Late teenager

Valerie - posted on 08/27/2012

Have you found out what he's doing until all hours of the night? I have twin 16 year old girls, soon to be 17, and this type of behavior started earlier for them.. they are now involved in the court system and drug rehab.. it they are out partying until all hours, it may be more than curfew to look at.. don't turn your back on the other things that are going on besides missing curfew.... just sayin'...

Chaya - posted on 08/26/2012

When my kid starts skipping school, I go to school with her until her grades are up, she knows this, I did it with my son, he hated it at the time, but he's a lawyer now. It kept him on the straight and narrow

Tara - posted on 08/24/2012

At his age - he should be making choices for himself. Maybe let HIM tell you what time he will be home, instead of having a curfew. He's old enough to start stretching his wings. I have my 17 year old tell me when he'll be home (within reason) and then he's to call or text me if it changes. Taking things away from my son never works either. But letting him have more control over his own schedule has helped. He's more apt to do what he says he's going to do - than do what I say he's going to do!

Alexandra - posted on 08/23/2012

I think you have to take him to school, pick him up to school, even stay at school watching to see if he is really going to school. At this age, this is not acceptable. And I am afraid if you don't do anything now, it will not be pretty in the future.

Deprive your child from everything nice and cool, from computers, to tv, to phone, everything. Also stop doing anything for him, don't wash his clothes, don't cook, nothing. He needs to start facing reality.

Roohi - posted on 08/23/2012

Unfortunately none of the grounding, threatening works for me. My almost 17 year old has no cell phone, no internet in the house but he chooses to be out until 3 am - 4 am in the morning with kids he just met over the summer who I do not know. Nothing has worked!!! I lock the door and he seems to be able to sneak in through the window. I tried everything!!!!! All I can say for myself is I cannot wait to kick him out next year when he will be faced with reality. He hasnt done well in school all year. Has changed 4 schools because he cant seem to keep away from bad crowds who wind up attacking and robbing him for his things. Now I have him in community college and paying $250 a credit for a 24 credit program that will give him his diploma and credits towards college. And I dont even know if he will go to classes!!!!! Good luck to all of you guys out there. I have done everything.. :(

Lisa - posted on 08/22/2012

Oh plus they had more chores to do while they were grounded, they loved that. Ha

Lisa - posted on 08/22/2012

When my teen is late, for every 30 minutes that is one week without privileges. No communication with friends in any way outside of school. It cured my daughters.

Linda - posted on 08/22/2012

Thanks appreciate your suggestion. Certainly will give that a try.

Chaya - posted on 08/22/2012

Maybe you should just not allow him to go out until he can learn to respect your rules. I have to keep my sisters clothes locked up to keep her from leaving for weeks on end, she has to give me her clothes from the day when she comes home, she gets another change in the morning. She's not allowed to use the washer or dryer. This is tough love, not malice