Not everyone is a social butterfly, and that's ok. She sounds like a great kid, enjoy her!

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