Job Corp...does it help?

Tiffany - posted on 01/21/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have a 16 year old son, who is otherwise a good kid, but he is not motivated enough and his grades are slipping, he is defiant, mouths off and questions authority. Should I send him to Job Corp?

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Evelyn - posted on 01/23/2014

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Your post did not have that extra information in it about how he was and what he did do already. Now that is established, maybe it would be good for him, but he would be more responsible for himself at that point and would he really be ready to do so?

Tiffany - posted on 01/22/2014

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Whooping a child is not always the answer first off.

He was diagnosed with ADD when he was young but he's not medicated and did fine up until high school. He fought to get his grades up in 9th grade and did well.

He already keeps his room clean for the most part, has been doing his own laundry for the past 3 years if not longer.

I am not using job corps as punishment but I think the structured environment and the job training will help him to stay on track and give him something to be motivated about. He does his school work but I think he gets overwhelmed and just would rather not do.

My son is a good kid for the most part, and no I am not in denial. He has always been quiet. He doesn't hang out in the streets, doesn't really like hanging out at all, no gangs, drugs or anything on that level.

Tiffany - posted on 01/22/2014

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Whooping a child isn't always the answer first off

Evelyn, thank you. To answer your questions, he already keeps his room clean, has been doing his laundry for 3 years or longer, doesn't get into trouble at school, no drugs of any kind, no gangs, doesn't look the part either and has always been quiet and still is for the most part.

Im using Job Corps as help for him not as a punishment. I think the more structured environment would help him to become more motivated. Part of the lack of motivation is due to ADD he was fine up until high school because he hasn't been medicated for years but high school is harder on him. He is athletic and the teachers don't have anything bad to say except he won't do his work a lot of times.

Just from talking to him this morning about job corps he came straight home, as told, with a solution to pull up his algebra grade. He sometimes needs a bigger push than I can give. His father is there in spurts and it doesn't really help him but I think it affects his attitude because his father isn't really present much. He still pushes through, not to mention he is in a house full of women two of which are a 6 year old sister and 11 year old sister.

Tiffany - posted on 01/22/2014

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Whipping a child isn't always the answer first off.

My son is not that bad off. He isn't in any gangs, doesn't roam or hang in the streets, no drugs, no smoking, no alcohol. He doesn't get into trouble at school either. His self motivation isn't very high. For the most part he's normal from what other parents tell me about their 16 year old sons/daughters.

Evelyn, he already keeps his room pretty clean, always has even as a small child because that is what he was taught. Even if he has to clean the kitchen he knows what I expect and does it for the most part. He already does his own laundry, has been for a few years now. He helps with mine and his sisters as well. I'm wanting to use job corps as a way to better him and get him back on track. He is athletic, very smart and very capable. One thing I believe is that he needs to go back on meds for ADD. He hasn't been on them for years but was fine up until high school. He works hard to keep up his grades but I think he gets overwhelmed and doesn't know how to express that other than to just avoid. Ultimately he has always been a quiet child, still is but when he's told to do something he has to question you like what you say makes no sense.

I think he would like job corps actually because I just talked to him this morning about it and he came home from school with a solution to pull up one of his grades and what he thought was his problem. I just think job corps will give him ultimate structure to go into adulthood.

Evelyn - posted on 01/22/2014

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Well, in Job Corp he would be expected to adhear to rules and curfews as well as doing things on a schedule. He would have to keep his room neat, go to school and make good grades and apply himself, he would be getting training and again he would have to apply himself to make it, he would be expected to be responsible for things and if he went against authority....not sure what would happen. Do you think he is responsible enough to go away from home like that? Would he be able to do his own laundry and housekeeping duties? Would he be responsible enough to do his school work, maintain grades, and apply himself to everything? Because you said he lacked motivation to do anything. That is why I question Job Corp as a choice.

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