Is there anyone else who's 13 yo daughter that hasnt started her monthly?

Lorrie - posted on 02/28/2010 ( 63 moms have responded )

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My daughter turned 13 in Dec of 2009 and she has yet to start her monthly..is there anyone else that has experienced this? how long was it before she started? She has already developed everything but hasnt started the cycle yet..just curious on how common this is for her to not have started yet..I started when I was 12..

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Penny Hardy - posted on 03/05/2010

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Popular question I see! I was 17yr. old before I started my cycle; Sr. yr. in high school! I was dancing many hours a day, so very active, but everyone is different. I have never had a problem since then and had 8 children besides!! :)

Gabriela - posted on 03/03/2010

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I started 5 months before I turned 15 and my daughter too. I have other four sisters, and we all started at very different ages, from 11 to 14 1/2 years old. Don't worry too much!

Gina - posted on 10/26/2011

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Every woman is different in this area. My odlest daughter started when she was 13 and my youngest daugghter started at the age of 11. Then, I had a freind who didn't get hers until she was 17.

Nakia - posted on 03/05/2010

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Hello Lorrie. I have a 15 year old daughter and she did not start her cycle until she was 14-1/2. I was a little worried at first, so I spoke to her doctor. Her doctor said that it was perfectly normal. My mother started when she was 8 and I started when I was 10. Everyone's body is different and experieces different things at different times. Don't worry! My youngest began developing breasts at 6 months. Go figure! LOL

Teri - posted on 03/03/2010

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One of my daughters started when she was 16. Body weight, activity, diet, stress--lots of things can influence this. However, she may just be one who starts late. Don't worry too much.

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Cathy - posted on 09/25/2012

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my daughter is in 6th grade and hasn't either all her friends have not worried yet

Gina - posted on 10/26/2011

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Every woman is different in this area. My odlest daughter started when she was 13 and my youngest daugghter started at the age of 11. Then, I had a freind who didn't get hers until she was 17.

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My daughter started hers a month before she turned 14.I started at 11.I was getting worried too but the dr said not to worried unless they dont get it by 16.

Syreeta - posted on 09/29/2011

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Yes my daughter will be 14 in Nov she hasn't started yet. She did get it once about 2 yrs ago. She said that she told it not to come back so that's why she hasn't gotten it. Lol But i think its about to come now because she's been getting cramps and headaches the past couple of days.

Syreeta - posted on 09/29/2011

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Yes my daughter will be 14 in Nov she hasn't started yet. She did get it once about 2 yrs ago. She said that she told it not to come back so that's why she hasn't gotten it. Lol But i think its about to come now because she's been getting cramps and headaches the past couple of days.

Jurnee - posted on 08/31/2011

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Everyones different, I started at 14 as did my oldest and then it was only sporadically for a yr. My youngest started at 13,and was always regular

User - posted on 08/31/2011

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What do you mean when you say body weight and activity level can 'hinder' the process? My daughter is 13 and hasn't seen anything yet. She is very active, going to the gym, swimming, etc. She is tall and has started developing breasts and has hair but she is also very lightweight. Does this mean that it will be longer before she starts her periods?

CHRISTIE - posted on 04/04/2010

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I started mine at 14...so its natural and every person is different. My 12 year old just started hers..and she is hating life..So I say just let her be and it will come when its ready. Besides..who likes a period anyway?..No woman I have ever met wants to have one..lol

Sharyn - posted on 03/29/2010

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My daughter is 12 1/2 and hasn't started yet either. She is very athletic and I hear that that slows it down...Is your daugher athletic? if so, maybe that's the reason...It's no fun having the "attitude" without the cycle eh?

Susie - posted on 03/28/2010

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I myself started when I was 9. Of my two daughters one started at 14; the other one is almost 15 and nothing yet but attitude.I wouldn't worry about it unless she has pain or some other symptom.

Victoria - posted on 03/28/2010

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MY DAUGHTER WHO IS NOW SIXTEEN GOT HER MONTHLY TWO MONTHS AFTER SHE TURNED FOURTEEN. SO I WOULDNT BE TOO WORRIED ABOUT HER NOT GETTING HER MONTHLY YET. I GRADUATED WITH A YOUNG LADY WHO DIDNT HERS TO SHE WAS EIGHTEEN. SIT BACK AND ENJOY HER BEING YOUR BABY.

Anne - posted on 03/27/2010

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I was a late bloomer, I didn't get mine until I was almost 16! It has to do with hormone levels and there is a strong correlation to percentage of body fat and hormones. I was 90 lbs, no body fat and was 4'11" until I was 17. I know this must be really hard for her, feeling like EVERYBODY else got theirs! Whats wrong with me? I felt the same way. You may want to take her to the doctor and express your concerns. Have her thyroid checked (T4, TSH, T3, and Thyroid Anitbody, also have hormone levels checked) Tell her to hang in there.

