kids want to meet there bio dad

Kristin - posted on 08/13/2012

My real dad left my mom when I was a year old and she was pregnant with my brother. When I was 16 i found my real dad and met him and i tried to have a relationship with him, unfortunately he didnt want to have a relationship with either me or my brother. I think all kids are curious to meet their other parent and I think it is a good thing to do as they can make a decision without you involved. I wouldnt let them go for the night or anything take it slow see how things go their fathers may not ebven want to meet them but at least you can say you tried. I think it may be difficult for you as I am assuming all your children have different fathers and each father may havfe a different idea. IMO i think you are crazy to contemplate having another child especially since you already have 5 kids with various men and who knows if the man you have now is going to stick around. Also your oldest is already 18 and the possibiltiy of you being a grandmother in the next few years in definately there but thats my opinion i have 3 kids and thats enough for me i want to be able to enjoy my middle years with no children plus its a strain allready top be putting 3 kids through colllege when they are old enough

Kristin - posted on 08/13/2012

My real dad left my mom when I was a year old and she was pregnant with my brother. When I was 16 i found my real dad and met him and i tried to have a relationship with him, unfortunately he didnt want to have a relationship with either me or my brother. I think all kids are curious to meet their other parent and I think it is a good thing to do as they can make a decision without you involved. I wouldnt let them go for the night or anything take it slow see how things go their fathers may not ebven want to meet them but at least you can say you tried. I think it may be difficult for you as I am assuming all your children have different fathers and each father may havfe a different idea. IMO i think you are crazy to contemplate having another child especially since you already have 5 kids with various men and who knows if the man you have now is going to stick around. Also your oldest is already 18 and the possibiltiy of you being a grandmother in the next few years in definately there but thats my opinion i have 3 kids and thats enough for me i want to be able to enjoy my middle years with no children plus its a strain allready top be putting 3 kids through colllege when they are old enough

Peggyann - posted on 08/13/2012

What you could do is take them to see their fathers, but if you don't feel comfortable leaving your children alone with their fathers, then you could just, stay with them during the contact, when you feel that it is time to leave, then do so, either taking the children with you or laveing them for a little longer then picking them up later. But remember, though everything may turn out all right, it may not end up well, but at least your children would know who their fathers are. Thats what my Mother did with my older brother, Martin, that didn't exactly end well, but ah well.