Geraldine - posted on 03/20/2010

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they can start all the way up to age 18. I didnt start until I was 16. My daughter is 15 and has not started yet. I have an appointment the end of the month to take her to a Pediatric Endocrinologist to have her checked and tested to be sure everything is OK and that her hormones are OK. My hormones were all screwy when I was her age so she may have the same. Otherwise she is healthy and developed and acting like a typical teenages. Let us know how you make out.

Maira - posted on 03/20/2010

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hey lorrie, just relax, let it take the time! think that while ot coming less problems... and also she still growing. take care not to stress her with that. mine is almost 13 now and is in the same situation.

Denise - posted on 03/18/2010

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I would not begin to worry until she is 16. My Daughter was nearly 15 when she started. I was concerned because like you I started at 12. If she is physically maturing it is likely to happen soon. Also look for a discharge, if the happens it will be in the next few months...Don't rush it, that is when the crankiest times of your life will begin! LOL

Katrina - posted on 03/12/2010

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my daughters hasnt started shes 13 1/2,but god help me if she dont start soon as her hormones are off the scale at the moment.
Ive been to doctors about her mood swings and its been put down to hormones.If she had started she would be put on the pill just to even them out,but as she hasnt they cannot help
shes a very very sporty small framed girl and i know this is delaying the process,i was 15 and mine was delayed due to sport
I just want her to start as these outbursts may become less or in some sort of pattern

Tracey - posted on 03/12/2010

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I was 11 and my sister 15, my friend 10 we are different.My grandmother was 16 she had 8 babies by the time she was 45.
But if you are really concerned take her in for a routine check up at the doctors. But don't panic

Lindella - posted on 03/11/2010

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I started at 9 almost ten my daughter was 11 and 4months old. All girls are different. Some girls don't start untill they are 16.... I really wouldn't worry yet.

Sarah - posted on 03/11/2010

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Everyone starts at different times I was 9 when I started, but my roommate didn't start til she was 17. She will start when her body is ready!

Rose - posted on 03/10/2010

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My daughter got her period in her 13th year. Her friends also developed theirs somewhere within their 13th year. If she's just turned 13, give it time. It will come.

Dawn - posted on 03/09/2010

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I am 36 and was just diagnosed with germ cell ovarian cancer. I am considered late in life for this strain. I usually stikes between 2 and 18. One of the signs is from what I had read in younger girls with this cancer is that they don't start there periods at the usual age. Don't get freaked out, but I would take her to a GYN and have her checked. The only way it is found is by ultrasound and a blood test CA125. Just a thought from personal research.

Penny - posted on 03/09/2010

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Mine will be 14 in may and still hasn't had hers
yet either . My doctor told us some start later
than others . She is fully developed as well
except for her cycle .

I am sure it will be over the summer though
she has been very moody . Might be sooner

Good luck

Norma - posted on 03/09/2010

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I have 3 daughter, and my last one still not have her monthly, and is curious because the other one have their one at 11 and the other at 9 the doctor said is complectly normal

Jane - posted on 03/09/2010

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Hi, If your daughter is really active that could be the reason. Don't rush this The PMS my 16 year old has drives me crazy. For her tell her it will come and just enjoy the freedom. Hope this helps. If you think there might be something wrong take her to the Dr. or ask your Gyno.

Janine - posted on 03/09/2010

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My Daughter got her period 2 months before turning 14 in 2008. The longer it stayed away the better! She has had her period for 2 years now and is nowhere near being regular at every 4 weeks. This is not uncommon and once your daughter starts it is normal to be irregular for up to 3 years (was told by our doctor). Don't worry the time will come.......along with those terrible hormones!

Cheryl - posted on 03/08/2010

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I didn't start my period until i was 14 and my dd started her's at 14 as well. Body weight plays a big part (more than age) so if your daughter is really thin she might start older. As long as she is developing normally I wouldn't worry but if she hasn't started by 17 or 18 then she should probably be checked out. If she gets yearly physicals with her pediatrician you might mention it to him.

Angela - posted on 03/07/2010

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i was 14 before i started mine and i ended having endometriosis i don't know if this had anything to do with me being a later bloomer or just a coincidence hope this helped a little

Mary - posted on 03/06/2010

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I had a sister that startedd hers at the age of 11, but I myself didn't start until I was 14, and I had developed everything else also. I wouldn't worry about it.

Sonya - posted on 03/06/2010

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i have a 14 yr old daughter and was wondering the same question. I also have a 15 yr old and she started her monthly when she was 11 so i guess left her live without the curse as long as she can

Deana - posted on 03/06/2010

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My daughter turned 13 in Aug 09, and finally started her period in January 2010. She developed everywhere else and was convinced there was something wrong with her, but then she finally started. I wouldn't worry it now, but if she hasn't started by 15 or 16 then get worried. That's according to my gynecologist...I was asking my Dr. to my daughter's mind at ease.

Shirley - posted on 03/06/2010

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My daughter started when she was 3 months into her 15th yr.but I was the same timing.Each of us run on our own clocks.

Melanie - posted on 03/06/2010

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my friends daughter didnt start til she was 15. my sister started when she was 9. seem a tad late but i wouldnt worry about it. and certainly dont voice any concerns to her. im sure shes already worried enough.

Kim - posted on 03/06/2010

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My daughter didnt start until 2 days before she turned 15. She has developed normally and is still doing fine so don't worry to much it will happen when its suppossed to.

Joy - posted on 03/06/2010

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My daughter started at about 14 1/2 and before she started she would have all the signs of starting pain and cramps. Believe me it will come and then the pms will drive you up a wall. LOL When my daughter who is now 15 starts her dad wants to leave home.....Spend this time getting her ready for what is to come and how it will be on her emotions and the pain probably... Have her keep her purse prepared incase she should start when you aren't around and let her know if she should start at school go to the school nurse and have them call you. As prepared as they get they need their mom on this day and you'll want to be with her. Take her to the store and buy her Midol, pads etc and she will be prepard. IF THAT IS POSSIBLE

Virginia - posted on 03/05/2010

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When my neices were younger they didnt start till they were 15. They were in Gymnastices though....is she really active?

Kate - posted on 03/05/2010

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Talk to an OBGYN, it will give you piece of mind. It could be something as simple as her activity level if she is very active. Just make sure she is prepared for it. I started earlier than my mom thought and I didn't know what it was and I was at school. I was embarrassed, unprepared and the school nurse had to help me.

Ruth - posted on 03/05/2010

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My daughter didn't start having periods until she was 14. She is very athletic and it is not uncommon for her to not have one at all during track and volleyball seasons. Her doc assures me that she is perfectly healthy.

Carrie - posted on 03/05/2010

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my daughter will be 14 this august and hasn't started either and ask our dr. he said some don't start til as late as 17 my daughter is very athletic and was a premie so i'm assuming that has to do with it also.

Marilyn - posted on 03/05/2010

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My daughter got her first period last August then one in September and not another one until last month. Hopefully this will be the beginning of one every month. I would check it out if your daughter hasn't started hers by the time she is 16. I read up on the subject and it is different for every girl. I will be finished with mine for good in a few years and I can't wait. I feel sorry for my daughter as I remember the pain I was in every month and she experienced that for the first time last month and even came home from school because of it. I guess that is the price we pay for being women.

Susan - posted on 03/05/2010

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Hi don't worry about it I was 15 1/2 before I started mine and but my daughter was 11 1/2 so everybody is different I wouldn't worry yet give it a while yet.

Cheraki - posted on 03/04/2010

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I have a 13 year old who has not started yet.. Everyone is different... I know this girl who was 15 and still hadn't started her mom took her to the dr and they told her not to worry unless her daughter is 16 and still not started then it could be something to worry about.... I wouldn't worry.. Tell her to count her blessings that she doesn't have that monthly visitor yet...lol.. I know my oldest two who are 15 & 14 they started into the 6th grade.. One is a 9th grader and one is an 8th grader.. They wanted it so bad.. Now they wish it hadn't ever came...

Gail - posted on 03/04/2010

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Both of my daughters started during the summer of their thirteenth year, after developing early! I asked their doctor and he said i shouldn't worry unless the hadn't start by time they where 15. If she is athletic and thin she may start later then larger less active friends.

Jane - posted on 03/04/2010

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My daughter was 16 when she got her first period. While she had developed her breasts and started to curve out, she had a very low body fat percentage which is why it took her so long to start. She was THRILLED that it took this long! :) I was almost 13 before I started but I was chunkier then my daughter. Each girl is different...some can start as early as 9 where in cases like my daughter, obviously 16 is normal as well. My daughter didn't have anything wrong with her at all....she was just skinny (LOL)!

If you're really concerned, talk to your pediatrician or family doctor. No need for a GYN at this age. However, I wouldn't be concerned.

Joanne - posted on 03/04/2010

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I was a late bloomer myself 13 or 14. Couldn't wait for it now I wish we never had to have it. Please tell her it will happen when her body is ready. If she is very active in sports sometimes that can prolong it. I really wouldn't worry too much. If it still hasn't happened by the time she's 15, then I would be concerned, but it also never huts to ask you family doctor.

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